An Excerpt from The 100/0 Principle
by Al Ritter
What is the most effective way to create and sustain great relationships with others? It's The 100/0 Principle: You take full responsibility (the 100) for the relationship, expecting nothing (the 0) in return.
Implementing The 100/0 Principle is not natural for most of us. It takes real commitment to the relationship and a good dose of self-discipline to think, act and give 100 percent.
The 100/0 Principle applies to those people in your life where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally. Each of us must determine the relationships to which this principle should apply. For most of us, it applies to work associates, customers, suppliers, family and friends.
•STEP 1 - Determine what you can do to make the relationship work...then do it. Demonstrate respect and kindness to the other person, whether he/she deserves it or not.
•STEP 2 - Do not expect anything in return. Zero, zip, nada.
•STEP 3 - Do not allow anything the other person says or does (no matter how annoying!) to affect you. In other words, don't take the bait.
•STEP 4 - Be persistent with your graciousness and kindness. Often we give up too soon, especially when others don't respond in kind. Remember to expect nothing in return.
At times (usually few), the relationship can remain challenging, even toxic, despite your 100 percent commitment and self-discipline. When this occurs, you need to avoid being the "Knower" and shift to being the "Learner."
Avoid Knower statements/ thoughts like "that won't work," "I'm right, you are wrong," "I know it and you don't," "I'll teach you," "that's just the way it is," "I need to tell you what I know," etc.
Instead use Learner statements/thoughts like "Let me find out what is going on and try to understand the situation," "I could be wrong," "I wonder if there is anything of value here," "I wonder if..." etc. In other words, as a Learner, be curious!
Principle Paradox
This may strike you as strange, but here's the paradox: When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well. Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the individuals involved, their teams, their organizations and their families.
Monday, May 30, 2011
Saturday, May 28, 2011
226 - Inner peace is impossible without patience (Dr Brian Weiss)
Inner peace is impossible without patience. Wisdom requires patience.
Spiritual growth implies the mastery of patience. Patience allows the unfolding of destiny to proceed at its unhurried pace.
When we are impatient, we create misery for ourselves and for others.
We rush to rash judgement and acts without considering the consequences of what we do! Our choices are false and often incorrect, and we are liable to pay a steep price.
- Dr Brian Weiss -
Spiritual growth implies the mastery of patience. Patience allows the unfolding of destiny to proceed at its unhurried pace.
When we are impatient, we create misery for ourselves and for others.
We rush to rash judgement and acts without considering the consequences of what we do! Our choices are false and often incorrect, and we are liable to pay a steep price.
- Dr Brian Weiss -
Thursday, May 26, 2011
225 - My Thoughts Today
“只要我们的内心充满真爱，感恩与宽恕，我们绝对不会受到任何不善之灵困擾！真爱之光芒发出的力量是无边无际的！
若我们受到不善之灵困擾，这是因为我们的内在与上天的联系太弱或断了！
修灵就是要常常记得我是谁？要肯定自己的身份！我们的灵是我们真正的身份，那是‘真我’！而我们的肉身是‘假我’。但是往往我们弄错了，把它颠倒了！”
- George Lau -
若我们受到不善之灵困擾，这是因为我们的内在与上天的联系太弱或断了！
修灵就是要常常记得我是谁？要肯定自己的身份！我们的灵是我们真正的身份，那是‘真我’！而我们的肉身是‘假我’。但是往往我们弄错了，把它颠倒了！”
- George Lau -
Tuesday, May 24, 2011
224 - Numerology (life numbers) by Kylie Floate
Hi George,
29/11 Co-operation and Balance; Integrity and Wisdom and the ultimate life purpose, highly concentrated double energy of Confidence and Communication.
The ultimate life purpose will be achieved in 2 phases usually after the first life lesson is mastered. The last phase of Confidence and communication may never be achieved as there will already be a high level of success from achieving the 9 energy, but the heights that can be achieved if a leap of faith is taken is in the realm of celebrity status.
Starting with childhood and teenage years. They prefer smaller intimate friendships with only a few good friends, as much as they yearn for popularity among their peers they can find it difficult to get along with others. They can be quite studious and obsessive about hobbies or interests. They really don't enjoy confrontation, but find themselves 'rubbing people the wrong way' (i hope you understand that expression, it just means that you can irritate people without meaning to).
Although they are very intelligent they are reluctant to ask questions in class, often nod that they understand when actually they don't. When start work they are the ones that work through their lunch break, they work unsupervised behind a desk or computer, in taxis or trucks, they like to be left alone so they can get on with in. Often Family and social lives can suffer, they can seem quite selfish to others as they only seem to care about themselves. They can be quite underhanded particularly at work where the make themselves look good by making others look bad. They can be quite sneaky and deceptive, particularly when their hard work goes unnoticed.
They must learn to listen to others, not just waiting for their turn to speak. When balance is achieved by sleeping enough, eating correctly, family, friends, hobbies, spirituality they find they can get along with others well and actually enjoy being with others.
The widen their friendship circle and start spend less time at home with a book or in front of the TV or with work stuff and start accepting dinner invitations and other social outlets. They start to function - others respond really well to this new attitude. Often a big life event brings about this change in attitude. A death of a loved one, a loss of a job, a marriage breakdown, the birth of a child - something big that make you wants to change your ways.
This energy bring in the 9 energy and the 1st phase of Confidence and Communication this usually leads to a big promotion, working in management, training (like you do), it is a huge achievement! Usually doesn't happen until late 30's or late 40's. This is a very contented time of life, but still there isn't a feeling a being totally satisfied - you want more!! Even though you and others are very proud of your accomplishments, something feels like it is missing.
Even though you have become a great person that people can look up to, reliable, responsible, true to your word, inspirational - a true leader, there is still a greater calling for you! This is the phase where you can make up for past issue with children or partners. Having children and marriage late in life is far better as having them earlier means that mistake were made and you people you loved very much were let down. Fortunately relationships can end happily, even if they started out difficult.
There will come a time when you feel the need to speak out, it is an energy of rallying the people and possibly starting a revolution!! It is having the courage to walk away from a very successful career to focus on something that you are very passionate about. It can be a spiritual calling or a political issue, medical belief, children rights - whatever it is its big and they people you are trying to influence and inspire will respond.
As long as it comes from the heart, with wisdom and integrity the people will listen and respond. You really have the numerology to start a riot! Even if its done in a more passive way, having the courage to follow your life purpose will have thousands of people flocking to you that you will profoundly affect and inspire. You are destined for greatness George! Very exciting numbers!
I hope this has been insightful - sorry for adding up your numbers wrong in the first place! I think this suits you much better!
Love and Light
Kylie xx
29/11 Co-operation and Balance; Integrity and Wisdom and the ultimate life purpose, highly concentrated double energy of Confidence and Communication.
The ultimate life purpose will be achieved in 2 phases usually after the first life lesson is mastered. The last phase of Confidence and communication may never be achieved as there will already be a high level of success from achieving the 9 energy, but the heights that can be achieved if a leap of faith is taken is in the realm of celebrity status.
Starting with childhood and teenage years. They prefer smaller intimate friendships with only a few good friends, as much as they yearn for popularity among their peers they can find it difficult to get along with others. They can be quite studious and obsessive about hobbies or interests. They really don't enjoy confrontation, but find themselves 'rubbing people the wrong way' (i hope you understand that expression, it just means that you can irritate people without meaning to).
Although they are very intelligent they are reluctant to ask questions in class, often nod that they understand when actually they don't. When start work they are the ones that work through their lunch break, they work unsupervised behind a desk or computer, in taxis or trucks, they like to be left alone so they can get on with in. Often Family and social lives can suffer, they can seem quite selfish to others as they only seem to care about themselves. They can be quite underhanded particularly at work where the make themselves look good by making others look bad. They can be quite sneaky and deceptive, particularly when their hard work goes unnoticed.
They must learn to listen to others, not just waiting for their turn to speak. When balance is achieved by sleeping enough, eating correctly, family, friends, hobbies, spirituality they find they can get along with others well and actually enjoy being with others.
The widen their friendship circle and start spend less time at home with a book or in front of the TV or with work stuff and start accepting dinner invitations and other social outlets. They start to function - others respond really well to this new attitude. Often a big life event brings about this change in attitude. A death of a loved one, a loss of a job, a marriage breakdown, the birth of a child - something big that make you wants to change your ways.
This energy bring in the 9 energy and the 1st phase of Confidence and Communication this usually leads to a big promotion, working in management, training (like you do), it is a huge achievement! Usually doesn't happen until late 30's or late 40's. This is a very contented time of life, but still there isn't a feeling a being totally satisfied - you want more!! Even though you and others are very proud of your accomplishments, something feels like it is missing.
Even though you have become a great person that people can look up to, reliable, responsible, true to your word, inspirational - a true leader, there is still a greater calling for you! This is the phase where you can make up for past issue with children or partners. Having children and marriage late in life is far better as having them earlier means that mistake were made and you people you loved very much were let down. Fortunately relationships can end happily, even if they started out difficult.
There will come a time when you feel the need to speak out, it is an energy of rallying the people and possibly starting a revolution!! It is having the courage to walk away from a very successful career to focus on something that you are very passionate about. It can be a spiritual calling or a political issue, medical belief, children rights - whatever it is its big and they people you are trying to influence and inspire will respond.
As long as it comes from the heart, with wisdom and integrity the people will listen and respond. You really have the numerology to start a riot! Even if its done in a more passive way, having the courage to follow your life purpose will have thousands of people flocking to you that you will profoundly affect and inspire. You are destined for greatness George! Very exciting numbers!
I hope this has been insightful - sorry for adding up your numbers wrong in the first place! I think this suits you much better!
Love and Light
Kylie xx
Friday, May 20, 2011
223 - Through you, others heal and discover the truth within themselves - Paul Ferrini
Do your part, whatever it is. As you step into your life purpose and play your unique role, your gifts and talents, your wisdom and strength are placed in service. Through you, others heal and discover the truth within themselves.
Having become the bringer of love to your own experience, the universe supports you in stepping forward as a guide for others. You hold the torch of unconditional love with confidence, pointing the way and lighting the path for others.
Your will and the great will of the universal creator become one and the same. As healing comes to your heart, heaven comes to earth, and peace comes to the world in which you live.
- Paul Ferrini -
Having become the bringer of love to your own experience, the universe supports you in stepping forward as a guide for others. You hold the torch of unconditional love with confidence, pointing the way and lighting the path for others.
Your will and the great will of the universal creator become one and the same. As healing comes to your heart, heaven comes to earth, and peace comes to the world in which you live.
- Paul Ferrini -
222 - Wisdom of George Carlin
This is a master piece. If you have not read it take the time to read it now. If you have read it take time to read it again!
GEORGE CARLIN (He recently died)
Isn't it amazing that George Carlin - comedian of the 70's and 80's - could write something so very eloquent...and so very appropriate.
A Message by George Carlin:
The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.
We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.
We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice.. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.
These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...
Remember: spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.
Remember: say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.
Remember: to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.
Remember: to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.
Remember: to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.
Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.
AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
by George Carlin
GEORGE CARLIN (He recently died)
Isn't it amazing that George Carlin - comedian of the 70's and 80's - could write something so very eloquent...and so very appropriate.
A Message by George Carlin:
The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways , but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.
We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.
We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.
We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.
We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice.. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.
These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...
Remember: spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.
Remember: say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.
Remember: to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.
Remember: to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.
Remember: to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.
Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.
AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:
Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.
by George Carlin
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