He who has no Christmas in his heart will never find it under a tree.
- Roy L. Smith
Saturday, December 25, 2010
Monday, December 20, 2010
205 - Spiritual Growth - Paul Ferrini
Spiritual Growth
Your spiritual growth does not happen when you are peaceful and content. It happens when you get angry, sad, greedy, jealous, critical, impatient.
It happens when you lose your "spiritual mask" and realize that you are not superman or -woman,
but just an ordinary human being learning how to love.
-Paul Ferrini -
Your spiritual growth does not happen when you are peaceful and content. It happens when you get angry, sad, greedy, jealous, critical, impatient.
It happens when you lose your "spiritual mask" and realize that you are not superman or -woman,
but just an ordinary human being learning how to love.
-Paul Ferrini -
Saturday, December 4, 2010
204 - Felling Gratitude
“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.”
~William Arthur Ward -
~William Arthur Ward -
Friday, December 3, 2010
203 - Five Crucial Elements on Wealth Distribution
1. You cannot legislate the poor into prosperity by legislating the wealthy out of prosperity.
2. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving.
3. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else.
4. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and when the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is the beginning of the end of any nation.
5. You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it.
2. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving.
3. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else.
4. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and when the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is the beginning of the end of any nation.
5. You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it.
202 - Your life is your spiritual path -Paul Ferrini-
Your Spiritual Path
Your life is your spiritual path.
Don’t be quick to abandon it for promises of bigger and better experiences.
You are getting exactly the experiences you need to grow.
If your growth seems too slow or uneventful for you, it is because you have not fully embraced the situations and relationships at hand.
- Paul Ferrini -
Your life is your spiritual path.
Don’t be quick to abandon it for promises of bigger and better experiences.
You are getting exactly the experiences you need to grow.
If your growth seems too slow or uneventful for you, it is because you have not fully embraced the situations and relationships at hand.
- Paul Ferrini -
201 - Beautiful way to live and keep young - 10 top reasons why we must smile
1. Smiling Makes Us Attractive
We are drawn to people who smile. There is an attraction factor. We want to know a smiling person and figure out what is so good. Frowns, scowls and grimaces all push people away -- but a smile draws them in.
2. Smiling Changes Our Mood
Next time you are feeling down, try putting on a smile. There's a good chance you mood will change for the better. Smiling can trick the body into helping you change your mood.
3. Smiling Is Contagious
When someone is smiling they lighten up the room, change the moods of others, and make things happier. A smiling person brings happiness with them. Smile a lot and you will draw people to you.
4. Smiling Relieves Stress
Stress can really show up on our faces. Smiling helps to prevent us from looking tired, worn down, and overwhelmed. When you are stressed, take time to put on a smile. The stress should be reduced and you'll be better able to take action.
5. Smiling Boosts Your Immune System
Smiling helps the immune system to work better. When you smile, immune function improves possibly because you are more relaxed. Prevent the flu and colds by smiling.
6. Smiling Lowers Your Blood Pressure
When you smile, there is a measurable reduction in your blood pressure. Give it a try if you have a blood pressure monitor at home. Sit for a few minutes, take a reading. Then smile for a minute and take another reading while still smiling. Do you notice a difference?
7. Smiling Releases Endorphins, Natural Pain Killers and Serotonin
Studies have shown that smiling releases endorphins, natural pain killers, and serotonin. Together these three make us feel good. Smiling is a natural drug.
8. Smiling Lifts the Face and Makes You Look Younger
The muscles we use to smile lift the face, making a person appear younger. Don't go for a face lift, just try smiling your way through the day -- you'll look younger and feel better.
9. Smiling Makes You Seem Successful
Smiling people appear more confident, are more likely to be promoted, and more likely to be approached. Put on a smile at meetings and appointments and people will react to you differently.
10. Smiling Helps You Stay Positive
Try this test: Smile. Now try to think of something negative without losing the smile. It's hard. When we smile our body is sending the rest of us a message that "Life is Good!" Stay away from depression, stress and worry by smiling.
We are drawn to people who smile. There is an attraction factor. We want to know a smiling person and figure out what is so good. Frowns, scowls and grimaces all push people away -- but a smile draws them in.
2. Smiling Changes Our Mood
Next time you are feeling down, try putting on a smile. There's a good chance you mood will change for the better. Smiling can trick the body into helping you change your mood.
3. Smiling Is Contagious
When someone is smiling they lighten up the room, change the moods of others, and make things happier. A smiling person brings happiness with them. Smile a lot and you will draw people to you.
4. Smiling Relieves Stress
Stress can really show up on our faces. Smiling helps to prevent us from looking tired, worn down, and overwhelmed. When you are stressed, take time to put on a smile. The stress should be reduced and you'll be better able to take action.
5. Smiling Boosts Your Immune System
Smiling helps the immune system to work better. When you smile, immune function improves possibly because you are more relaxed. Prevent the flu and colds by smiling.
6. Smiling Lowers Your Blood Pressure
When you smile, there is a measurable reduction in your blood pressure. Give it a try if you have a blood pressure monitor at home. Sit for a few minutes, take a reading. Then smile for a minute and take another reading while still smiling. Do you notice a difference?
7. Smiling Releases Endorphins, Natural Pain Killers and Serotonin
Studies have shown that smiling releases endorphins, natural pain killers, and serotonin. Together these three make us feel good. Smiling is a natural drug.
8. Smiling Lifts the Face and Makes You Look Younger
The muscles we use to smile lift the face, making a person appear younger. Don't go for a face lift, just try smiling your way through the day -- you'll look younger and feel better.
9. Smiling Makes You Seem Successful
Smiling people appear more confident, are more likely to be promoted, and more likely to be approached. Put on a smile at meetings and appointments and people will react to you differently.
10. Smiling Helps You Stay Positive
Try this test: Smile. Now try to think of something negative without losing the smile. It's hard. When we smile our body is sending the rest of us a message that "Life is Good!" Stay away from depression, stress and worry by smiling.
Thursday, December 2, 2010
200 - Sharing of thoughts: Awakening from our afflicted mind
The changes in our feelings and emotions are triggered by our afflictions (mind with great suffering and pain), which resemble endless knots that tie us up, making us feel imprisoned. The suffering and pain we experience in our daily life do not originate from others or outside, but from our own mind. Thoughts and belief create our own realities!
When we interact with others, there may be repeated occasions of severe misunderstanding which can cause painful friction or conflicts. When this happens, we must remember to see it as a ready opportunity for self-realization, a chance to be aware that we have forgotten LOVE & COMPASSION within us.
We always allow ego to be our master to control/rule our daily life, bringing us tremendous miseries and pains! Indeed, we are insane to become slave of our ego!
There is always something very useful we can learn from people whom we encounter. Whenever we encounter people, we should remind ourselves that they are our guides/mentors showing us our strengths and weaknesses. This will help us instill a strong sense of respect towards others.
And, no matter how people misunderstand us or how severely people judge/condemn us, so long as we have a grateful attitude and forgiving mind, we will be able to face our perceived obstacles calmly and not be affected by them. Adopting this approach as we deal with events or people in our daily life, we will certainly feel much more at peace and at ease, and not be as easily disturbed.
Ultimately, afflictions and inner knots will gradually disappear from our mind. When we can see and believe that it is ONLY the mountains in our mind, then that is the state of awakening!
- George Lau -
When we interact with others, there may be repeated occasions of severe misunderstanding which can cause painful friction or conflicts. When this happens, we must remember to see it as a ready opportunity for self-realization, a chance to be aware that we have forgotten LOVE & COMPASSION within us.
We always allow ego to be our master to control/rule our daily life, bringing us tremendous miseries and pains! Indeed, we are insane to become slave of our ego!
There is always something very useful we can learn from people whom we encounter. Whenever we encounter people, we should remind ourselves that they are our guides/mentors showing us our strengths and weaknesses. This will help us instill a strong sense of respect towards others.
And, no matter how people misunderstand us or how severely people judge/condemn us, so long as we have a grateful attitude and forgiving mind, we will be able to face our perceived obstacles calmly and not be affected by them. Adopting this approach as we deal with events or people in our daily life, we will certainly feel much more at peace and at ease, and not be as easily disturbed.
Ultimately, afflictions and inner knots will gradually disappear from our mind. When we can see and believe that it is ONLY the mountains in our mind, then that is the state of awakening!
- George Lau -
Sunday, November 28, 2010
199 - Communication is a Sacred Act - 溝通是一神聖的行為 (By Paul Ferrini)
溝通是一神聖的行為
聆聽是需要精力專注的，你需具備對他人的接收能力。
當我們不在接收狀態時，我們不該故作聆聽狀。
我們需要讓對方知道，自己當前不在接收狀態中；
反之，當別人無法聆聽時，我們也不該試圖與他/她分享任何事情。
溝通不會自行發生的。它需要說者與聽者同時臨在當下。
當雙方都能全然臨在時，溝通成了神聖的行為
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Communication is a Sacred Act
Listening takes energy and attention. It takes receptivity to the other person. When we aren’t receptive, we should not try to listen. We should let the other person know that we are not in a receptive state. Conversely, when the other person cannot offer this attention to us, we shouldn’t try to share with him or her.
Communication does not happen by itself. It requires both the speaker and the listener to be present. When both are present fully, it is a sacred act.
作者 / Paul Ferrini
聆聽是需要精力專注的，你需具備對他人的接收能力。
當我們不在接收狀態時，我們不該故作聆聽狀。
我們需要讓對方知道，自己當前不在接收狀態中；
反之，當別人無法聆聽時，我們也不該試圖與他/她分享任何事情。
溝通不會自行發生的。它需要說者與聽者同時臨在當下。
當雙方都能全然臨在時，溝通成了神聖的行為
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Communication is a Sacred Act
Listening takes energy and attention. It takes receptivity to the other person. When we aren’t receptive, we should not try to listen. We should let the other person know that we are not in a receptive state. Conversely, when the other person cannot offer this attention to us, we shouldn’t try to share with him or her.
Communication does not happen by itself. It requires both the speaker and the listener to be present. When both are present fully, it is a sacred act.
作者 / Paul Ferrini
Sunday, November 14, 2010
198 - 台灣暢銷書作家黃桐：放下也是一種選擇
台灣暢銷書作家黃桐：放下也是一種選擇
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人生好像是舞臺，好演員知道人生有起有落，演技不好的演員則總愛自尋煩惱……針對現代人的心理困境，台灣暢銷書作家黃桐在新書中用80則清新小寓言，將人從迷惘中喚醒過來，勸告人們面對現實，放下負擔。本書文字淺顯易懂，故事短小精悍，更妙的是後面的評論，讓人豁然開朗。
把憂鬱留在沙灘上
有一個富翁，他可以用錢買到任何東西，但他卻感覺自己愈來愈不快樂。他相信自己得了憂鬱症，尋遍名醫，但空虛的心情，卻仍然日以繼夜地折磨著他。某天，他聽說偏遠的海濱住著一個很厲害的醫生，決定前去看診。
醫生聽了他的問題，告訴他：“我有個很好的處方，保證有效！”接著遞給富商三個紙包。
醫生叮嚀：“這三個紙包中各有一帖藥，你一天服用一帖就好。不過，切記必須在沙灘上服用，才會見效。”富翁半信半疑，告別醫生後馬上走到沙灘上，打開第一個紙包。但裏面什麼都沒有，只寫了幾個字：在沙灘上躺三十分鐘。富翁覺得自己被耍了，但心想死馬當活馬醫吧，便依照指示，躺在沙灘上。一開始，他心裏一直想著自己有多不快樂，但漸漸的，他開始聽到海浪的聲音、發現藍天中的雲朵正隨著涼風變幻……他就這麼一直躺著，直到夕陽西下。
第二天，富翁又來到沙灘，打開紙包。裏面還是什麼都沒有，只寫著：在沙灘找出五條擱淺的小魚，把它們扔回海裏。富翁照做了，不知道為什麼，當他看到奄奄一息的小魚，一回到海裏馬上生龍活虎，他突然覺得心情好像好一些了，於是扔了一條又一條。
第三天，他打開最後一個紙包，寫著：把你的煩惱都寫在沙灘上。富翁找了一根小樹枝，在沙灘不斷地寫著：和妻子的關係愈來愈冷淡、孩子不聽話、上個月談生意不順利……他寫得有些累了，直起腰來，看著自己一連串的煩惱。
突然，一陣大浪打上來，又很快就退去了。富翁驚訝地發現，剛剛被他寫滿煩惱的沙地，又回復平整，彷彿什麼事都沒發生。
心的體驗
憂鬱彷彿已經成了現代的文明病，我們常會感到悶悶不樂，其實能搬開壓在心口石頭的，只有自己。
故事中的第一帖藥，就是休息。名醫要富翁躺在沙灘上，不只希望他的身體放鬆，更期待他千頭萬緒的心思得到休憩。感覺憂鬱上門，何妨放下一切到郊外走走？只是靜靜地看看風景。
第二帖藥是付出。不管你幫助的對像是人，還是動物，自己都能獲得更多快樂。只要付出一點點時間，就能換回充實的心靈，不是非常划算嗎？
第三帖藥是時間。你會說放下何其容易？那就交給時間。時間就好像撫平沙灘的海浪，再深的傷也會隨著時間淡忘。
其實，壓力都是自找的.
有名男子認為自己的壓力很大，每天都很不快樂，簡直快要得憂鬱症了。他決定到山上拜訪一名據說很有智慧的禪師。經過曲折的重重山徑，男子好不容易才來到這座位於深山中的茅屋，但卻門窗緊閉，禪師顯然不在家。男子焦急地在門口徘徊，不久後，禪師便挑著扁擔回來了。
男子急忙叫住禪師：“大師，您終於回來了！我是特別來向您請教的！”
“你來找我有什麼事嗎？”禪師問。
男子急急忙忙開始訴苦：“禪師，我覺得自己的壓力太大，就快吃不消了！求求您告訴我擺脫壓力、找回快樂的方法吧!” 禪師只是將肩上的扁擔遞給他，說：“我剛剛下山買了一些青菜、蘿蔔，可以請你幫我挑一下扁擔嗎？”
“沒問題。”男子接過扁擔，順勢扛在肩上。
“應該不會很重吧？”禪師問。
“不會不會，一點兒也不重。”男子心想，只不過是幾棵蔬菜罷了，怎麼會重呢？接著，禪師拿出竹掃帚，開始掃地，足足掃了三十分鐘。
男子就這麼扛著扁擔，站在一旁，開始覺得肩膀有點兒酸了。禪師掃完地，回房拿出花剪，開始修整庭院中的花朵，三十分鐘又過去了。男子剛才還覺得扁擔很輕，現在卻感覺宛如有千斤重一般。
禪師終於整理完庭院，不料卻又慢條斯理拿出茶具，準備泡茶……男子再也忍不住了，開口問禪師：“師父，這扁擔好重啊！我快扛不動了！”
“那你為什麼不放下來呢？”禪師笑著說。
男子聽到禪師這句話，恍然大悟。原來，擺脫壓力的秘訣，就是放下啊！
摘自《我們都忘了，放下也是一種選擇2》 黃桐 著 安徽教育出版社2009年6月
中國網 china.com.cn 時間： 2009-11-11 發表評論>>
人生好像是舞臺，好演員知道人生有起有落，演技不好的演員則總愛自尋煩惱……針對現代人的心理困境，台灣暢銷書作家黃桐在新書中用80則清新小寓言，將人從迷惘中喚醒過來，勸告人們面對現實，放下負擔。本書文字淺顯易懂，故事短小精悍，更妙的是後面的評論，讓人豁然開朗。
把憂鬱留在沙灘上
有一個富翁，他可以用錢買到任何東西，但他卻感覺自己愈來愈不快樂。他相信自己得了憂鬱症，尋遍名醫，但空虛的心情，卻仍然日以繼夜地折磨著他。某天，他聽說偏遠的海濱住著一個很厲害的醫生，決定前去看診。
醫生聽了他的問題，告訴他：“我有個很好的處方，保證有效！”接著遞給富商三個紙包。
醫生叮嚀：“這三個紙包中各有一帖藥，你一天服用一帖就好。不過，切記必須在沙灘上服用，才會見效。”富翁半信半疑，告別醫生後馬上走到沙灘上，打開第一個紙包。但裏面什麼都沒有，只寫了幾個字：在沙灘上躺三十分鐘。富翁覺得自己被耍了，但心想死馬當活馬醫吧，便依照指示，躺在沙灘上。一開始，他心裏一直想著自己有多不快樂，但漸漸的，他開始聽到海浪的聲音、發現藍天中的雲朵正隨著涼風變幻……他就這麼一直躺著，直到夕陽西下。
第二天，富翁又來到沙灘，打開紙包。裏面還是什麼都沒有，只寫著：在沙灘找出五條擱淺的小魚，把它們扔回海裏。富翁照做了，不知道為什麼，當他看到奄奄一息的小魚，一回到海裏馬上生龍活虎，他突然覺得心情好像好一些了，於是扔了一條又一條。
第三天，他打開最後一個紙包，寫著：把你的煩惱都寫在沙灘上。富翁找了一根小樹枝，在沙灘不斷地寫著：和妻子的關係愈來愈冷淡、孩子不聽話、上個月談生意不順利……他寫得有些累了，直起腰來，看著自己一連串的煩惱。
突然，一陣大浪打上來，又很快就退去了。富翁驚訝地發現，剛剛被他寫滿煩惱的沙地，又回復平整，彷彿什麼事都沒發生。
心的體驗
憂鬱彷彿已經成了現代的文明病，我們常會感到悶悶不樂，其實能搬開壓在心口石頭的，只有自己。
故事中的第一帖藥，就是休息。名醫要富翁躺在沙灘上，不只希望他的身體放鬆，更期待他千頭萬緒的心思得到休憩。感覺憂鬱上門，何妨放下一切到郊外走走？只是靜靜地看看風景。
第二帖藥是付出。不管你幫助的對像是人，還是動物，自己都能獲得更多快樂。只要付出一點點時間，就能換回充實的心靈，不是非常划算嗎？
第三帖藥是時間。你會說放下何其容易？那就交給時間。時間就好像撫平沙灘的海浪，再深的傷也會隨著時間淡忘。
其實，壓力都是自找的.
有名男子認為自己的壓力很大，每天都很不快樂，簡直快要得憂鬱症了。他決定到山上拜訪一名據說很有智慧的禪師。經過曲折的重重山徑，男子好不容易才來到這座位於深山中的茅屋，但卻門窗緊閉，禪師顯然不在家。男子焦急地在門口徘徊，不久後，禪師便挑著扁擔回來了。
男子急忙叫住禪師：“大師，您終於回來了！我是特別來向您請教的！”
“你來找我有什麼事嗎？”禪師問。
男子急急忙忙開始訴苦：“禪師，我覺得自己的壓力太大，就快吃不消了！求求您告訴我擺脫壓力、找回快樂的方法吧!” 禪師只是將肩上的扁擔遞給他，說：“我剛剛下山買了一些青菜、蘿蔔，可以請你幫我挑一下扁擔嗎？”
“沒問題。”男子接過扁擔，順勢扛在肩上。
“應該不會很重吧？”禪師問。
“不會不會，一點兒也不重。”男子心想，只不過是幾棵蔬菜罷了，怎麼會重呢？接著，禪師拿出竹掃帚，開始掃地，足足掃了三十分鐘。
男子就這麼扛著扁擔，站在一旁，開始覺得肩膀有點兒酸了。禪師掃完地，回房拿出花剪，開始修整庭院中的花朵，三十分鐘又過去了。男子剛才還覺得扁擔很輕，現在卻感覺宛如有千斤重一般。
禪師終於整理完庭院，不料卻又慢條斯理拿出茶具，準備泡茶……男子再也忍不住了，開口問禪師：“師父，這扁擔好重啊！我快扛不動了！”
“那你為什麼不放下來呢？”禪師笑著說。
男子聽到禪師這句話，恍然大悟。原來，擺脫壓力的秘訣，就是放下啊！
摘自《我們都忘了，放下也是一種選擇2》 黃桐 著 安徽教育出版社2009年6月
Wednesday, November 3, 2010
197 - Beauty's Way - by Paul Ferrini
Beauty's way is simple and elegant.
Everything happens in its own time and place.
The river may overflow its banks or it may shrink to a trickle.
Seasons of drought and high water are inevitable.
But sooner or later, the river will reach the sea.
The outcome is certain.
No matter how far we stray from our essential nature, we will return to it.
Our destiny is to become who we already are.
- by Paul Ferrini -
Everything happens in its own time and place.
The river may overflow its banks or it may shrink to a trickle.
Seasons of drought and high water are inevitable.
But sooner or later, the river will reach the sea.
The outcome is certain.
No matter how far we stray from our essential nature, we will return to it.
Our destiny is to become who we already are.
- by Paul Ferrini -
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
196 - Sharing with family members
Hello dearest family members,
A very good day to you. Trust all is well.
Over the years of searching, researching and a series of personal experiences, I have come to some in-depth comprehension regarding the nature of our mind and I wish to briefly share with you here.
'Greed Will Only Bring Poverty'
This is a natural law. It is universally true in the long run. You need to personally experience it to understand it.
Assuming you put a coin on the desk. The top of the coin represents Greed. The bottom side of the coin will be naturally represented by Poverty. It is impossible that the bottom side of the coin will come out to be Abundance or Wealth.
Giving and Receiving Are One and The Same
The concept of giving and receiving is not well understood by most people. The practice of giving and receiving is a powerful value which should be clearly understood. However, in today's world people rarely have clear idea about this. Hence many people carry all sorts of misconceptions about its real meaning and effects.
Briefly, Giving and Receiving Are One and The Same. As you receive so shall you give/share, the natural effect is that you will attract abundance into your life. On the other hand, if a person only receives without giving/sharing, then poverty will persist in the long run.
Much love and have a blessed day.
Dad
A very good day to you. Trust all is well.
Over the years of searching, researching and a series of personal experiences, I have come to some in-depth comprehension regarding the nature of our mind and I wish to briefly share with you here.
'Greed Will Only Bring Poverty'
This is a natural law. It is universally true in the long run. You need to personally experience it to understand it.
Assuming you put a coin on the desk. The top of the coin represents Greed. The bottom side of the coin will be naturally represented by Poverty. It is impossible that the bottom side of the coin will come out to be Abundance or Wealth.
Giving and Receiving Are One and The Same
The concept of giving and receiving is not well understood by most people. The practice of giving and receiving is a powerful value which should be clearly understood. However, in today's world people rarely have clear idea about this. Hence many people carry all sorts of misconceptions about its real meaning and effects.
Briefly, Giving and Receiving Are One and The Same. As you receive so shall you give/share, the natural effect is that you will attract abundance into your life. On the other hand, if a person only receives without giving/sharing, then poverty will persist in the long run.
Much love and have a blessed day.
Dad
Tuesday, October 26, 2010
195 - Union, Not Separation - Paul Ferrini
Union, Not Separation
We do not live in isolation, but in relationship with other human beings.
We need to expand our frame of reference to include others, not because we need to sacrifice our good, but because we know our greatest good will be found in union, not in separation.
- Paul Ferrini -
We do not live in isolation, but in relationship with other human beings.
We need to expand our frame of reference to include others, not because we need to sacrifice our good, but because we know our greatest good will be found in union, not in separation.
- Paul Ferrini -
Monday, October 25, 2010
194 - You Are You
You are strong... when you take your grief and teach it to smile.
You are brave... when you overcome your fear and help others to do the same.
You are happy... when you see a flower and are thankful for the blessing.
You are loving... when your own pain does not blind you to the pain of others.
You are wise... when you know the limits of your wisdom.
You are true... when you admit there are times you fool yourself.
You are alive... when tomorrow’s hope means more to you than yesterday's mistake.
You are growing... when you know what you are but not what you will become.
You are free... when you are in control of yourself and do not wish to control others.
You are honorable... when you find your honor is to honor others.
You are generous... when you can take as sweetly as you can give.
You are humble... when you do not know how humble you are.
You are thoughtful... when you see me just as I am and treat me just as you are.
You are merciful... when you forgive in others the faults you condemn in yourself.
You are rich... when you never need more than what you have.
You are you... when you are at peace with who you are not
You are brave... when you overcome your fear and help others to do the same.
You are happy... when you see a flower and are thankful for the blessing.
You are loving... when your own pain does not blind you to the pain of others.
You are wise... when you know the limits of your wisdom.
You are true... when you admit there are times you fool yourself.
You are alive... when tomorrow’s hope means more to you than yesterday's mistake.
You are growing... when you know what you are but not what you will become.
You are free... when you are in control of yourself and do not wish to control others.
You are honorable... when you find your honor is to honor others.
You are generous... when you can take as sweetly as you can give.
You are humble... when you do not know how humble you are.
You are thoughtful... when you see me just as I am and treat me just as you are.
You are merciful... when you forgive in others the faults you condemn in yourself.
You are rich... when you never need more than what you have.
You are you... when you are at peace with who you are not
Friday, October 15, 2010
193 - 中国佛学66句震撼世界的禅语
中国佛学66句震撼世界的禅语
1.人之所以痛苦，在于追求错误的东西。
2.如果你不给自己烦恼，别人也永远不可能给你烦恼。因为你自己的内心，你放不下。
3.你永远要感谢给你逆境的众生。
4.你永远要宽恕众生，不论他有多坏，甚至他伤害过你，你一定要放下，才能得到真正的快乐。
5.当你快乐时，你要想这快乐不是永恒的。当你痛苦时，你要想这痛苦也不是永恒的。
6.今日的执著，会造成明日的后悔。
7.你可以拥有爱，但不要执著，因为分离是必然的。
8.不要浪费你的生命在你一定会后悔的地方上。
9.你什么时候放下，什么时候就没有烦恼。
10.每一种创伤，都是一种成熟。
11.狂妄的人有救，自卑的人没有救，认识自己，降伏自己，改变自己，才能改变别人。
12.你不要一直不满人家，你应该一直检讨自己才对。不满人家，是苦了你自己。
13.一个人如果不能从内心去原谅别人，那他就永远不会心安理得。
14.心中装满着自己的看法与想法的人，永远听不见别人的心声。
15.毁灭人只要一句话，培植一个人却要千句话，请你多口下留情。
16.根本不必回头去看咒骂你的人是谁？如果有一条疯狗咬你一口，难道你也要趴下去反咬他一口吗？
17.永远不要浪费你的一分一秒，去想任何你不喜欢的人。
18.请你用慈悲心和温和的态度，把你的不满与委屈说出来，别人就容易接受。
19.同样的瓶子，你为什么要装毒药呢？同样的心里，你为什么要充满着烦恼呢？
20.得不到的东西，我们会一直以为他是美好的，那是因为你对他了解太少，没有时间与他相处在一起。当有一天，你深入了解后，你会发现原不是你想像中的那么美好。
21.活着一天，就是有福气，就该珍惜。当我哭泣我没有鞋子穿的时候，我发现有人却没有脚。
22.多一分心力去注意别人，就少一分心力反省自己，你懂吗？
23.憎恨别人对自己是一种很大的损失。
24.每一个人都拥有生命，但并非每个人都懂得生命，乃至于珍惜生命。不了解生命的人，生命对他来说，是一种惩罚。
25.情执是苦恼的原因，放下情执，你才能得到自在
26.不要太肯定自己的看法，这样子比较少后悔。
27.当你对自己诚实的时候，世界上没有人能够欺骗得了你。
28.用伤害别人的手段来掩饰自己缺点的人，是可耻的。
29.默默的关怀与祝福别人，那是一种无形的布施。
30.不要刻意去猜测他人的想法，如果你没有智慧与经验的正确判断，通常都会有错误的。
31.要了解一个人，只需要看他的出发点与目的地是否相同，就可以知道他是否真心的。
32.人生的真理，只是藏在平淡无味之中。
33.不洗澡的人，硬擦香水是不会香的。名声与尊贵，是来自于真才实学的。有德自然香。
34.时间总会过去的，让时间流走你的烦恼吧！
35.你硬要把单纯的事情看得很严重，那样子你会很痛苦。
36.永远扭曲别人善意的人，无药可救。
37.说一句谎话，要编造十句谎话来弥补，何苦呢？
38.白白的过一天，无所事事，就像犯了窃盗罪一样
39.广结众缘，就是不要去伤害任何一个人。
40.沉默是毁谤最好的答覆。
41.对人恭敬，就是在庄严你自己。
42.拥有一颗无私的爱心，便拥有了一切。
43.来是偶然的，走是必然的。所以你必须，随缘不变，不变随缘。
44.慈悲是你最好的武器。
45.只要面对现实，你才能超越现实。
46.良心是每一个人最公正的审判官，你骗得了别人，却永远骗不了你自己的良心。
47.不懂得自爱的人，是没有能力去爱别人的。
48.有时候我们要冷静问问自已，我们在追求什么？我们活着为了什么？
49.不要因为小小的争执，远离了你至亲的好友，也不要因为小小的怨恨，忘记了别人的大恩。
50.感谢上苍我所拥有的，感谢上苍我所没有的。
51.凡是能站在别人的角度为他人着想，这个就是慈悲。
52.说话不要有攻击性，不要有杀伤力，不夸已能，不扬人恶，自然能化敌为友。
53.诚实的面对你内心的矛盾和污点，不要欺骗你自己。
54.因果不曾亏欠过我们什么，所以请不要抱怨。
55.大多数的人一辈子只做了三件事；自欺、欺人、被人欺。
56.心是最大的骗子，别人能骗你一时，而它却会骗你一辈子
57.只要自觉心安，东西南北都好。如有一人未度，切莫自己逃了。
58.当你手中抓住一件东西不放时，你只能拥有这件东西，如果你肯放手，你就有机会选择别的。人的心若死执自己的观念，不肯放下，那么他的智慧也只能达到某种程度而已
59.如果你能够平平安安的渡过一天，那就是一种福气了。多少人在今天已经见不到明天的太阳，多少人在今天已经成了残废，多少人在今天已经失去了自由，多少人在今天已经家破人亡。
60.你有你的生命观，我有我的生命观，我不干涉你。只要我能，我就感化你。如果不能，那我就认命。
61.你希望掌握永恒，那你必须控制现在。
62.恶口永远不要出自于我们的口中，不管他有多坏，有多恶。你愈骂他，你的心就被污染了，你要想，他就是你的善知识。
63.别人可以违背因果，别人可以害我们，打我们，毁谤我们。可是我们不能因此而憎恨别人，为什么？我们一定要保有一颗完整的本性和一颗清净的心。
64.如果一个人没有苦难的感受，就不容易对他人给予同情。你要学救苦救难的精神，就得先受苦受难。
65.世界原本就不是属于你，因此你用不着抛弃，要抛弃的是一切的执著。万物皆为我所用，但非我所属。
66.虽然我们不能改变周遭的世界，我们就只好改变自己，用慈悲心和智慧心来面对这一切。
1.人之所以痛苦，在于追求错误的东西。
2.如果你不给自己烦恼，别人也永远不可能给你烦恼。因为你自己的内心，你放不下。
3.你永远要感谢给你逆境的众生。
4.你永远要宽恕众生，不论他有多坏，甚至他伤害过你，你一定要放下，才能得到真正的快乐。
5.当你快乐时，你要想这快乐不是永恒的。当你痛苦时，你要想这痛苦也不是永恒的。
6.今日的执著，会造成明日的后悔。
7.你可以拥有爱，但不要执著，因为分离是必然的。
8.不要浪费你的生命在你一定会后悔的地方上。
9.你什么时候放下，什么时候就没有烦恼。
10.每一种创伤，都是一种成熟。
11.狂妄的人有救，自卑的人没有救，认识自己，降伏自己，改变自己，才能改变别人。
12.你不要一直不满人家，你应该一直检讨自己才对。不满人家，是苦了你自己。
13.一个人如果不能从内心去原谅别人，那他就永远不会心安理得。
14.心中装满着自己的看法与想法的人，永远听不见别人的心声。
15.毁灭人只要一句话，培植一个人却要千句话，请你多口下留情。
16.根本不必回头去看咒骂你的人是谁？如果有一条疯狗咬你一口，难道你也要趴下去反咬他一口吗？
17.永远不要浪费你的一分一秒，去想任何你不喜欢的人。
18.请你用慈悲心和温和的态度，把你的不满与委屈说出来，别人就容易接受。
19.同样的瓶子，你为什么要装毒药呢？同样的心里，你为什么要充满着烦恼呢？
20.得不到的东西，我们会一直以为他是美好的，那是因为你对他了解太少，没有时间与他相处在一起。当有一天，你深入了解后，你会发现原不是你想像中的那么美好。
21.活着一天，就是有福气，就该珍惜。当我哭泣我没有鞋子穿的时候，我发现有人却没有脚。
22.多一分心力去注意别人，就少一分心力反省自己，你懂吗？
23.憎恨别人对自己是一种很大的损失。
24.每一个人都拥有生命，但并非每个人都懂得生命，乃至于珍惜生命。不了解生命的人，生命对他来说，是一种惩罚。
25.情执是苦恼的原因，放下情执，你才能得到自在
26.不要太肯定自己的看法，这样子比较少后悔。
27.当你对自己诚实的时候，世界上没有人能够欺骗得了你。
28.用伤害别人的手段来掩饰自己缺点的人，是可耻的。
29.默默的关怀与祝福别人，那是一种无形的布施。
30.不要刻意去猜测他人的想法，如果你没有智慧与经验的正确判断，通常都会有错误的。
31.要了解一个人，只需要看他的出发点与目的地是否相同，就可以知道他是否真心的。
32.人生的真理，只是藏在平淡无味之中。
33.不洗澡的人，硬擦香水是不会香的。名声与尊贵，是来自于真才实学的。有德自然香。
34.时间总会过去的，让时间流走你的烦恼吧！
35.你硬要把单纯的事情看得很严重，那样子你会很痛苦。
36.永远扭曲别人善意的人，无药可救。
37.说一句谎话，要编造十句谎话来弥补，何苦呢？
38.白白的过一天，无所事事，就像犯了窃盗罪一样
39.广结众缘，就是不要去伤害任何一个人。
40.沉默是毁谤最好的答覆。
41.对人恭敬，就是在庄严你自己。
42.拥有一颗无私的爱心，便拥有了一切。
43.来是偶然的，走是必然的。所以你必须，随缘不变，不变随缘。
44.慈悲是你最好的武器。
45.只要面对现实，你才能超越现实。
46.良心是每一个人最公正的审判官，你骗得了别人，却永远骗不了你自己的良心。
47.不懂得自爱的人，是没有能力去爱别人的。
48.有时候我们要冷静问问自已，我们在追求什么？我们活着为了什么？
49.不要因为小小的争执，远离了你至亲的好友，也不要因为小小的怨恨，忘记了别人的大恩。
50.感谢上苍我所拥有的，感谢上苍我所没有的。
51.凡是能站在别人的角度为他人着想，这个就是慈悲。
52.说话不要有攻击性，不要有杀伤力，不夸已能，不扬人恶，自然能化敌为友。
53.诚实的面对你内心的矛盾和污点，不要欺骗你自己。
54.因果不曾亏欠过我们什么，所以请不要抱怨。
55.大多数的人一辈子只做了三件事；自欺、欺人、被人欺。
56.心是最大的骗子，别人能骗你一时，而它却会骗你一辈子
57.只要自觉心安，东西南北都好。如有一人未度，切莫自己逃了。
58.当你手中抓住一件东西不放时，你只能拥有这件东西，如果你肯放手，你就有机会选择别的。人的心若死执自己的观念，不肯放下，那么他的智慧也只能达到某种程度而已
59.如果你能够平平安安的渡过一天，那就是一种福气了。多少人在今天已经见不到明天的太阳，多少人在今天已经成了残废，多少人在今天已经失去了自由，多少人在今天已经家破人亡。
60.你有你的生命观，我有我的生命观，我不干涉你。只要我能，我就感化你。如果不能，那我就认命。
61.你希望掌握永恒，那你必须控制现在。
62.恶口永远不要出自于我们的口中，不管他有多坏，有多恶。你愈骂他，你的心就被污染了，你要想，他就是你的善知识。
63.别人可以违背因果，别人可以害我们，打我们，毁谤我们。可是我们不能因此而憎恨别人，为什么？我们一定要保有一颗完整的本性和一颗清净的心。
64.如果一个人没有苦难的感受，就不容易对他人给予同情。你要学救苦救难的精神，就得先受苦受难。
65.世界原本就不是属于你，因此你用不着抛弃，要抛弃的是一切的执著。万物皆为我所用，但非我所属。
66.虽然我们不能改变周遭的世界，我们就只好改变自己，用慈悲心和智慧心来面对这一切。
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
192 - POINTS ON HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE
Personality:
1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don't over do; keep your limits
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.
Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
Community:
15. Call your family often
16. Each day give something good to others
17. Forgive everyone for everything
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
20. What other people think of you is none of your business
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.
Life:
22. Put LOVE first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
23. LOVE heals everything
24. Do the right things
25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
27. The best is yet to come
28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank LOVE for it
30. If you know LOVE you will always be happy. So, be happy.
While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with, people you play with, people you work with and people you live with. Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you.
1. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
2. Don't have negative thoughts of things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment
3. Don't over do; keep your limits
4. Don't take yourself so seriously; no one else does
5. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip
6. Dream more while you are awake
7. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
8. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
9. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
10. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present
11. No one is in charge of your happiness except you
12. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.
Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
13. Smile and laugh more
14. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
Community:
15. Call your family often
16. Each day give something good to others
17. Forgive everyone for everything
18. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6
19. Try to make at least three people smile each day
20. What other people think of you is none of your business
21. Your job will not take care of you when you are sick. Your family and friends will. Stay in touch.
Life:
22. Put LOVE first in anything and everything that you think, say and do.
23. LOVE heals everything
24. Do the right things
25. However good or bad a situation is, it will change
26. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up
27. The best is yet to come
28. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful
29. When you awake alive in the morning, thank LOVE for it
30. If you know LOVE you will always be happy. So, be happy.
While you practice all of the above, share this knowledge with the people you love, people you school with, people you play with, people you work with and people you live with. Not only will it enrich YOUR life, but also that of those around you.
191 - 證巖法師靜思語 By Master Cheng Yen
勇於承擔，是一份動人的力量；勇於承擔錯誤，則是一種高尚的品格。
To shoulder a burden is an inspiring force. To admit a mistake is a noble virtue.
To shoulder a burden is an inspiring force. To admit a mistake is a noble virtue.
190 - 證巖法師靜思語 By Master Cheng Yen
捨得、捨得，能捨才能得。
Let go of all attachment ; only then will you receive something.
Let go of all attachment ; only then will you receive something.
189 - 證巖法師靜思語 By Master Cheng Yen
碰到逆境時，應心生感激，這是可遇不可求啊!
In the face of adversity, be grateful, for such opportunities do not come by easily.
In the face of adversity, be grateful, for such opportunities do not come by easily.
188 - 中国佛学66句震撼世界的禅语
中国佛学66句震撼世界的禅语
1.人之所以痛苦，在于追求错误的东西。
2.如果你不给自己烦恼，别人也永远不可能给你烦恼。因为你自己的内心，你放不下。
3.你永远要感谢给你逆境的众生。
4.你永远要宽恕众生，不论他有多坏，甚至他伤害过你，你一定要放下，才能得到真正的快乐。
5.当你快乐时，你要想这快乐不是永恒的。当你痛苦时，你要想这痛苦也不是永恒的。
6.今日的执著，会造成明日的后悔。
7.你可以拥有爱，但不要执著，因为分离是必然的。
8.不要浪费你的生命在你一定会后悔的地方上。
9.你什么时候放下，什么时候就没有烦恼。
10.每一种创伤，都是一种成熟。
11.狂妄的人有救，自卑的人没有救，认识自己，降伏自己，改变自己，才能改变别人。
12.你不要一直不满人家，你应该一直检讨自己才对。不满人家，是苦了你自己。
13.一个人如果不能从内心去原谅别人，那他就永远不会心安理得。
14.心中装满着自己的看法与想法的人，永远听不见别人的心声。
15.毁灭人只要一句话，培植一个人却要千句话，请你多口下留情。
16.根本不必回头去看咒骂你的人是谁？如果有一条疯狗咬你一口，难道你也要趴下去反咬他一口吗？
17.永远不要浪费你的一分一秒，去想任何你不喜欢的人。
18.请你用慈悲心和温和的态度，把你的不满与委屈说出来，别人就容易接受。
19.同样的瓶子，你为什么要装毒药呢？同样的心里，你为什么要充满着烦恼呢？
20.得不到的东西，我们会一直以为他是美好的，那是因为你对他了解太少，没有时间与他相处在一起。当有一天，你深入了解后，你会发现原不是你想像中的那么美好。
21.活着一天，就是有福气，就该珍惜。当我哭泣我没有鞋子穿的时候，我发现有人却没有脚。
22.多一分心力去注意别人，就少一分心力反省自己，你懂吗？
23.憎恨别人对自己是一种很大的损失。
24.每一个人都拥有生命，但并非每个人都懂得生命，乃至于珍惜生命。不了解生命的人，生命对他来说，是一种惩罚。
25.情执是苦恼的原因，放下情执，你才能得到自在
26.不要太肯定自己的看法，这样子比较少后悔。
27.当你对自己诚实的时候，世界上没有人能够欺骗得了你。
28.用伤害别人的手段来掩饰自己缺点的人，是可耻的。
29.默默的关怀与祝福别人，那是一种无形的布施。
30.不要刻意去猜测他人的想法，如果你没有智慧与经验的正确判断，通常都会有错误的。
31.要了解一个人，只需要看他的出发点与目的地是否相同，就可以知道他是否真心的。
32.人生的真理，只是藏在平淡无味之中。
33.不洗澡的人，硬擦香水是不会香的。名声与尊贵，是来自于真才实学的。有德自然香。
34.时间总会过去的，让时间流走你的烦恼吧！
35.你硬要把单纯的事情看得很严重，那样子你会很痛苦。
36.永远扭曲别人善意的人，无药可救。
37.说一句谎话，要编造十句谎话来弥补，何苦呢？
38.白白的过一天，无所事事，就像犯了窃盗罪一样
39.广结众缘，就是不要去伤害任何一个人。
40.沉默是毁谤最好的答覆。
41.对人恭敬，就是在庄严你自己。
42.拥有一颗无私的爱心，便拥有了一切。
43.来是偶然的，走是必然的。所以你必须，随缘不变，不变随缘。
44.慈悲是你最好的武器。
45.只要面对现实，你才能超越现实。
46.良心是每一个人最公正的审判官，你骗得了别人，却永远骗不了你自己的良心。
47.不懂得自爱的人，是没有能力去爱别人的。
48.有时候我们要冷静问问自已，我们在追求什么？我们活着为了什么？
49.不要因为小小的争执，远离了你至亲的好友，也不要因为小小的怨恨，忘记了别人的大恩。
50.感谢上苍我所拥有的，感谢上苍我所没有的。
51.凡是能站在别人的角度为他人着想，这个就是慈悲。
52.说话不要有攻击性，不要有杀伤力，不夸已能，不扬人恶，自然能化敌为友。
53.诚实的面对你内心的矛盾和污点，不要欺骗你自己。
54.因果不曾亏欠过我们什么，所以请不要抱怨。
55.大多数的人一辈子只做了三件事；自欺、欺人、被人欺。
56.心是最大的骗子，别人能骗你一时，而它却会骗你一辈子
57.只要自觉心安，东西南北都好。如有一人未度，切莫自己逃了。
58.当你手中抓住一件东西不放时，你只能拥有这件东西，如果你肯放手，你就有机会选择别的。人的心若死执自己的观念，不肯放下，那么他的智慧也只能达到某种程度而已
59.如果你能够平平安安的渡过一天，那就是一种福气了。多少人在今天已经见不到明天的太阳，多少人在今天已经成了残废，多少人在今天已经失去了自由，多少人在今天已经家破人亡。
60.你有你的生命观，我有我的生命观，我不干涉你。只要我能，我就感化你。如果不能，那我就认命。
61.你希望掌握永恒，那你必须控制现在。
62.恶口永远不要出自于我们的口中，不管他有多坏，有多恶。你愈骂他，你的心就被污染了，你要想，他就是你的善知识。
63.别人可以违背因果，别人可以害我们，打我们，毁谤我们。可是我们不能因此而憎恨别人，为什么？我们一定要保有一颗完整的本性和一颗清净的心。
64.如果一个人没有苦难的感受，就不容易对他人给予同情。你要学救苦救难的精神，就得先受苦受难。
65.世界原本就不是属于你，因此你用不着抛弃，要抛弃的是一切的执著。万物皆为我所用，但非我所属。
66.虽然我们不能改变周遭的世界，我们就只好改变自己，用慈悲心和智慧心来面对这一切。
1.人之所以痛苦，在于追求错误的东西。
2.如果你不给自己烦恼，别人也永远不可能给你烦恼。因为你自己的内心，你放不下。
3.你永远要感谢给你逆境的众生。
4.你永远要宽恕众生，不论他有多坏，甚至他伤害过你，你一定要放下，才能得到真正的快乐。
5.当你快乐时，你要想这快乐不是永恒的。当你痛苦时，你要想这痛苦也不是永恒的。
6.今日的执著，会造成明日的后悔。
7.你可以拥有爱，但不要执著，因为分离是必然的。
8.不要浪费你的生命在你一定会后悔的地方上。
9.你什么时候放下，什么时候就没有烦恼。
10.每一种创伤，都是一种成熟。
11.狂妄的人有救，自卑的人没有救，认识自己，降伏自己，改变自己，才能改变别人。
12.你不要一直不满人家，你应该一直检讨自己才对。不满人家，是苦了你自己。
13.一个人如果不能从内心去原谅别人，那他就永远不会心安理得。
14.心中装满着自己的看法与想法的人，永远听不见别人的心声。
15.毁灭人只要一句话，培植一个人却要千句话，请你多口下留情。
16.根本不必回头去看咒骂你的人是谁？如果有一条疯狗咬你一口，难道你也要趴下去反咬他一口吗？
17.永远不要浪费你的一分一秒，去想任何你不喜欢的人。
18.请你用慈悲心和温和的态度，把你的不满与委屈说出来，别人就容易接受。
19.同样的瓶子，你为什么要装毒药呢？同样的心里，你为什么要充满着烦恼呢？
20.得不到的东西，我们会一直以为他是美好的，那是因为你对他了解太少，没有时间与他相处在一起。当有一天，你深入了解后，你会发现原不是你想像中的那么美好。
21.活着一天，就是有福气，就该珍惜。当我哭泣我没有鞋子穿的时候，我发现有人却没有脚。
22.多一分心力去注意别人，就少一分心力反省自己，你懂吗？
23.憎恨别人对自己是一种很大的损失。
24.每一个人都拥有生命，但并非每个人都懂得生命，乃至于珍惜生命。不了解生命的人，生命对他来说，是一种惩罚。
25.情执是苦恼的原因，放下情执，你才能得到自在
26.不要太肯定自己的看法，这样子比较少后悔。
27.当你对自己诚实的时候，世界上没有人能够欺骗得了你。
28.用伤害别人的手段来掩饰自己缺点的人，是可耻的。
29.默默的关怀与祝福别人，那是一种无形的布施。
30.不要刻意去猜测他人的想法，如果你没有智慧与经验的正确判断，通常都会有错误的。
31.要了解一个人，只需要看他的出发点与目的地是否相同，就可以知道他是否真心的。
32.人生的真理，只是藏在平淡无味之中。
33.不洗澡的人，硬擦香水是不会香的。名声与尊贵，是来自于真才实学的。有德自然香。
34.时间总会过去的，让时间流走你的烦恼吧！
35.你硬要把单纯的事情看得很严重，那样子你会很痛苦。
36.永远扭曲别人善意的人，无药可救。
37.说一句谎话，要编造十句谎话来弥补，何苦呢？
38.白白的过一天，无所事事，就像犯了窃盗罪一样
39.广结众缘，就是不要去伤害任何一个人。
40.沉默是毁谤最好的答覆。
41.对人恭敬，就是在庄严你自己。
42.拥有一颗无私的爱心，便拥有了一切。
43.来是偶然的，走是必然的。所以你必须，随缘不变，不变随缘。
44.慈悲是你最好的武器。
45.只要面对现实，你才能超越现实。
46.良心是每一个人最公正的审判官，你骗得了别人，却永远骗不了你自己的良心。
47.不懂得自爱的人，是没有能力去爱别人的。
48.有时候我们要冷静问问自已，我们在追求什么？我们活着为了什么？
49.不要因为小小的争执，远离了你至亲的好友，也不要因为小小的怨恨，忘记了别人的大恩。
50.感谢上苍我所拥有的，感谢上苍我所没有的。
51.凡是能站在别人的角度为他人着想，这个就是慈悲。
52.说话不要有攻击性，不要有杀伤力，不夸已能，不扬人恶，自然能化敌为友。
53.诚实的面对你内心的矛盾和污点，不要欺骗你自己。
54.因果不曾亏欠过我们什么，所以请不要抱怨。
55.大多数的人一辈子只做了三件事；自欺、欺人、被人欺。
56.心是最大的骗子，别人能骗你一时，而它却会骗你一辈子
57.只要自觉心安，东西南北都好。如有一人未度，切莫自己逃了。
58.当你手中抓住一件东西不放时，你只能拥有这件东西，如果你肯放手，你就有机会选择别的。人的心若死执自己的观念，不肯放下，那么他的智慧也只能达到某种程度而已
59.如果你能够平平安安的渡过一天，那就是一种福气了。多少人在今天已经见不到明天的太阳，多少人在今天已经成了残废，多少人在今天已经失去了自由，多少人在今天已经家破人亡。
60.你有你的生命观，我有我的生命观，我不干涉你。只要我能，我就感化你。如果不能，那我就认命。
61.你希望掌握永恒，那你必须控制现在。
62.恶口永远不要出自于我们的口中，不管他有多坏，有多恶。你愈骂他，你的心就被污染了，你要想，他就是你的善知识。
63.别人可以违背因果，别人可以害我们，打我们，毁谤我们。可是我们不能因此而憎恨别人，为什么？我们一定要保有一颗完整的本性和一颗清净的心。
64.如果一个人没有苦难的感受，就不容易对他人给予同情。你要学救苦救难的精神，就得先受苦受难。
65.世界原本就不是属于你，因此你用不着抛弃，要抛弃的是一切的执著。万物皆为我所用，但非我所属。
66.虽然我们不能改变周遭的世界，我们就只好改变自己，用慈悲心和智慧心来面对这一切。
Sunday, July 25, 2010
187 - 懂得放下，何等自在！緣份是找到包容你的人!
懂得放下，何等自在！
記住 anger ( 發怒 ) 與 danger ( 危險) 只差一個字
別看少這一個字它會影響我們這份職業、甚至人際關係正所謂「禍從口出…」
專家講: 「人，面對外人時， 總是可以表現得雍容大肚、心平氣和， 但面對自己最親近的家人，卻往往一點小事就足以皺起眉頭，甚至出言相傷。」
正如你永遠只對你最愛、最親的人生氣, 但是你會對住你上司、老板生氣嗎 ?
如果形容人類是一種“出門高E.Q ，回家低E.Q 的動物”，我想一點兒也不誇張，多拿出一點耐心與包容給家人吧！否則您自己也不會快樂，不是嗎？
曾在報上看過英文中的stressed （壓力），與 desserts （甜點）兩字，有很微妙的相關。是什麼相關呢？ 仔細一瞧，好像沒什麼關係嘛！可是，再看一下，咦，stressed 這個字從後面倒過來拼寫，不就是 desserts 嗎？ 所以，「Stressed is just desserts if you can reverse. 」壓力就是甜點，只要你能逆向觀看。哈哈，這真是有趣的妙論呀！
人生之中，有許多「壓力、挫折」，但只要轉個念、換個角度看，它也就是我們生命中的「甜點」呀！
此外，也有人說： "人生就像一碗飯，一半是甜的，一半是苦的，你不知道會先吃到哪一邊，但終究必須把飯吃完"。是呀，生命有甜、有苦、有酸、也有辣；但都必須去經歷它、走過它呀！
有一個小學老師在偏遠的鄉里教書，這天，他來到自己班上的教室，問班上的小朋友：「你們大家有沒有討厭的人啊」。 小朋友們想了想，有的未作聲，有的則猛力地點點頭。
老師接著便發給每人一個袋子，說：「我們來玩一個遊戲。現在大家想想看，過去這一週，曾有那些人得罪過你，他到底做了怎麼樣可惡的事。想到後，就利用放學時間到河邊去找一塊石頭，把他的名字給用小紙條貼在石頭上，如果他實在很過份，你就找一塊大一點的石頭，如果他的錯是小錯，你就找一塊小一點的石頭。每天把戰利品用袋子裝到學校來給老師看哦！」
學生們感到非常有趣且新鮮，放學後，每個人都搶著到河邊去找石頭。
第二天一早，大家都把裝著從河邊撿來的鵝卵石的袋子帶到學校來，興高采烈地討論著。
一天過去了，兩天過去了，三天過去了….. ，
有的人的袋子越裝越大，幾乎成了負擔。終於，有人提出了抗議「老師，好累喔」老師笑了笑沒說話，立刻又有人接著喊："對啊,每天背著這些石頭來上課，好累喔"
這時，老師終於開口了，她笑著說：「那就放下這些代表著別人過犯的石頭吧」. 孩子們有些訝異，老師又接著講："學習寬恕別人的過犯 ，不要把它當寶一樣的記在心上，扛在肩上，時間久了，任誰也受不了…"
這個星期，這班的同學上到了人生中極寶貴的一課。袋裡裝入越多、越大的「石頭」，心中存留越多、越深的仇恨，所造成的負擔就越重。
假如你有寫上我名字的石頭 你應當知道該怎樣做了吧！
我很喜歡一句名諺：「寬恕人的過失，便是自己的榮耀。」懂得「放下」，何等自在。
請不吝分享，或許今天正有人需要它！
相愛容易相處難，婚姻與戀愛最大的不同，就是「戀愛看的是對方的優點」，而「婚姻卻是要包容對方的缺點」。緣份是找到包容你的人!
記住 anger ( 發怒 ) 與 danger ( 危險) 只差一個字
別看少這一個字它會影響我們這份職業、甚至人際關係正所謂「禍從口出…」
專家講: 「人，面對外人時， 總是可以表現得雍容大肚、心平氣和， 但面對自己最親近的家人，卻往往一點小事就足以皺起眉頭，甚至出言相傷。」
正如你永遠只對你最愛、最親的人生氣, 但是你會對住你上司、老板生氣嗎 ?
如果形容人類是一種“出門高E.Q ，回家低E.Q 的動物”，我想一點兒也不誇張，多拿出一點耐心與包容給家人吧！否則您自己也不會快樂，不是嗎？
曾在報上看過英文中的stressed （壓力），與 desserts （甜點）兩字，有很微妙的相關。是什麼相關呢？ 仔細一瞧，好像沒什麼關係嘛！可是，再看一下，咦，stressed 這個字從後面倒過來拼寫，不就是 desserts 嗎？ 所以，「Stressed is just desserts if you can reverse. 」壓力就是甜點，只要你能逆向觀看。哈哈，這真是有趣的妙論呀！
人生之中，有許多「壓力、挫折」，但只要轉個念、換個角度看，它也就是我們生命中的「甜點」呀！
此外，也有人說： "人生就像一碗飯，一半是甜的，一半是苦的，你不知道會先吃到哪一邊，但終究必須把飯吃完"。是呀，生命有甜、有苦、有酸、也有辣；但都必須去經歷它、走過它呀！
有一個小學老師在偏遠的鄉里教書，這天，他來到自己班上的教室，問班上的小朋友：「你們大家有沒有討厭的人啊」。 小朋友們想了想，有的未作聲，有的則猛力地點點頭。
老師接著便發給每人一個袋子，說：「我們來玩一個遊戲。現在大家想想看，過去這一週，曾有那些人得罪過你，他到底做了怎麼樣可惡的事。想到後，就利用放學時間到河邊去找一塊石頭，把他的名字給用小紙條貼在石頭上，如果他實在很過份，你就找一塊大一點的石頭，如果他的錯是小錯，你就找一塊小一點的石頭。每天把戰利品用袋子裝到學校來給老師看哦！」
學生們感到非常有趣且新鮮，放學後，每個人都搶著到河邊去找石頭。
第二天一早，大家都把裝著從河邊撿來的鵝卵石的袋子帶到學校來，興高采烈地討論著。
一天過去了，兩天過去了，三天過去了….. ，
有的人的袋子越裝越大，幾乎成了負擔。終於，有人提出了抗議「老師，好累喔」老師笑了笑沒說話，立刻又有人接著喊："對啊,每天背著這些石頭來上課，好累喔"
這時，老師終於開口了，她笑著說：「那就放下這些代表著別人過犯的石頭吧」. 孩子們有些訝異，老師又接著講："學習寬恕別人的過犯 ，不要把它當寶一樣的記在心上，扛在肩上，時間久了，任誰也受不了…"
這個星期，這班的同學上到了人生中極寶貴的一課。袋裡裝入越多、越大的「石頭」，心中存留越多、越深的仇恨，所造成的負擔就越重。
假如你有寫上我名字的石頭 你應當知道該怎樣做了吧！
我很喜歡一句名諺：「寬恕人的過失，便是自己的榮耀。」懂得「放下」，何等自在。
請不吝分享，或許今天正有人需要它！
相愛容易相處難，婚姻與戀愛最大的不同，就是「戀愛看的是對方的優點」，而「婚姻卻是要包容對方的缺點」。緣份是找到包容你的人!
Saturday, July 17, 2010
186 - Thoughts of the Day (July 17, 2010)
Always keep this in mind:
"My biggest enemy in life is none other than myself"
Constantly ask your heart: "What happens to my inner peace?"
"Why does my inner peace disappear so easily?"
"Why is it that a mere few words from people's mouth can shake-up my inner peace & trigger my emotions?"
Always be aware that:
"I am holding a COIN with two sides; one side is LOVE while the other side is FEAR. I will constantly watch my thoughts and be aware that the side representing LOVE is facing upward. And I strive to ensure my coin will NOT be upside down, causing LOVE being replaced by FEAR.
"My biggest enemy in life is none other than myself"
Constantly ask your heart: "What happens to my inner peace?"
"Why does my inner peace disappear so easily?"
"Why is it that a mere few words from people's mouth can shake-up my inner peace & trigger my emotions?"
Always be aware that:
"I am holding a COIN with two sides; one side is LOVE while the other side is FEAR. I will constantly watch my thoughts and be aware that the side representing LOVE is facing upward. And I strive to ensure my coin will NOT be upside down, causing LOVE being replaced by FEAR.
Friday, July 16, 2010
185 - Honor Her
This is a beautiful article:
The woman in your life....very well expressed...
Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;
Who is earning almost as much as you do;
One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are;
One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements;
One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;
One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family name;
One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen;
One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;
One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;
Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise;
One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;
One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her;
One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.
But not many guys understand this......
Please appreciate "HER". I hope you will do....
The woman in your life....very well expressed...
Here is a girl, who is as much educated as you are;
Who is earning almost as much as you do;
One, who has dreams and aspirations just as you have because she is as human as you are;
One, who has never entered the kitchen in her life just like you or your sister haven't, as she was busy in studies and competing in a system that gives no special concession to girls for their culinary achievements;
One, who has lived and loved her parents & brothers & sisters, almost as much as you do for 20-25 years of her life;
One, who has bravely agreed to leave behind all that, her home, people who love her, to adopt your home, your family, your ways and even your family name;
One, who is somehow expected to be a master-chef from day #1, while you sleep oblivious to her predicament in her new circumstances, environment and that kitchen;
One, who is expected to make the tea, first thing in the morning and cook food at the end of the day, even if she is as tired as you are, maybe more, and yet never ever expected to complain; to be a servant, a cook, a mother, a wife, even if she doesn't want to; and is learning just like you are as to what you want from her; and is clumsy and sloppy at times and knows that you won't like it if she is too demanding, or if she learns faster than you;
One, who has her own set of friends, and that includes boys and even men at her workplace too, those, who she knows from school days and yet is willing to put all that on the back-burners to avoid your irrational jealousy, unnecessary competition and your inherent insecurities;
Yes, she can drink and dance just as well as you can, but won't, simply because you won't like it, even though you say otherwise;
One, who can be late from work once in a while when deadlines, just like yours, are to be met;
One, who is doing her level best and wants to make this most important relationship in her entire life a grand success, if you just help her some and trust her;
One, who just wants one thing from you, as you are the only one she knows in your entire house - your unstinted support, your sensitivities and most importantly - your understanding, or love, if you may call it.
But not many guys understand this......
Please appreciate "HER". I hope you will do....
Thursday, July 8, 2010
184 - 你心中的恐懼、感傷，背後所要保護的故事是什么
Q077 問：
我自小有第六感，有時會看到或預知將會發生的事情。要怎樣才能給人相信呢？我有時會傷感，有些天災我知道，卻不能告訴人。怎麼辦呢？
若水回應：
你好，
你問了「要怎樣才能給人相信呢？」你知道嗎？即使 J 兄在《奇蹟課程》裡也只說「我的決定無法壓過你的，因為你的決定與我的一樣強而有力。」我們又怎麼可能教你「怎樣才能給人相信？」
所有關於末日、戰亂災禍的預言，最能勾出人心裡的恐懼，也許你期望《奇蹟課程》給你一點奇蹟，好讓你救多點人，做多點好事；但我得講句掃興的話：奇蹟不在於多少人被救了，在你出發踏上宣揚訊息之旅之前，別忘了正文第二章有一句話「施展奇蹟者的唯一責任即是親自接受救贖。（T-2. V. 5: 1-6）」，面對這個特殊的預言能力，以及你心中的恐懼、感傷，「你自己」才是需要親自接受救贖的那個人。
你所談的預感能力，不過重申了「心念」是有能力的，而且不受時間的限制。預知未來，和音樂天才，電腦技術，甚至煮一手好菜，都屬於一種特殊能力，本質沒有什麼差別。對心靈或修行沒有直接的關係。但是，人間的「特殊」能力在小我的陰影下，有如雙面刃，隨時都會刺傷自己。
奇蹟課程說，所有的心念只有兩個來源，一是出自「愛」，一是出自「恐懼」。出自愛的心念，會幫你由噩夢轉為美夢，出自恐懼的心念，也有能力讓你的預感「一語成讖」（self-fulfilling prophecy)。所以，不要小看了自己的念頭，常常預見災難的人，不只表示自己活在「恐懼」中（只是投射到世界去了），他的心念還同時助長了災難成真的可能性。
只需「收回投射」，與J兄一起面對內心的恐懼，或是，將此恐懼交託給聖靈，那麼「愛」的能量，就會在「恐懼」交出以後的那個空間湧出的。
這是奇蹟課程的基本原則，不論是面對什麼事件或某種能力，問題都不在外面，它只是給你一個機會去看「你究竟在怕什麼」或是「你想隱藏或防衛什麼」，才會投射出這類念頭或事件。
把你所看到的煩與亂，在適當的時刻交托給聖靈，對祂說：「現在我的心很煩亂，我勢必看走了眼，對弟兄，對世界，請祢幫助我用你的眼光來看這純潔無罪的世界吧，我願交托給祢這神聖的一天。」
你會發現，這些煩與亂，在聖靈眼中都是小事，你和祂一起看看這些「小事」，笑一笑「真傻！」就可以把它拋開，去幹聖靈的「正經事」了。
唯有你參透了這個特殊的預言能力，以及你心中的恐懼、感傷，背後所要保護的故事是什麼，從這些特殊的愛、關懷、恐懼中解放開來後，你才可能真正讓你的特殊能力發揮大用。
祝福你。
文/ 若水暨奇蹟資訊中心志工
原文於 2009/7/23 已發表於奇蹟課程中文部網站
我自小有第六感，有時會看到或預知將會發生的事情。要怎樣才能給人相信呢？我有時會傷感，有些天災我知道，卻不能告訴人。怎麼辦呢？
若水回應：
你好，
你問了「要怎樣才能給人相信呢？」你知道嗎？即使 J 兄在《奇蹟課程》裡也只說「我的決定無法壓過你的，因為你的決定與我的一樣強而有力。」我們又怎麼可能教你「怎樣才能給人相信？」
所有關於末日、戰亂災禍的預言，最能勾出人心裡的恐懼，也許你期望《奇蹟課程》給你一點奇蹟，好讓你救多點人，做多點好事；但我得講句掃興的話：奇蹟不在於多少人被救了，在你出發踏上宣揚訊息之旅之前，別忘了正文第二章有一句話「施展奇蹟者的唯一責任即是親自接受救贖。（T-2. V. 5: 1-6）」，面對這個特殊的預言能力，以及你心中的恐懼、感傷，「你自己」才是需要親自接受救贖的那個人。
你所談的預感能力，不過重申了「心念」是有能力的，而且不受時間的限制。預知未來，和音樂天才，電腦技術，甚至煮一手好菜，都屬於一種特殊能力，本質沒有什麼差別。對心靈或修行沒有直接的關係。但是，人間的「特殊」能力在小我的陰影下，有如雙面刃，隨時都會刺傷自己。
奇蹟課程說，所有的心念只有兩個來源，一是出自「愛」，一是出自「恐懼」。出自愛的心念，會幫你由噩夢轉為美夢，出自恐懼的心念，也有能力讓你的預感「一語成讖」（self-fulfilling prophecy)。所以，不要小看了自己的念頭，常常預見災難的人，不只表示自己活在「恐懼」中（只是投射到世界去了），他的心念還同時助長了災難成真的可能性。
只需「收回投射」，與J兄一起面對內心的恐懼，或是，將此恐懼交託給聖靈，那麼「愛」的能量，就會在「恐懼」交出以後的那個空間湧出的。
這是奇蹟課程的基本原則，不論是面對什麼事件或某種能力，問題都不在外面，它只是給你一個機會去看「你究竟在怕什麼」或是「你想隱藏或防衛什麼」，才會投射出這類念頭或事件。
把你所看到的煩與亂，在適當的時刻交托給聖靈，對祂說：「現在我的心很煩亂，我勢必看走了眼，對弟兄，對世界，請祢幫助我用你的眼光來看這純潔無罪的世界吧，我願交托給祢這神聖的一天。」
你會發現，這些煩與亂，在聖靈眼中都是小事，你和祂一起看看這些「小事」，笑一笑「真傻！」就可以把它拋開，去幹聖靈的「正經事」了。
唯有你參透了這個特殊的預言能力，以及你心中的恐懼、感傷，背後所要保護的故事是什麼，從這些特殊的愛、關懷、恐懼中解放開來後，你才可能真正讓你的特殊能力發揮大用。
祝福你。
文/ 若水暨奇蹟資訊中心志工
原文於 2009/7/23 已發表於奇蹟課程中文部網站
Monday, July 5, 2010
183 - All about wife for a good laugh
When a man steals your wife, there is no better revenge than to let him keep her.
Lee Majors
After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together.
Al Gore
By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.
Socrates
Woman inspires us to great things, and prevents us from achieving them.
Mike Tyson
The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, "What does a woman want?
George Clooney
I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me.
Bill Clinton
"Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays."
George W. Bush
"I don't worry about terrorism. I was married for two years."
Rudy Giuliani
"There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage."
Michael Jordan
"I've had bad luck with all my wives. The first one left me and the second one didn't." The third gave me more children!
Donald Trump
Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming
1. Whenever you're wrong, admit it,
2. Whenever you're right, shut up.
Shaquille O'Neal
The most effective way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once...
Kobe Bryant
You know what I did before I married? Anything I wanted to.
David Hasselhoff
My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met.
Alec Baldwin
A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.
Barack Obama
Marriage is the only war where one sleeps with the enemy.
Tommy Lee
A man inserted an 'ad' in the classifieds: "Wife wanted". Next day he received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing: "You can have mine."
Brad Pitt
First Guy (proudly): "My wife's an angel!"
Second Guy: "You're lucky, mine's still alive."
Jimmy Kimmel
"Honey, what happened to 'ladies first'?" Husband replies, "That's the reason why the world's a mess today, because a lady went first!"
David Letterman
"First there's the promise ring, then the engagement ring, then the wedding ring...soon after....comes Suffer...ing!
Jay Leno
Lee Majors
After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together.
Al Gore
By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.
Socrates
Woman inspires us to great things, and prevents us from achieving them.
Mike Tyson
The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, "What does a woman want?
George Clooney
I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me.
Bill Clinton
"Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays."
George W. Bush
"I don't worry about terrorism. I was married for two years."
Rudy Giuliani
"There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage."
Michael Jordan
"I've had bad luck with all my wives. The first one left me and the second one didn't." The third gave me more children!
Donald Trump
Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming
1. Whenever you're wrong, admit it,
2. Whenever you're right, shut up.
Shaquille O'Neal
The most effective way to remember your wife's birthday is to forget it once...
Kobe Bryant
You know what I did before I married? Anything I wanted to.
David Hasselhoff
My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met.
Alec Baldwin
A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.
Barack Obama
Marriage is the only war where one sleeps with the enemy.
Tommy Lee
A man inserted an 'ad' in the classifieds: "Wife wanted". Next day he received a hundred letters. They all said the same thing: "You can have mine."
Brad Pitt
First Guy (proudly): "My wife's an angel!"
Second Guy: "You're lucky, mine's still alive."
Jimmy Kimmel
"Honey, what happened to 'ladies first'?" Husband replies, "That's the reason why the world's a mess today, because a lady went first!"
David Letterman
"First there's the promise ring, then the engagement ring, then the wedding ring...soon after....comes Suffer...ing!
Jay Leno
182 - Four Tenets
Tenet 1: Watch and feel my thoughts and emotions
Whenever I feel emotions or discomfort, I acknowledge my thoughts and emotional feeling. I don't judge my thoughts and emotions. I silently feel my thoughts and emotions until it is over and complete.
I can see my emotions as dark fluid or energy flowing out of my body until I can feel peace and ease.
Step 2: Awareness & recognizing it as projection from my mind
I recognize that my thoughts create my realities which are projected out from my mind.
I silently tell myself, "This is not real, this is illusion, being the projection of quilt from my mind."
I laugh out loud for fooling myself into believing my emotions or the stories/drama are real.
Step 3: Forgiveness
I silently forgive myself as well as the persons or events that arouse my inner guilt. I recognize that I had done it before and NOW I can understand the feeling involved!
I reclaim all my power. I tell myself: "I am the power and presence of God. I am love, I am light, I am peace and joy". I feel the power and presence of God permeate through my whole being.
Step 4: Expressing gratitude
Thank myself and those involved for making the illusion so real and fool me into believing the illusions are true. Now I can be aware of my sick mind or limiting beliefs (I am not lovable, I am not worthy, I am useless, I am powerless...) This is not sin, this is merely silly. How can God not be God?
After the above have been done, I then receive the gifts of God: Happiness, strength, peace, love, joy, abundance.
Whenever I feel emotions or discomfort, I acknowledge my thoughts and emotional feeling. I don't judge my thoughts and emotions. I silently feel my thoughts and emotions until it is over and complete.
I can see my emotions as dark fluid or energy flowing out of my body until I can feel peace and ease.
Step 2: Awareness & recognizing it as projection from my mind
I recognize that my thoughts create my realities which are projected out from my mind.
I silently tell myself, "This is not real, this is illusion, being the projection of quilt from my mind."
I laugh out loud for fooling myself into believing my emotions or the stories/drama are real.
Step 3: Forgiveness
I silently forgive myself as well as the persons or events that arouse my inner guilt. I recognize that I had done it before and NOW I can understand the feeling involved!
I reclaim all my power. I tell myself: "I am the power and presence of God. I am love, I am light, I am peace and joy". I feel the power and presence of God permeate through my whole being.
Step 4: Expressing gratitude
Thank myself and those involved for making the illusion so real and fool me into believing the illusions are true. Now I can be aware of my sick mind or limiting beliefs (I am not lovable, I am not worthy, I am useless, I am powerless...) This is not sin, this is merely silly. How can God not be God?
After the above have been done, I then receive the gifts of God: Happiness, strength, peace, love, joy, abundance.
181 - Spiritual Beings
WE ARE NOT HUMAN BEINGS GOING THROUGH A TEMPORARY SPIRITUAL EXPERIENCE.
WE ARE SPIRITUAL BEINGS GOING THROUGH A TEMPORARY HUMAN EXPERIENCE.
WE ARE SPIRITUAL BEINGS GOING THROUGH A TEMPORARY HUMAN EXPERIENCE.
180 - Creation
Raj at Kingston -- January 21, 1998
QUESTION:
Raj, I’ve been on a spiritual path for a long time. And I followed you for a long time, but I just recently started the Course of Miracles," and I’ve run into a little snag, which I was hoping perhaps that you could shed some light on. And I’m going to read to you what the paragraph in which it appears.
It says.... Well, for one thing it is the word "create" and "creation," which they use frequently. And in the preface it states: "Truth is unalterable, eternal and unambiguous. It can be unrecognized, but it cannot be changed. It applies to everything that God created, and only what He created is real. It is beyond learning because it is beyond time and process. It has no opposite; no beginning and no end. It merely is."
Now I believe that God does not create, because if it did it would take that time and process that they talk about, and it would require a beginning. And I believe as it says there, it merely is. What is your viewpoint on that, and the use of the word "creation"?
ANSWER:
Then you have the wonderful opportunity to discover how creation occurs without time. Another word for God is "Being." And very often the word "being" relative to God is seen as a noun, but the word "being" relative to God is really a verb. God is a verb. That is why there is Life. God is the Movement of being, not the movement of a supreme being, but the movement of be-ing the verb.
Movement does not take time. Why? Because contrary to the way you are perceiving at the present time, it isn’t occurring in space. And space is the only place where time can exist. So where is life happening? It’s all happening in the conscious experience of its happening. In other words, it’s all in Mind, if you will. But Mind is God. God is Mind, God is Life, God is Truth. So the Movement of Being is the Movement of Mind. And the Movement of Mind is the experience of consciousness. And Mind does not occupy space, but it is inseparable from the experience of consciousness.
What is there for consciousness to be conscious of? Only itself, because it is the presence that is God, it is the Movement of Being.
The Movement is infinite, therefore there is no place for the Movement to go. And yet the experience of being occurs. Time has nothing to do with it, space has nothing to do with it. And truly the process of awakening involves making a shift from the perception of things—which are really ideas experienced in mind—it is the shifting from the perception of things in space to the experience of them being the inseparable presence of you. And to make that more meaningful, or shall I say more relevant, when you wake up, or as you become more and more clearly awake, you will begin to recognize yourself in everything. You will see it and you will say, "Ahh, it’s just like me." In other words, there is nothing about it that is foreign or at odds with you.
Right now you all have experiences of seeing something and recognizing its beauty immediately. There’s just no question about its being beautiful. This experience of beauty is an experience of recognizing yourself in that thing. In other words, there is nothing about the beauty of that thing which is at odds with your ability to recognize beauty.
Now that’s just an example of what I mean when I say you will say, "it’s just like me," except as you wake up it will be more than the recognition of beauty. It is as though every constituent part of that thing, whether it’s the view out the window, or an object that is smaller in your hand. It will be a recognition that every constituent part of what you are seeing, whether it’s water, whether it’s land, whether it’s trees that have pine needles and leaves and bark and ants crawling up, all the constituent parts of what you see are just like you. In other words, are not in any way unrecognizable to you as that which is completely in harmony with who and what you are at the very depth of your being. These are inadequate words that I am using to express the wholeness of the experience, but they express the feeling and convey the idea.
You will be aware not just at an overall whole view, but of every constituent part of what is there. And you will recognize yourself in it—it’s just like you, or you are just like it. There is nothing out of sync in any way.
Now this experience still leaves everything appearing to be in space with the mountains across the water, and trees on the mountains, and snow on the mountains, etc., with other things closer to you. But space does not remain a factor that is relevant to you. Because you know what? The apparent space between you and those things, and the apparent space between the ants and the needles on the trees and the bark, etc., the very space is just like you. It is a constituent part of the conscious experience you are having.
And so the experience of Life becomes integrated, unified, one and it’s just like you and you’re just like it. But everything’s sill apparently is not all jumbled together into an undistinguishable ball of infinite manifestation of God. You see. In this recognition of yourself, it becomes obvious that it’s all a conscious experience, which in itself involves no time, and involves no space.
But nevertheless, what is being experienced moves because Mind, you might say in the act of being conscious of itself moves and is experienced as something by itself. And that self is you and that self is the needle on the tree and it is the space in between, and yet none of it is segregate or separate from anything else. It takes infinity for that which is timeless and spaceless to be fully realized, or to be realizing itself forever.
So I encourage you to begin to consider creation as something that does occur, but something which does not bring into play time and space and does not take time and space in which to occur. And then as you look at everything, begin to let loose of the sense of time and space to what you are seeing and remember that it is a conscious experience that you are having.
And if it is a conscious experience that you are having it must necessarily be an experience of God, even if you have some misinterpretations involved. And then become curious to see God in the Movement that seems to be taking time and have the sense of time that’s involved disappear out of the picture.
There you go, that is something you can be curious about. That is something you can play with, as I said earlier, "what if, what if there is no space to this experience of a world I’m having? What if there is no time to the experience of this world I’m seeing?" Ah! Hey, play with that if you want to learn to teleport. Play with that so that you can play with teleportation. Does that answer your question?
QUESTION:
Raj, I’ve been on a spiritual path for a long time. And I followed you for a long time, but I just recently started the Course of Miracles," and I’ve run into a little snag, which I was hoping perhaps that you could shed some light on. And I’m going to read to you what the paragraph in which it appears.
It says.... Well, for one thing it is the word "create" and "creation," which they use frequently. And in the preface it states: "Truth is unalterable, eternal and unambiguous. It can be unrecognized, but it cannot be changed. It applies to everything that God created, and only what He created is real. It is beyond learning because it is beyond time and process. It has no opposite; no beginning and no end. It merely is."
Now I believe that God does not create, because if it did it would take that time and process that they talk about, and it would require a beginning. And I believe as it says there, it merely is. What is your viewpoint on that, and the use of the word "creation"?
ANSWER:
Then you have the wonderful opportunity to discover how creation occurs without time. Another word for God is "Being." And very often the word "being" relative to God is seen as a noun, but the word "being" relative to God is really a verb. God is a verb. That is why there is Life. God is the Movement of being, not the movement of a supreme being, but the movement of be-ing the verb.
Movement does not take time. Why? Because contrary to the way you are perceiving at the present time, it isn’t occurring in space. And space is the only place where time can exist. So where is life happening? It’s all happening in the conscious experience of its happening. In other words, it’s all in Mind, if you will. But Mind is God. God is Mind, God is Life, God is Truth. So the Movement of Being is the Movement of Mind. And the Movement of Mind is the experience of consciousness. And Mind does not occupy space, but it is inseparable from the experience of consciousness.
What is there for consciousness to be conscious of? Only itself, because it is the presence that is God, it is the Movement of Being.
The Movement is infinite, therefore there is no place for the Movement to go. And yet the experience of being occurs. Time has nothing to do with it, space has nothing to do with it. And truly the process of awakening involves making a shift from the perception of things—which are really ideas experienced in mind—it is the shifting from the perception of things in space to the experience of them being the inseparable presence of you. And to make that more meaningful, or shall I say more relevant, when you wake up, or as you become more and more clearly awake, you will begin to recognize yourself in everything. You will see it and you will say, "Ahh, it’s just like me." In other words, there is nothing about it that is foreign or at odds with you.
Right now you all have experiences of seeing something and recognizing its beauty immediately. There’s just no question about its being beautiful. This experience of beauty is an experience of recognizing yourself in that thing. In other words, there is nothing about the beauty of that thing which is at odds with your ability to recognize beauty.
Now that’s just an example of what I mean when I say you will say, "it’s just like me," except as you wake up it will be more than the recognition of beauty. It is as though every constituent part of that thing, whether it’s the view out the window, or an object that is smaller in your hand. It will be a recognition that every constituent part of what you are seeing, whether it’s water, whether it’s land, whether it’s trees that have pine needles and leaves and bark and ants crawling up, all the constituent parts of what you see are just like you. In other words, are not in any way unrecognizable to you as that which is completely in harmony with who and what you are at the very depth of your being. These are inadequate words that I am using to express the wholeness of the experience, but they express the feeling and convey the idea.
You will be aware not just at an overall whole view, but of every constituent part of what is there. And you will recognize yourself in it—it’s just like you, or you are just like it. There is nothing out of sync in any way.
Now this experience still leaves everything appearing to be in space with the mountains across the water, and trees on the mountains, and snow on the mountains, etc., with other things closer to you. But space does not remain a factor that is relevant to you. Because you know what? The apparent space between you and those things, and the apparent space between the ants and the needles on the trees and the bark, etc., the very space is just like you. It is a constituent part of the conscious experience you are having.
And so the experience of Life becomes integrated, unified, one and it’s just like you and you’re just like it. But everything’s sill apparently is not all jumbled together into an undistinguishable ball of infinite manifestation of God. You see. In this recognition of yourself, it becomes obvious that it’s all a conscious experience, which in itself involves no time, and involves no space.
But nevertheless, what is being experienced moves because Mind, you might say in the act of being conscious of itself moves and is experienced as something by itself. And that self is you and that self is the needle on the tree and it is the space in between, and yet none of it is segregate or separate from anything else. It takes infinity for that which is timeless and spaceless to be fully realized, or to be realizing itself forever.
So I encourage you to begin to consider creation as something that does occur, but something which does not bring into play time and space and does not take time and space in which to occur. And then as you look at everything, begin to let loose of the sense of time and space to what you are seeing and remember that it is a conscious experience that you are having.
And if it is a conscious experience that you are having it must necessarily be an experience of God, even if you have some misinterpretations involved. And then become curious to see God in the Movement that seems to be taking time and have the sense of time that’s involved disappear out of the picture.
There you go, that is something you can be curious about. That is something you can play with, as I said earlier, "what if, what if there is no space to this experience of a world I’m having? What if there is no time to the experience of this world I’m seeing?" Ah! Hey, play with that if you want to learn to teleport. Play with that so that you can play with teleportation. Does that answer your question?
Thursday, July 1, 2010
179 - Addictions
QUESTION:
My question is on addictions, and mainly because I’ve got them and everybody I know has got one or two or three or whatever.
And I’m talking about addictions like smoking, cigarettes or marijuana or harder drugs, drinking, eating, gambling, whatever. I realize that we have addictions to suppress things we can’t cope with, memories from the past. And if we could face them then we wouldn’t need our addictions.
Why is it so hard for humanity? And what is the key to healing that? I mean even people on the spiritual path have also still got their addictions.
ANSWER:
You are only ever addicted to that which will cover up your uneasiness, your being out of peace. And what causes you to feel out of your peace is not experiencing your wholeness.
Again, it is the attempt to get rid of the bell that is ringing on the truck that is backing up!
Now, if you want to deal with your addictions, don’t deal with your addictions - address your peace. Make the conscious choice for your peace more consistently.
When you are in your peace, you experience absolutely no call for defense, because you feel no vulnerability.
“Yes, but I have meditated and I still find I need the cigarette or I still want to get up and have a chocolate eclair,” or whatever.
Well, I will tell you that it is very important for you to know something that I shared yesterday, and that is: when you become still, when you yield up control and relax into your peace it isn’t just an absence of anxiety, of nerves. It isn’t that your body has simply, for a time, relaxed. This experience of peace is a direct connection with your capital “S” Self, your essential Being, the nature of which is immoveable peace - unchanging peace.
Your very practice of meditation is proof that whenever you choose to abandon anxiety and move into your peace, it is there. What you are not clear on is the fact that you didn’t create the peace by means of your meditation. The practice of meditation simply allowed you to move into that place within yourself where your peace is unalterably, unchangeably, eternally present.
So when you do take steps to become still and you do experience your peace, I want you to start paying attention to it as though it is a direct experience of your divinity and not just a physical absence of tension. And as you begin to pay attention to it as an actual experience of what you divinely are, the experience of your peace will begin to enlarge and more meaning will come into play in you.
Eating, smoking, any of your addictions are defenses against being uncomfortable. But they are steps taken at an ego level to address an ego experience and they will forever not solve the problem. The only thing that will solve the problem is the experience of the real peace of your Being, which is available to every single one of you at every moment.
In your peace you begin to experience equilibrium, balance. Anxiety is when you are out of balance. And this balance, when you are experiencing it, is unlimited. There simply is an awareness of being big, is the only way I can put it. And so this balance is a huge balance. So huge that it’s obvious to you that there could be nothing to actually unsettle it.
I will tell you one of the reasons that it is so important to meditate - or in Biblical terms, to go into your closet and pray unto the Father which is in secret, or which is in the silence - one of the greatest reasons for doing that is not the immediate reduction of tension or anxiety, but the fact that you get, shall I say, on a regular basis an experience of your divine Self, not as a concept or an idea, but as an actual experience. And if you do it regularly, this experience of who you are and what your nature is becomes more familiar to you. And the more familiar it becomes to you, the more you will spontaneously make a choice for it.
Now I would encourage all of you to not think of your addictions in terms of levels of seriousness. Addiction is addiction. Addiction is a compulsive grab for whatever will cover up your experience of imbalance, without correcting the imbalance. It is the ignorance, it is the absence of the experience of your peace that causes you to take steps to atone for it by insulating yourself against it, which really doesn’t constitute atonement.
Everyone’s attempt to succeed in life against the odds is an addiction. And it is no less or more morally judgeable than addiction to a drug.
Indeed, everything that I have been sharing with you today, yesterday and will be sharing with you tomorrow, is directed at uncovering to you your innocence and your fundamental nature so that you might consciously choose for it, rather than choosing for that which blocks your experience of it and seems to provide you with insulation against your discomfort.
Addiction to the challenge of life... Life isn’t a challenge. Life is an unfoldment. Life is a Movement. And at the bottom line, it is a Movement of Conscious Awareness. And you are not experiencing it as the Movement of the Conscious Awareness that you are, because you are presently identifying with a small portion of the infinity of you called your body and your own little mind, that seems to be in the middle of and subject to this Movement.
At the bottom line: All of you are addicted to escaping yourself; escaping the infinity of you that is inseparable from the presence of the Movement of God called Creation.
So now, does that mean that you stop condemning the ones that are addicted to drugs and you get on your own case? No. Let-go of the judgment, and begin to consciously choose for your peace, even if it means that you are meditating only twice a day for twenty minutes, or once a day for twenty minutes. The point is to begin on a somewhat regular basis to provide yourself with the experience of your peace; because that is the first step of the experience of your wholeness, of your balance or equilibrium, in which there is nothing present to insulate yourself from. And, therefore, nothing compelling you to grab for relief.
So everyone is in the same boat. And everyone, no matter what the name on that boat is, is worthy of getting out of that boat. And you get out of that boat by daring to begin to have a different view of who and what you are. And the easiest way to peg who you really are is to use the word divine. Because the divine has no dualistic or negative connotations to it, except that you think that being divine will mean you won’t be too popular. “Nobody likes a nice guy,” the saying goes.
But to experience your divinity is to experience your integrity. And to experience your integrity means there is no experience in you that feels like holding itself back—being a wall flower, being shy. And so you make the gift of you, in any circumstance, more easily.
The answer to your question is that your release from addiction comes from the experience of your peace. And so your peace and a consistent experience of it is what is called for. You can delve into all of the psychological reasons that you can find within yourself, but that is not going to solve the problem. Without understanding what all the psychological motivators are for your addiction, you CAN choose for your peace and practice it by praying in the sense of going into the silence within you and desiring of God to be filled with the clear experience of who you are.
And as I said, in the midst of the experience of the equilibrium of your divine Being, the so called psychological triggers to your addictions, even if they don’t dissolve, will not trigger anything anymore. And in not triggering anything anymore, they will dissolve.
So I encourage all of you, relative to your addictions, not to set up a task for yourself of self-analysis, which because of the great complexity of your psyche is necessarily going to take a long time before you can reach that peace of mind that would allow you to wake up. Just begin to value your peace.
And as I said, remember the experience of your peace is not just the absence of physical anxiety, it is a direct, real experience of your essential capital “B” Being - your divine Self. And that realization will allow for an embellishment, an expansion of the meaning of the peace of your Being and your clearer experience of who you really Are, right here, right now, without dying and going to Heaven.
Now, you thought I was finished. Connected with the release of any addiction is necessarily a subject of forgiveness. Forgiveness can become a lengthy complicated process - another time consumer. And what you need to know is that indeed when you come into the direct experience of the peace of your being it is impossible for you to hold a grudge, and forgiveness happens spontaneously.
I realize that it sounds like I’m taking all of the fun work out of getting better. After all, there would have been some satisfaction to have worked your way through your problems and solved them. You could give yourself a pat on the back. It’s just another way the ego has of keeping you preoccupied from actually waking up for a little bit more time.
And you know what? Most of what I am saying to you, at one time or another you have had an experience of. You have had an experience of peace, where your concerns were absent, your anxieties were absent, and you had a clarity about you that allowed you to act or behave appropriately. But you thought it was a transcendental, temporary experience—a glimpse of how it will be at another time and another place. When actually what happened was, you became defenseless enough for a long enough moment to have a Real experience of being in the NOW. That’s the fact!
And the lesson of it is that at any moment or for consecutive moments if you allow yourself to be defenseless, that will be your experience without having to GRO-O-O-OW into it, DE-VEL-L-L-OP into it, IMPR-O-O-VE into it. “Father, I didn’t do anything.” No, you just let, you just let it happen and it happened. No, it’s not very satisfying to the ego, “can’t take credit for it.”
Who cares whether you can take credit for it if you’re experiencing it, and if what you are experiencing is you in full embrace of your Sanity experiencing your Wholeness.
Again, this improvement, this development, is all part of addiction. Climbing up from the bottom of the barrel—boy, wait till you can tell everybody that you got to the top. Why not cut a hole in the bottom and fall through.
Getting in touch with your Being is like allowing yourself to be at the bottom of the barrel and giving up. Because what you’re giving up is the addiction. The addiction to being successful in a frame of mind that is not natural to you.
I am very glad you asked the question.
QUESTION:
I have a personal question it’s in relation to my relationship with my husband. He’s a very creative person, but is not expressing himself because he’s a teacher and finds it difficult to be creative outside of the teaching experience. He’s also alcohol dependent.
And my questions is about alcoholism, I can’t understand it. And I can’t understand the nature of his search.
ANSWER:
I will tell you that the alcoholism is a means of avoiding the search. It is a means of withdrawing into a false sense of safety, but one which feels safe.
Now there are two things you need to know. First of all, it is not appropriate for you to be tolerant of the alcohol dependency. It is important for you to stand firm in disagreement with it, and further be present as the call for action, if you will, on his part to do something about it. You are not to join him in his ignorance,let us say, and be tolerant of it.
Now, if everyone around him simply closes their eyes and expresses what many people call unconditional love, which means not expressing any intelligence at all, then all of you will be joining him in his ignorance. And it is not unkind for you to be the presence of intelligence actively expressing itself.
Now if you simply say, “this is intolerable, this is not intelligent,” and you leave it as that, it is most definitely going to come across as criticism and judgment, and there will be resentment to it. But if you say, “this is intolerable, this is unintelligent, and we must replace it with something that is intelligent, that steps must be taken that help uncover your capacity to be independent and to also be safe,” then that cannot be taken as easily as though it were a criticism.
Because you are saying there is something needing to be dealt with, and there is a way to deal with it.
And you must be willing to push for his integrity. He will at times interpret that as your being a demanding wife. But what you will be being is the active presence of intelligence that says there is a solution to this. And it constitutes a vote of confidence in his being able to move into that experience of his integrity. You are saying, “I see that you have integrity in spite of what you are doing. And I demand to see that integrity expressed. I am calling it forth. I want to see it. I am not going to agree to your covering it up, because it isn’t the truth about you. Let’s do something about it.”
Now that’s the first thing for you to know. The second thing for you to realize is what I talked about yesterday, that every single one of you are afraid of your good, are afraid of waking up because you are afraid that it will cost you something.
I’m going to express this idea in a slightly different way: Many of you do not want to know the truth because you are afraid that the truth will condemn you, that it will uncover your faults and your flaws and then you will just be stuck with them. Well I will tell you something, the nature of truth is love. And truth uncovers the illusory nature of the flaws that your ego has told you you have.
Nevertheless, every single one of you is afraid of truth, is afraid of unconditional love being given to you, is afraid of your conscious experience of Reality, is afraid to experience your Christhood. You say you want it, but when you come right down to the actual possibility of experiencing it I will guaranty you you will wonder if it will not bring you a great deal of responsibility that you don’t really want. Or that it will require of you what you don’t have the capacity to give. Everyone is afraid of their good and that is why it is held at arms length to one degree or another.
And so understand that your husband is hiding, is moving into a safe place, because he is afraid of his good, and he is afraid that his good will uncover how bad he is. It is understandable that he is withdrawing from his conscious experience of his independence, because the ego has fooled him into thinking that it will cost him something valuable - his safety in this case - if indeed he takes hold of his independence and his integrity.
So understand that he is not in a worse position than you are, and you are not in a better position than he is, you are both standing at the threshold of being willing to embrace your good and discover that it will not condemn and convict you and thereby put you in the position of having to pay penance. In other words, pay the price and suffer.
The nature of truth is love. And the effect of love is to uncover and illuminate the fact that what the ego has called your faults are illusions, not to be validated, and not to be hidden from. You don’t have to be afraid to have nothing uncovered. And yet, all of you are afraid that the somethingness that the ego has painted you with is real, and that in the illumination of love and truth your ugliness, your terribleness, your worthlessness will show up like a sore thumb.
But the fact is that in the illumination and truth and love your flawlessness, your innocence, your perfection becomes illuminated to you. And it is such a relief.
So at the same time that you recognize that it is understandable that he is taking the steps that he is taking you also must not play into it or validate it. You must see that you are not in a position of judging him, because he is suffering from ignorance just as you are. But then you must make a stand for what he divinely is, just as you must make a stand for what you divinely are. And say, “I will not play into or validate by my silence your ignorance, and this unintelligent way to access safety.”
Now love yourself and then love him in that order. And love yourself by being willing to claim your right to experience intelligence and order and comfort and an absence of fear in your experience. And then love him. And love him by eliciting from him the clearer expression of intelligence.
To be blunt with you, demand it from him. You are demanding that the truth of him come forth and no longer be hidden.
This can be done lovingly. But it must be done firmly. And if you are acknowledging his divinity, his Christhood, right there as the super imposition of the ego seems to obscure it, then you will be able to make the demand without judging him.
And he will be able to more easily hear it as a call for his Christhood, as a call for his essential value and worth. And he will be likely to hear it as a vote of confidence that indeed he has it, even though his ego has fooled him into thinking he doesn’t.
You are calling forth the Christ of him. And one does not call forth the Christ of another with judgment or anger or frustration, but with a clear sense that it is there, and a clear expectation that it will come forth because it is what is Real.
Do not any longer be silent and allow dependency to be his mode of operation. You are not there to change him. But you are there to be, as I said earlier, the light. You are there to be the truth. You are there to be the intelligence. And intelligence calls forth intelligence. Intelligence does not support even by silence non-intelligence.
The ego imposes upon you an illegitimate and false sense of existence. And you in your way, and he in his way are suffering from that imposition. And you are both deserving of being free of it. And that is the basis upon which you call for a change. It is from a standpoint of compassion but not agreement.
He is worthy of being free of it, and that is why you are calling for him to be free of it. And as long as his worthiness of freedom stays foremost in your mind, your firm demand will be expressed without judgment that would turn him away.
Like the one lost sheep he is worthy of saving just as you are, with an awareness that that sheep deserves to be in the company of the rest of the flock. And if you approach him from the standpoint of his worthiness, headway will be made. That’s the end of the answer.
My question is on addictions, and mainly because I’ve got them and everybody I know has got one or two or three or whatever.
And I’m talking about addictions like smoking, cigarettes or marijuana or harder drugs, drinking, eating, gambling, whatever. I realize that we have addictions to suppress things we can’t cope with, memories from the past. And if we could face them then we wouldn’t need our addictions.
Why is it so hard for humanity? And what is the key to healing that? I mean even people on the spiritual path have also still got their addictions.
ANSWER:
You are only ever addicted to that which will cover up your uneasiness, your being out of peace. And what causes you to feel out of your peace is not experiencing your wholeness.
Again, it is the attempt to get rid of the bell that is ringing on the truck that is backing up!
Now, if you want to deal with your addictions, don’t deal with your addictions - address your peace. Make the conscious choice for your peace more consistently.
When you are in your peace, you experience absolutely no call for defense, because you feel no vulnerability.
“Yes, but I have meditated and I still find I need the cigarette or I still want to get up and have a chocolate eclair,” or whatever.
Well, I will tell you that it is very important for you to know something that I shared yesterday, and that is: when you become still, when you yield up control and relax into your peace it isn’t just an absence of anxiety, of nerves. It isn’t that your body has simply, for a time, relaxed. This experience of peace is a direct connection with your capital “S” Self, your essential Being, the nature of which is immoveable peace - unchanging peace.
Your very practice of meditation is proof that whenever you choose to abandon anxiety and move into your peace, it is there. What you are not clear on is the fact that you didn’t create the peace by means of your meditation. The practice of meditation simply allowed you to move into that place within yourself where your peace is unalterably, unchangeably, eternally present.
So when you do take steps to become still and you do experience your peace, I want you to start paying attention to it as though it is a direct experience of your divinity and not just a physical absence of tension. And as you begin to pay attention to it as an actual experience of what you divinely are, the experience of your peace will begin to enlarge and more meaning will come into play in you.
Eating, smoking, any of your addictions are defenses against being uncomfortable. But they are steps taken at an ego level to address an ego experience and they will forever not solve the problem. The only thing that will solve the problem is the experience of the real peace of your Being, which is available to every single one of you at every moment.
In your peace you begin to experience equilibrium, balance. Anxiety is when you are out of balance. And this balance, when you are experiencing it, is unlimited. There simply is an awareness of being big, is the only way I can put it. And so this balance is a huge balance. So huge that it’s obvious to you that there could be nothing to actually unsettle it.
I will tell you one of the reasons that it is so important to meditate - or in Biblical terms, to go into your closet and pray unto the Father which is in secret, or which is in the silence - one of the greatest reasons for doing that is not the immediate reduction of tension or anxiety, but the fact that you get, shall I say, on a regular basis an experience of your divine Self, not as a concept or an idea, but as an actual experience. And if you do it regularly, this experience of who you are and what your nature is becomes more familiar to you. And the more familiar it becomes to you, the more you will spontaneously make a choice for it.
Now I would encourage all of you to not think of your addictions in terms of levels of seriousness. Addiction is addiction. Addiction is a compulsive grab for whatever will cover up your experience of imbalance, without correcting the imbalance. It is the ignorance, it is the absence of the experience of your peace that causes you to take steps to atone for it by insulating yourself against it, which really doesn’t constitute atonement.
Everyone’s attempt to succeed in life against the odds is an addiction. And it is no less or more morally judgeable than addiction to a drug.
Indeed, everything that I have been sharing with you today, yesterday and will be sharing with you tomorrow, is directed at uncovering to you your innocence and your fundamental nature so that you might consciously choose for it, rather than choosing for that which blocks your experience of it and seems to provide you with insulation against your discomfort.
Addiction to the challenge of life... Life isn’t a challenge. Life is an unfoldment. Life is a Movement. And at the bottom line, it is a Movement of Conscious Awareness. And you are not experiencing it as the Movement of the Conscious Awareness that you are, because you are presently identifying with a small portion of the infinity of you called your body and your own little mind, that seems to be in the middle of and subject to this Movement.
At the bottom line: All of you are addicted to escaping yourself; escaping the infinity of you that is inseparable from the presence of the Movement of God called Creation.
So now, does that mean that you stop condemning the ones that are addicted to drugs and you get on your own case? No. Let-go of the judgment, and begin to consciously choose for your peace, even if it means that you are meditating only twice a day for twenty minutes, or once a day for twenty minutes. The point is to begin on a somewhat regular basis to provide yourself with the experience of your peace; because that is the first step of the experience of your wholeness, of your balance or equilibrium, in which there is nothing present to insulate yourself from. And, therefore, nothing compelling you to grab for relief.
So everyone is in the same boat. And everyone, no matter what the name on that boat is, is worthy of getting out of that boat. And you get out of that boat by daring to begin to have a different view of who and what you are. And the easiest way to peg who you really are is to use the word divine. Because the divine has no dualistic or negative connotations to it, except that you think that being divine will mean you won’t be too popular. “Nobody likes a nice guy,” the saying goes.
But to experience your divinity is to experience your integrity. And to experience your integrity means there is no experience in you that feels like holding itself back—being a wall flower, being shy. And so you make the gift of you, in any circumstance, more easily.
The answer to your question is that your release from addiction comes from the experience of your peace. And so your peace and a consistent experience of it is what is called for. You can delve into all of the psychological reasons that you can find within yourself, but that is not going to solve the problem. Without understanding what all the psychological motivators are for your addiction, you CAN choose for your peace and practice it by praying in the sense of going into the silence within you and desiring of God to be filled with the clear experience of who you are.
And as I said, in the midst of the experience of the equilibrium of your divine Being, the so called psychological triggers to your addictions, even if they don’t dissolve, will not trigger anything anymore. And in not triggering anything anymore, they will dissolve.
So I encourage all of you, relative to your addictions, not to set up a task for yourself of self-analysis, which because of the great complexity of your psyche is necessarily going to take a long time before you can reach that peace of mind that would allow you to wake up. Just begin to value your peace.
And as I said, remember the experience of your peace is not just the absence of physical anxiety, it is a direct, real experience of your essential capital “B” Being - your divine Self. And that realization will allow for an embellishment, an expansion of the meaning of the peace of your Being and your clearer experience of who you really Are, right here, right now, without dying and going to Heaven.
Now, you thought I was finished. Connected with the release of any addiction is necessarily a subject of forgiveness. Forgiveness can become a lengthy complicated process - another time consumer. And what you need to know is that indeed when you come into the direct experience of the peace of your being it is impossible for you to hold a grudge, and forgiveness happens spontaneously.
I realize that it sounds like I’m taking all of the fun work out of getting better. After all, there would have been some satisfaction to have worked your way through your problems and solved them. You could give yourself a pat on the back. It’s just another way the ego has of keeping you preoccupied from actually waking up for a little bit more time.
And you know what? Most of what I am saying to you, at one time or another you have had an experience of. You have had an experience of peace, where your concerns were absent, your anxieties were absent, and you had a clarity about you that allowed you to act or behave appropriately. But you thought it was a transcendental, temporary experience—a glimpse of how it will be at another time and another place. When actually what happened was, you became defenseless enough for a long enough moment to have a Real experience of being in the NOW. That’s the fact!
And the lesson of it is that at any moment or for consecutive moments if you allow yourself to be defenseless, that will be your experience without having to GRO-O-O-OW into it, DE-VEL-L-L-OP into it, IMPR-O-O-VE into it. “Father, I didn’t do anything.” No, you just let, you just let it happen and it happened. No, it’s not very satisfying to the ego, “can’t take credit for it.”
Who cares whether you can take credit for it if you’re experiencing it, and if what you are experiencing is you in full embrace of your Sanity experiencing your Wholeness.
Again, this improvement, this development, is all part of addiction. Climbing up from the bottom of the barrel—boy, wait till you can tell everybody that you got to the top. Why not cut a hole in the bottom and fall through.
Getting in touch with your Being is like allowing yourself to be at the bottom of the barrel and giving up. Because what you’re giving up is the addiction. The addiction to being successful in a frame of mind that is not natural to you.
I am very glad you asked the question.
QUESTION:
I have a personal question it’s in relation to my relationship with my husband. He’s a very creative person, but is not expressing himself because he’s a teacher and finds it difficult to be creative outside of the teaching experience. He’s also alcohol dependent.
And my questions is about alcoholism, I can’t understand it. And I can’t understand the nature of his search.
ANSWER:
I will tell you that the alcoholism is a means of avoiding the search. It is a means of withdrawing into a false sense of safety, but one which feels safe.
Now there are two things you need to know. First of all, it is not appropriate for you to be tolerant of the alcohol dependency. It is important for you to stand firm in disagreement with it, and further be present as the call for action, if you will, on his part to do something about it. You are not to join him in his ignorance,let us say, and be tolerant of it.
Now, if everyone around him simply closes their eyes and expresses what many people call unconditional love, which means not expressing any intelligence at all, then all of you will be joining him in his ignorance. And it is not unkind for you to be the presence of intelligence actively expressing itself.
Now if you simply say, “this is intolerable, this is not intelligent,” and you leave it as that, it is most definitely going to come across as criticism and judgment, and there will be resentment to it. But if you say, “this is intolerable, this is unintelligent, and we must replace it with something that is intelligent, that steps must be taken that help uncover your capacity to be independent and to also be safe,” then that cannot be taken as easily as though it were a criticism.
Because you are saying there is something needing to be dealt with, and there is a way to deal with it.
And you must be willing to push for his integrity. He will at times interpret that as your being a demanding wife. But what you will be being is the active presence of intelligence that says there is a solution to this. And it constitutes a vote of confidence in his being able to move into that experience of his integrity. You are saying, “I see that you have integrity in spite of what you are doing. And I demand to see that integrity expressed. I am calling it forth. I want to see it. I am not going to agree to your covering it up, because it isn’t the truth about you. Let’s do something about it.”
Now that’s the first thing for you to know. The second thing for you to realize is what I talked about yesterday, that every single one of you are afraid of your good, are afraid of waking up because you are afraid that it will cost you something.
I’m going to express this idea in a slightly different way: Many of you do not want to know the truth because you are afraid that the truth will condemn you, that it will uncover your faults and your flaws and then you will just be stuck with them. Well I will tell you something, the nature of truth is love. And truth uncovers the illusory nature of the flaws that your ego has told you you have.
Nevertheless, every single one of you is afraid of truth, is afraid of unconditional love being given to you, is afraid of your conscious experience of Reality, is afraid to experience your Christhood. You say you want it, but when you come right down to the actual possibility of experiencing it I will guaranty you you will wonder if it will not bring you a great deal of responsibility that you don’t really want. Or that it will require of you what you don’t have the capacity to give. Everyone is afraid of their good and that is why it is held at arms length to one degree or another.
And so understand that your husband is hiding, is moving into a safe place, because he is afraid of his good, and he is afraid that his good will uncover how bad he is. It is understandable that he is withdrawing from his conscious experience of his independence, because the ego has fooled him into thinking that it will cost him something valuable - his safety in this case - if indeed he takes hold of his independence and his integrity.
So understand that he is not in a worse position than you are, and you are not in a better position than he is, you are both standing at the threshold of being willing to embrace your good and discover that it will not condemn and convict you and thereby put you in the position of having to pay penance. In other words, pay the price and suffer.
The nature of truth is love. And the effect of love is to uncover and illuminate the fact that what the ego has called your faults are illusions, not to be validated, and not to be hidden from. You don’t have to be afraid to have nothing uncovered. And yet, all of you are afraid that the somethingness that the ego has painted you with is real, and that in the illumination of love and truth your ugliness, your terribleness, your worthlessness will show up like a sore thumb.
But the fact is that in the illumination and truth and love your flawlessness, your innocence, your perfection becomes illuminated to you. And it is such a relief.
So at the same time that you recognize that it is understandable that he is taking the steps that he is taking you also must not play into it or validate it. You must see that you are not in a position of judging him, because he is suffering from ignorance just as you are. But then you must make a stand for what he divinely is, just as you must make a stand for what you divinely are. And say, “I will not play into or validate by my silence your ignorance, and this unintelligent way to access safety.”
Now love yourself and then love him in that order. And love yourself by being willing to claim your right to experience intelligence and order and comfort and an absence of fear in your experience. And then love him. And love him by eliciting from him the clearer expression of intelligence.
To be blunt with you, demand it from him. You are demanding that the truth of him come forth and no longer be hidden.
This can be done lovingly. But it must be done firmly. And if you are acknowledging his divinity, his Christhood, right there as the super imposition of the ego seems to obscure it, then you will be able to make the demand without judging him.
And he will be able to more easily hear it as a call for his Christhood, as a call for his essential value and worth. And he will be likely to hear it as a vote of confidence that indeed he has it, even though his ego has fooled him into thinking he doesn’t.
You are calling forth the Christ of him. And one does not call forth the Christ of another with judgment or anger or frustration, but with a clear sense that it is there, and a clear expectation that it will come forth because it is what is Real.
Do not any longer be silent and allow dependency to be his mode of operation. You are not there to change him. But you are there to be, as I said earlier, the light. You are there to be the truth. You are there to be the intelligence. And intelligence calls forth intelligence. Intelligence does not support even by silence non-intelligence.
The ego imposes upon you an illegitimate and false sense of existence. And you in your way, and he in his way are suffering from that imposition. And you are both deserving of being free of it. And that is the basis upon which you call for a change. It is from a standpoint of compassion but not agreement.
He is worthy of being free of it, and that is why you are calling for him to be free of it. And as long as his worthiness of freedom stays foremost in your mind, your firm demand will be expressed without judgment that would turn him away.
Like the one lost sheep he is worthy of saving just as you are, with an awareness that that sheep deserves to be in the company of the rest of the flock. And if you approach him from the standpoint of his worthiness, headway will be made. That’s the end of the answer.
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
178 - article by Alan Eiew (30.6.2010)
创业的世界，可以在两种可能性进行…
一是“真实”的世界，另一是“虚拟”。
朋友说，不少年轻人已经在虚拟世界创业成功，另一位朋友也说，更多人在虚拟世界失败，而失败的原因，和真实世界其中一项重要因素相同，那就是缺乏“持续力”。
在还没做事情前，会或不会做，往往决定于事情的容易度。
人们会决定做一件事，通常是认为很容易。康乃尔大学的 David Dunning 及 Justin Kruger 在 1999年12月的“人格与社会心理学月刊”发表说：“无知要比知识更容易造就自信”！意思是当一个人尝试新东西时，人性中有部分认为，要精通那项技术是很容易的！这个现象叫做“达克效应”（Dunning-Kruger effect）。
当人们认为一件事很难时，他们不会去尝试；一旦愿意尝试，必然认为那是他们可以全然掌握的。因此，自信有时是来自无知。
曾在部落格邀请大家一起进行“21天试验"，原本以为不说消极话是件轻而易举的事，开始落实，经过了一个月的时间，没想到还是“破功”。几天前为“香港人寿险保险经理协会”（GAMA HK）大会演讲结束，到市区闲逛时，因为累的关系，竟然不经意连续抱怨了几次，比如：“好累、好热、怎么会…”！结果，又要从新连续21天算起。
过去一直认为自己是“极度”积极的人，透过这实验，知道自己的“不以为然”。这实验真棒，让人看到自己没有意识的行为！
在实验过程中，发现自己破功，会有些懊恼。几次下来看到自己不够好之后，会逐渐认为要完成这实验，机会相对渺茫。当不确定的感受升起，不安全感也逐渐出现。
几位朋友，原本参与这项试验，现在已经放弃。尽管有任何理由，主要原因是掌握不了可以完成目标的“不确定性”。
创业的选择，提供人们透过不确定性，了解自己原来可以面对更大的可能。
课程中，问过一些朋友，创业难不难？有的人说“难”，也许他们的状况是对其行业缺乏了解，包括专业知识、市场定位、销售模式、服务架构、客户倾向、危机处理等等。事情在容易前都是难的！
相反的，在轨道上的人说“不难”，是因为经过一段时间的考验，已经可以面对种种的变化。可是，如果继续在“不难”的状况，进步的空间会逐渐缩小，这时候，要考虑放大目标。目标一旦放大，难的程度便提高。
不管做任何事情，调整“难”或“不难”的用意，是让我们进入“不确定性”。如果有机会经常进入这样的状态，则可以碰触不安全感的经历。那会比较容易与它和平相处。
我们总以为自己可以掌握行为而达成目标，透过21天试验，发现原来“控制”自己行为是那么不确定性。外在变化已经是那么不确定，加上内在“输出”行为又是那么无意识，请问达到目标，成功的机会有多少？
21天试验提供了一个机会，让您继续面对不确定性，是否重新考虑继续进行试验呢？…
一是“真实”的世界，另一是“虚拟”。
朋友说，不少年轻人已经在虚拟世界创业成功，另一位朋友也说，更多人在虚拟世界失败，而失败的原因，和真实世界其中一项重要因素相同，那就是缺乏“持续力”。
在还没做事情前，会或不会做，往往决定于事情的容易度。
人们会决定做一件事，通常是认为很容易。康乃尔大学的 David Dunning 及 Justin Kruger 在 1999年12月的“人格与社会心理学月刊”发表说：“无知要比知识更容易造就自信”！意思是当一个人尝试新东西时，人性中有部分认为，要精通那项技术是很容易的！这个现象叫做“达克效应”（Dunning-Kruger effect）。
当人们认为一件事很难时，他们不会去尝试；一旦愿意尝试，必然认为那是他们可以全然掌握的。因此，自信有时是来自无知。
曾在部落格邀请大家一起进行“21天试验"，原本以为不说消极话是件轻而易举的事，开始落实，经过了一个月的时间，没想到还是“破功”。几天前为“香港人寿险保险经理协会”（GAMA HK）大会演讲结束，到市区闲逛时，因为累的关系，竟然不经意连续抱怨了几次，比如：“好累、好热、怎么会…”！结果，又要从新连续21天算起。
过去一直认为自己是“极度”积极的人，透过这实验，知道自己的“不以为然”。这实验真棒，让人看到自己没有意识的行为！
在实验过程中，发现自己破功，会有些懊恼。几次下来看到自己不够好之后，会逐渐认为要完成这实验，机会相对渺茫。当不确定的感受升起，不安全感也逐渐出现。
几位朋友，原本参与这项试验，现在已经放弃。尽管有任何理由，主要原因是掌握不了可以完成目标的“不确定性”。
创业的选择，提供人们透过不确定性，了解自己原来可以面对更大的可能。
课程中，问过一些朋友，创业难不难？有的人说“难”，也许他们的状况是对其行业缺乏了解，包括专业知识、市场定位、销售模式、服务架构、客户倾向、危机处理等等。事情在容易前都是难的！
相反的，在轨道上的人说“不难”，是因为经过一段时间的考验，已经可以面对种种的变化。可是，如果继续在“不难”的状况，进步的空间会逐渐缩小，这时候，要考虑放大目标。目标一旦放大，难的程度便提高。
不管做任何事情，调整“难”或“不难”的用意，是让我们进入“不确定性”。如果有机会经常进入这样的状态，则可以碰触不安全感的经历。那会比较容易与它和平相处。
我们总以为自己可以掌握行为而达成目标，透过21天试验，发现原来“控制”自己行为是那么不确定性。外在变化已经是那么不确定，加上内在“输出”行为又是那么无意识，请问达到目标，成功的机会有多少？
21天试验提供了一个机会，让您继续面对不确定性，是否重新考虑继续进行试验呢？…
Saturday, June 26, 2010
177 - 你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求別人守信，你可以要求自己對人好，但不能期待人家對你好
香港名DJ梁繼璋給兒子的信(言之有物值得一看)給孩子的備忘錄
作者介紹─
梁繼璋( 1955年8月17日－)，英文名Michael，前香港電台第二台節目主持人，也是一位名DJ、作家，曾從事廣告、電視台等媒體創作。因其柔和、磁性的聲線，令他讀文章時更有氣氛、更容易令聽眾投入。
我兒:
寫這備忘錄給你，基於三個原則：
(一）人生福禍無常，誰也不知可以活多久，有些事情還是早一點說好。
(二）我是你的父親，我不跟你說，沒有人會跟你說。
(三）這備忘錄裏記載的，都是我經過慘痛失敗得回來的體驗，可以為你的成長省回不少冤枉路。
以下，便是你在人生中要好好記住的事：
（一） 對你不好的人，你不要太介懷，在你一生中，沒有人有義務要對你好，除了我和你媽媽。
至於那些對你好的人，你除了要珍惜、感恩外，也請多防備一點，因為，每個人做每件事，總有一個原因，他對你好，未必真的是因為喜歡你，請你必須搞清楚，而不必太快將對方看作真朋友。
（二） 沒有人是不可代替，沒有東西是必須擁有。看透了這一點，將來你身邊的人不再要你，或許失去了世間上最愛的一切時，也應該明白，這並不是甚麼大不了的事。
（三） 生命是短暫的，今日你還在浪費著生命，明日會發覺生命已遠離你了。因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，與其盼望長壽，倒不如早點享受。
（四） 世界上並沒有最愛這回事，愛情只是一種霎時的感覺，而這感覺絕對會隨時日、心境而改變。如果你的所謂最愛離開你，請耐心地等候一下，讓時日慢慢沖洗，讓心靈慢慢沉澱，你的苦就會慢慢淡化。不要過分憧憬愛情的美，不要過分誇大失戀的悲。
（五） 雖然，很多有成就的人士都沒有受過很多教育，但並不等於不用功讀書，就一定可以成功。你學到的知識，就是你擁有的武器。人，可以白手興家，但不可以手無寸鐵，緊記！
（六） 我不會要求你供養我下半輩子，同樣地我也不會供養你的下半輩子，當你長大到可以獨立的時候，我的責任已經完結。以後，你要坐巴士還是Benz，吃魚翅還是粉絲，都要自己負責。
（七） 你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求別人守信，你可以要求自己對人好，但不能期待人家對你好。你怎樣對人，並不代表人家就會怎樣對你，如果看不透這一點，你只會徒添不必要的煩惱。
（八） 我買了十多二十年六合彩，還是一窮二白，連三獎也沒有中，這證明人要發達，還是要努力工作才可以，世界上並沒有免費午餐。
（九） 親人只有一次的緣份，無論這輩子我和你會相處多久，也請好好珍惜共聚的時光，下輩子，無論愛與不愛，都不會再見。
你的爸爸梁繼璋
作者介紹─
梁繼璋( 1955年8月17日－)，英文名Michael，前香港電台第二台節目主持人，也是一位名DJ、作家，曾從事廣告、電視台等媒體創作。因其柔和、磁性的聲線，令他讀文章時更有氣氛、更容易令聽眾投入。
我兒:
寫這備忘錄給你，基於三個原則：
(一）人生福禍無常，誰也不知可以活多久，有些事情還是早一點說好。
(二）我是你的父親，我不跟你說，沒有人會跟你說。
(三）這備忘錄裏記載的，都是我經過慘痛失敗得回來的體驗，可以為你的成長省回不少冤枉路。
以下，便是你在人生中要好好記住的事：
（一） 對你不好的人，你不要太介懷，在你一生中，沒有人有義務要對你好，除了我和你媽媽。
至於那些對你好的人，你除了要珍惜、感恩外，也請多防備一點，因為，每個人做每件事，總有一個原因，他對你好，未必真的是因為喜歡你，請你必須搞清楚，而不必太快將對方看作真朋友。
（二） 沒有人是不可代替，沒有東西是必須擁有。看透了這一點，將來你身邊的人不再要你，或許失去了世間上最愛的一切時，也應該明白，這並不是甚麼大不了的事。
（三） 生命是短暫的，今日你還在浪費著生命，明日會發覺生命已遠離你了。因此，愈早珍惜生命，你享受生命的日子也愈多，與其盼望長壽，倒不如早點享受。
（四） 世界上並沒有最愛這回事，愛情只是一種霎時的感覺，而這感覺絕對會隨時日、心境而改變。如果你的所謂最愛離開你，請耐心地等候一下，讓時日慢慢沖洗，讓心靈慢慢沉澱，你的苦就會慢慢淡化。不要過分憧憬愛情的美，不要過分誇大失戀的悲。
（五） 雖然，很多有成就的人士都沒有受過很多教育，但並不等於不用功讀書，就一定可以成功。你學到的知識，就是你擁有的武器。人，可以白手興家，但不可以手無寸鐵，緊記！
（六） 我不會要求你供養我下半輩子，同樣地我也不會供養你的下半輩子，當你長大到可以獨立的時候，我的責任已經完結。以後，你要坐巴士還是Benz，吃魚翅還是粉絲，都要自己負責。
（七） 你可以要求自己守信，但不能要求別人守信，你可以要求自己對人好，但不能期待人家對你好。你怎樣對人，並不代表人家就會怎樣對你，如果看不透這一點，你只會徒添不必要的煩惱。
（八） 我買了十多二十年六合彩，還是一窮二白，連三獎也沒有中，這證明人要發達，還是要努力工作才可以，世界上並沒有免費午餐。
（九） 親人只有一次的緣份，無論這輩子我和你會相處多久，也請好好珍惜共聚的時光，下輩子，無論愛與不愛，都不會再見。
你的爸爸梁繼璋
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
176 - sharing with Dr Aaron Lim
Dear Dr Aaron, a wonderful day to you. Trust all is well.
I would like to share with gratitude some of my crucial experiences in life.
It is interesting to recollect some of my past experiences. I was born in a traditional Taoist family in a remote village along Perak River. From young age, I was much exposed to my village's Christian Church activities from reading bible, weekly church services & rituals, regular gathering to singing hymns. I was then active in the church activities for about 10 years, until university days. During that period I followed a few pastors/priests in search for a blissful life, but I failed to experience inner peace!
Towards mid-70s when I commenced my career in banking and I suddenly took a keen interest in Theravadian Buddhism (Ceylonese Buddhist temple in Brickfield and subsequently I enrolled as its life-member), and gradually from there I moved on to Mahayanan Buddhism (Chinese type of Buddhism) to experience its seemingly different way of life.
As a keen Buddhist, I followed several monks for their preaching sessions from place to place, and from temple to temple. This happened from mid-70s to early 90s. During that period, I attended many classes of dharma/discourses delivered by Buddhist monks and scholars on various aspects of Buddha's teaching. I also involved myself in some religious activities such as sutra chanting though I was not particularly keen in sutra!
Then I felt disillusioned with religions and slowly I completely lost interest in Buddhism as I felt that religions could no longer satisfy my desire in searching for peace!.. and I increasingly felt that religions could not provide me with inner peace let alone solving problems of mankind..
Then came early 90s when I took keen interest in practising meditation and yoga in my attempt to search for inner peace, and after some months of regular practices, I failed again because I still could not experience peace of mind!..
My life journey took a sharp turn from 1998 onwards. I then "invested" tremendous precious time,energies and money into serious studies of ancient oriental philosophies of 8 characters (analysis of life & fortune), selecting auspicious names & dates as well as Feng Shui. In the process of such learning, I gained insight into life from another perspective. I had for some years provided professional consultation to many people in these areas..
Then in early 2005, I had awakened a bit!.. Suddenly one day I became very interested in 'the unseen world' and I began another new phase/chapter of my eventful journey into sub-conscious & unconscious mind. At this stage, I was extensively drawn into the world of emotional healing activities through hypnotherapy, cosmic & energy healing therapy, family constellation therapy and a bit of spirituality.
This phase was truly eye-opening & life changing for me. It gave me tremendous impact and in-depth exposure to psychic healing thro' a well known American Hypnotherapist, Sylvia Browne who was a popuplar healer and author of many healing books. I read a few and I am still keeping many of her books in the shelf gathering dust!..
My life journey has been tremendously changed since 2007 when Nellie and I have navigated our journey to another direction of spiritual world of ACIM through recommendation of Wan Sin. There, we met you Dr Aaron.
This is another awakening period which includes a process of unlearning all the philosophies gathered in the earlier years. I gradually unlearnt the-once-highly-honored philosophies from my mind. I abandoned and let-go of this load upon realizing that 'I was insane and my mind was sick' to have spent precious life in such meaningless undertakings!.. I became aware that I must unlearn them in order to grow, awaken and to remember my true nature (Love/Spirit).
This phase of journey and exposure has been gradual but increasingly significant with great impact and it has transformed my life!..The transformation involves in-depth comprehension of true nature of life, gaining constant awareness of my thoughts, and ultimately aiming to move from ego/body to Spirit..
Through ACIM I begin to remember who I am and why I am here!..
I am now more conscious of my thoughts. I become aware that in whatever I think, act or speak, I must put love first, and that every event/reality in my life is created only by my mind & thoughts. I have recognized that everything occurred in my life is a valuable lesson for me to practise true gratitude and forgiveness.
My heart feels great appreciation and gratitude to you and Dehyana for helping me remember who I am. You have touched and transformed my life! You have directly contributed to my break-through process in raising my spiritual consciousness.
Much love & gratitude,
George
I would like to share with gratitude some of my crucial experiences in life.
It is interesting to recollect some of my past experiences. I was born in a traditional Taoist family in a remote village along Perak River. From young age, I was much exposed to my village's Christian Church activities from reading bible, weekly church services & rituals, regular gathering to singing hymns. I was then active in the church activities for about 10 years, until university days. During that period I followed a few pastors/priests in search for a blissful life, but I failed to experience inner peace!
Towards mid-70s when I commenced my career in banking and I suddenly took a keen interest in Theravadian Buddhism (Ceylonese Buddhist temple in Brickfield and subsequently I enrolled as its life-member), and gradually from there I moved on to Mahayanan Buddhism (Chinese type of Buddhism) to experience its seemingly different way of life.
As a keen Buddhist, I followed several monks for their preaching sessions from place to place, and from temple to temple. This happened from mid-70s to early 90s. During that period, I attended many classes of dharma/discourses delivered by Buddhist monks and scholars on various aspects of Buddha's teaching. I also involved myself in some religious activities such as sutra chanting though I was not particularly keen in sutra!
Then I felt disillusioned with religions and slowly I completely lost interest in Buddhism as I felt that religions could no longer satisfy my desire in searching for peace!.. and I increasingly felt that religions could not provide me with inner peace let alone solving problems of mankind..
Then came early 90s when I took keen interest in practising meditation and yoga in my attempt to search for inner peace, and after some months of regular practices, I failed again because I still could not experience peace of mind!..
My life journey took a sharp turn from 1998 onwards. I then "invested" tremendous precious time,energies and money into serious studies of ancient oriental philosophies of 8 characters (analysis of life & fortune), selecting auspicious names & dates as well as Feng Shui. In the process of such learning, I gained insight into life from another perspective. I had for some years provided professional consultation to many people in these areas..
Then in early 2005, I had awakened a bit!.. Suddenly one day I became very interested in 'the unseen world' and I began another new phase/chapter of my eventful journey into sub-conscious & unconscious mind. At this stage, I was extensively drawn into the world of emotional healing activities through hypnotherapy, cosmic & energy healing therapy, family constellation therapy and a bit of spirituality.
This phase was truly eye-opening & life changing for me. It gave me tremendous impact and in-depth exposure to psychic healing thro' a well known American Hypnotherapist, Sylvia Browne who was a popuplar healer and author of many healing books. I read a few and I am still keeping many of her books in the shelf gathering dust!..
My life journey has been tremendously changed since 2007 when Nellie and I have navigated our journey to another direction of spiritual world of ACIM through recommendation of Wan Sin. There, we met you Dr Aaron.
This is another awakening period which includes a process of unlearning all the philosophies gathered in the earlier years. I gradually unlearnt the-once-highly-honored philosophies from my mind. I abandoned and let-go of this load upon realizing that 'I was insane and my mind was sick' to have spent precious life in such meaningless undertakings!.. I became aware that I must unlearn them in order to grow, awaken and to remember my true nature (Love/Spirit).
This phase of journey and exposure has been gradual but increasingly significant with great impact and it has transformed my life!..The transformation involves in-depth comprehension of true nature of life, gaining constant awareness of my thoughts, and ultimately aiming to move from ego/body to Spirit..
Through ACIM I begin to remember who I am and why I am here!..
I am now more conscious of my thoughts. I become aware that in whatever I think, act or speak, I must put love first, and that every event/reality in my life is created only by my mind & thoughts. I have recognized that everything occurred in my life is a valuable lesson for me to practise true gratitude and forgiveness.
My heart feels great appreciation and gratitude to you and Dehyana for helping me remember who I am. You have touched and transformed my life! You have directly contributed to my break-through process in raising my spiritual consciousness.
Much love & gratitude,
George
175 - Sharing of some crucial experiences in my life
I would like to share with you in confidence some of my crucial experiences in life.
It is interesting to recollect some of my past experiences. I was born in a traditional Taoist family in a remote village along Perak River. From young age, I was much exposed to my village's Christian Church activities from reading bible, weekly church services & rituals, regular gathering to singing hymns. I was then active in the church activities for about 10 years, until university days. During that period I followed a few pastors/priests in search for a blissful life, but I failed to experience inner peace!
Towards mid-70s when I commenced my career in banking and I suddenly took a keen interest in Theravadian Buddhism (Ceylonese Buddhist temple in Brickfield and subsequently I enrolled as its life-member), and gradually from there I moved on to Mahayanan Buddhism (Chinese type of Buddhism) to experience its seemingly different way of life.
As a keen Buddhist, I followed several monks for their preaching sessions from place to place, and from temple to temple. This happened from mid-70s to early 90s. During the period, I attended many classes of dharma/discourses delivered by Buddhist monks and scholars on various aspects of Buddha's teaching. I also involved myself in some religious activities such as sutra chanting though I was not particularly keen in sutra!
Then I felt disillusioned with religions and slowly I completely lost interest in Buddhism as I felt that religions could no longer satisfy my desire in searching for peace!.. and I increasingly felt that religions could not provide me with inner peace let alone solving problems of mankinds..
Then came early 90s when I took keen interest in practicing meditation in my attempt to search for inner peace, and after some months of regular practices, I failed again because I still could not experience peace of mind!..
My life journey took a sharp turn from 1998 onwards. I then "invested" tremendous precious time,energies and money into serious studies of ancient oriental philosophies of 8 characters (analysis of life & fortune), selecting auspicious names & dates as well as Feng Shui. In the process of such learning, I gained insight into life from another perspective. I had for some years provided professional consultation to many people in these areas..
Then in early 2005, I had awakened a bit!.. Suddenly one day I became very interested in 'the unseen world' and I began another new phase/chapter of my eventful journey into sub-conscious & unconscious mind. At this stage, I was extensively drawn into the world of emotional healing activities through hypnotherapy, cosmic & energy healing therapy, family constellation therapy and a bit of spirituality.
This phase was truly eye-opening & life changing for me. It gave me tremendous impact and in-depth exposure to psychic healing thro' a well known American Hypnotherapist, Sylvia Browne who was a popuplar healer and author of many healing books. I read a few and I have been keeping many of her books in the shelf gathering dust!..
I clearly recall that my son, Kevin's first exposure to his spiritual journey also started in 2005 when I shared with him about my experiences in my journey into sub-conscious & unconscious mind. Such exposure to him was greatly felt and re-enforced in Jan 2006 when he returned home for Lunar New Year, and I also recommended Sylvia Browne's books to him. I remember at that time I talked to him with great details about Sylvia's hypotherapy stories. He was also very interested in the subject.
My life journey has been tremendously changed since 2007 when my wife, Nellie and I have navigated our journey to another direction of spiritual world of ACIM through recommendation of a friend.
This is another awakening period which includes a process of unlearning all the philosophies gathered in the earlier years. I gradually unlearnt the-once-highly-honored philosophies from my mind. I abandoned and let-go of this load upon realization that 'I was insane and my mind was sick' to have spent precious life in such meaningless undertakings!.. I then realized that I must unlearn them in order to grow, awaken and to relearn TRUTH.
This phase of journey and exposure has been gradual but increasingly significant with great impact and it has transformed my life!..The transformation involves in-depth comprehension of true nature of life, gaining constant awareness of my thoughts, and ultimately moving from ego/body to Spirit..
Through ACIM I begin to remember who am I and why am I here!..
I am now more conscious of my thoughts. I become aware that in whatever I think, act or speak, I must put love first, and that every reality in my life is created only by my mind & thoughts. I have recognized that every event occurred in my life is a valuable lesson for me to practice true gratitude and forgiveness.
My heart feels great appreciation and gratitude to numerous spiritual guides in my life particularly my beloved wife Nellie, Omm Namo, Helen Liow of Taiwan, Christopher Moon of Canada, Dr Neave of Germany, Dr Aaron Lim, Dehyana (both of Melaka) and brother Kwong of KL for their roles & efforts in touching and transforming my life! My break-through point in raising my spiritual consciousness and opening of my heart mainly came from them.
Much love & blessings,
George
It is interesting to recollect some of my past experiences. I was born in a traditional Taoist family in a remote village along Perak River. From young age, I was much exposed to my village's Christian Church activities from reading bible, weekly church services & rituals, regular gathering to singing hymns. I was then active in the church activities for about 10 years, until university days. During that period I followed a few pastors/priests in search for a blissful life, but I failed to experience inner peace!
Towards mid-70s when I commenced my career in banking and I suddenly took a keen interest in Theravadian Buddhism (Ceylonese Buddhist temple in Brickfield and subsequently I enrolled as its life-member), and gradually from there I moved on to Mahayanan Buddhism (Chinese type of Buddhism) to experience its seemingly different way of life.
As a keen Buddhist, I followed several monks for their preaching sessions from place to place, and from temple to temple. This happened from mid-70s to early 90s. During the period, I attended many classes of dharma/discourses delivered by Buddhist monks and scholars on various aspects of Buddha's teaching. I also involved myself in some religious activities such as sutra chanting though I was not particularly keen in sutra!
Then I felt disillusioned with religions and slowly I completely lost interest in Buddhism as I felt that religions could no longer satisfy my desire in searching for peace!.. and I increasingly felt that religions could not provide me with inner peace let alone solving problems of mankinds..
Then came early 90s when I took keen interest in practicing meditation in my attempt to search for inner peace, and after some months of regular practices, I failed again because I still could not experience peace of mind!..
My life journey took a sharp turn from 1998 onwards. I then "invested" tremendous precious time,energies and money into serious studies of ancient oriental philosophies of 8 characters (analysis of life & fortune), selecting auspicious names & dates as well as Feng Shui. In the process of such learning, I gained insight into life from another perspective. I had for some years provided professional consultation to many people in these areas..
Then in early 2005, I had awakened a bit!.. Suddenly one day I became very interested in 'the unseen world' and I began another new phase/chapter of my eventful journey into sub-conscious & unconscious mind. At this stage, I was extensively drawn into the world of emotional healing activities through hypnotherapy, cosmic & energy healing therapy, family constellation therapy and a bit of spirituality.
This phase was truly eye-opening & life changing for me. It gave me tremendous impact and in-depth exposure to psychic healing thro' a well known American Hypnotherapist, Sylvia Browne who was a popuplar healer and author of many healing books. I read a few and I have been keeping many of her books in the shelf gathering dust!..
I clearly recall that my son, Kevin's first exposure to his spiritual journey also started in 2005 when I shared with him about my experiences in my journey into sub-conscious & unconscious mind. Such exposure to him was greatly felt and re-enforced in Jan 2006 when he returned home for Lunar New Year, and I also recommended Sylvia Browne's books to him. I remember at that time I talked to him with great details about Sylvia's hypotherapy stories. He was also very interested in the subject.
My life journey has been tremendously changed since 2007 when my wife, Nellie and I have navigated our journey to another direction of spiritual world of ACIM through recommendation of a friend.
This is another awakening period which includes a process of unlearning all the philosophies gathered in the earlier years. I gradually unlearnt the-once-highly-honored philosophies from my mind. I abandoned and let-go of this load upon realization that 'I was insane and my mind was sick' to have spent precious life in such meaningless undertakings!.. I then realized that I must unlearn them in order to grow, awaken and to relearn TRUTH.
This phase of journey and exposure has been gradual but increasingly significant with great impact and it has transformed my life!..The transformation involves in-depth comprehension of true nature of life, gaining constant awareness of my thoughts, and ultimately moving from ego/body to Spirit..
Through ACIM I begin to remember who am I and why am I here!..
I am now more conscious of my thoughts. I become aware that in whatever I think, act or speak, I must put love first, and that every reality in my life is created only by my mind & thoughts. I have recognized that every event occurred in my life is a valuable lesson for me to practice true gratitude and forgiveness.
My heart feels great appreciation and gratitude to numerous spiritual guides in my life particularly my beloved wife Nellie, Omm Namo, Helen Liow of Taiwan, Christopher Moon of Canada, Dr Neave of Germany, Dr Aaron Lim, Dehyana (both of Melaka) and brother Kwong of KL for their roles & efforts in touching and transforming my life! My break-through point in raising my spiritual consciousness and opening of my heart mainly came from them.
Much love & blessings,
George
174 - 寬恕的艱辛歷程 & 真寬恕的指標
寬恕的艱辛歷程 & 真寬恕的指標 (一 至 四)
（一）因為這個時候，我們已某種程度瞭解了自己的怨尤不具正當藉口，可是又放不下怨尤，這時的衝突是最劇烈的。每發作一次情緒，每指責一次弟兄，內在的罪咎煎熬也是加乘的。…而這種加乘的罪咎感會令我們更忍不住要把矛頭往外指…這種時候也特別容易看誰都不順眼…
（二）每個人自我憎恨的表現形式或許很個人化，但這自我憎恨並不是個人的東西，不要把它當成個人的東西來處理，若把它當成是個人的來處理，就根本處理不了，只會雪上加霜，更加強它的真實性。再強調一次：它本來就不是個人的，它甚至不是真的。
（三）當我們已不再去自行判斷什麼樣的形式才是正確有愛心的，我們終於作了自己的寬恕功課。這之後，我們才具備能讓真正的愛心經由我們流露的心境。我們交給聖靈來運作，感到該說什麼就說什麼，或者只是默默無言，什麼都不說。因為我們瞭解，其實我們怎麼對他人都不是重點，重點是：他才能決定什麼時候要接受他該接受的幫助。這幫助本來就在，這幫助是源於聖靈，不是源於我…
（四）之所以會寬恕無效，因為一路都在靠自己：靠自己的判斷，靠自己的聰明才智，靠自己的理解，靠自己的覺察能力、解析能力、觀照能力、洞察能力，靠自己的美德、善體人意、慈悲憐憫、寬容有愛，靠自己的修為，靠自己的心想事成，甚至靠自己的願心…什麼都靠，可就是不願靠衪領路，我們堅信自己該負責決定下一步該怎麼走，我們堅信要為自己作好萬全的準備…
（一）因為這個時候，我們已某種程度瞭解了自己的怨尤不具正當藉口，可是又放不下怨尤，這時的衝突是最劇烈的。每發作一次情緒，每指責一次弟兄，內在的罪咎煎熬也是加乘的。…而這種加乘的罪咎感會令我們更忍不住要把矛頭往外指…這種時候也特別容易看誰都不順眼…
（二）每個人自我憎恨的表現形式或許很個人化，但這自我憎恨並不是個人的東西，不要把它當成個人的東西來處理，若把它當成是個人的來處理，就根本處理不了，只會雪上加霜，更加強它的真實性。再強調一次：它本來就不是個人的，它甚至不是真的。
（三）當我們已不再去自行判斷什麼樣的形式才是正確有愛心的，我們終於作了自己的寬恕功課。這之後，我們才具備能讓真正的愛心經由我們流露的心境。我們交給聖靈來運作，感到該說什麼就說什麼，或者只是默默無言，什麼都不說。因為我們瞭解，其實我們怎麼對他人都不是重點，重點是：他才能決定什麼時候要接受他該接受的幫助。這幫助本來就在，這幫助是源於聖靈，不是源於我…
（四）之所以會寬恕無效，因為一路都在靠自己：靠自己的判斷，靠自己的聰明才智，靠自己的理解，靠自己的覺察能力、解析能力、觀照能力、洞察能力，靠自己的美德、善體人意、慈悲憐憫、寬容有愛，靠自己的修為，靠自己的心想事成，甚至靠自己的願心…什麼都靠，可就是不願靠衪領路，我們堅信自己該負責決定下一步該怎麼走，我們堅信要為自己作好萬全的準備…
173 - Mandarin Acim 只有寬恕能帶來奇蹟
除非你認為所有的弟兄都同你一樣有權獲得奇蹟，否則你自己就喪失了獲得奇蹟的權利，因為你對他人沒有一視同仁。你若存心拒絕人，你就會感到自己也遭到拒絕。你若存心剝削別人，你就會受到剝削。如果別人無法得到奇蹟，你也絕對得不到它。只有寬恕能帶來奇蹟。你的寬恕必須對所有的人一視同仁。
你所保留及隱藏的小問題，變成了你祕密的罪，因為你決心不讓那些問題消失。那些問題就這樣日積月累地擴大，直到它們遮住你所見的一切，使你無法公平地對待任何人。你不相信自己有任何權利。滿心的怨恨給了你報復的藉口，抵消了你的憐憫之心，也詛咒你不配受到寬恕。未受寬恕的人是無法憐憫別人的。為此之故，你唯一的責任就是讓自己先接受寬恕。
你所保留及隱藏的小問題，變成了你祕密的罪，因為你決心不讓那些問題消失。那些問題就這樣日積月累地擴大，直到它們遮住你所見的一切，使你無法公平地對待任何人。你不相信自己有任何權利。滿心的怨恨給了你報復的藉口，抵消了你的憐憫之心，也詛咒你不配受到寬恕。未受寬恕的人是無法憐憫別人的。為此之故，你唯一的責任就是讓自己先接受寬恕。
Monday, June 21, 2010
172 - email to Jean on June 22, 2010 (Dad's story)
So sweet of you Jean. Really feeling lovely and glad to view these pic of Kevin & Kit taken in Jan 2006. They are a wonderful couple!..
Yes, it is meant that way even long before Jan 2006, ha-ha-ha !.. Who knows they were already destined together as life-partners when they 1st met in Chong Wah School as young students!.. At that time their souls had recognized each other and committed to each other silently!.. But their body/egos did not know this until end of 2008...Let's wish them a very happy, peaceful and fruitful marriage.
It is interesting to recall some of my past stories. Since 1998 I had "invested" tremendous precious time,energies and money into serious studies of ancient oriental philosophies of 8 characters (analysis of life & fortune), selecting auspicious dates and Feng Shui. In the process, I learned valuable lessons of life from another perspective. I had then provided consultation to many people..
I have gradually unlearnt this load of ancient phylosophies. I abandaned and let-go of this load since 2007 upon realization that I was 'mad and my mind was sick' to have wasted valuable life in such undertakings!..hahaha...
Then in early 2005, I had awakened a bit! Suddenly one day I was very interested in 'the unseen world' and I began another new phase/chapter of my eventful journey into sub-conscious & unconscious mind. At that stage, I was extensively drawn into the world of emotional healing through hypnotherapy, cosmic & energy healing therapy, family constellation therapy and a bit of spirituality.
This phase was truly eye-opener & life changing for me. It gave me tremendous impact and in-depth exposure to psychic healing thro' a well known American Hypnotherapist, Sylvia Browne who was a popuplar healer and author of many healing books. I read a few and I have been keeping many of her books in the shelf gathering dust!..
I clearly recall that Kevin's first exposure to his spiritual journey also started in 2005 when I shared with him about my experiences in my journey into sub-conscious & unconscious mind. Such exposure to him was greatly felt and re-enforced in Jan 2006 when he returned home for Lunar New Year, and I also recommended Sylvia Browne's books to him. I remember at that time I talked to him with great details about Sylvia's hypotherapy stories. He was also very interested in the subject.
Now looking back at that phase of my life journey which has been tremendously changed since 2007 when your mum and I have navigated our journey to another direction of spiritual world of ACIM through recommendation of your former class mate Wan Sin. This phase of our exposure has been gradual but increasingly significant with great impact and it has totally transformed my life!..The transformation involves in-depth comprehension of true nature of life, gaining constant awareness of my thoughts, and ultimately moving from ego/body to Spirit.. Through ACIM I begin to remember who am I and why am I here!..
My heart feels great appreciation and gratitude to many gurus in my life particularly Dr Aaron Lim and Dehyana for their role & effort in touching and transforming my life! My breaking point in spiritual consciousness mainly came from them.
Jean, I am equally grateful to you for choosing your mum and I as your parents and I have indeed learnt many things from you even from your young age! Great thanks to you too for having a wonderful friend of Wan Sin who lovingly brought us into the world of ACIM in early 2007.
Do take special care Jean & Alan. All of us back home are looking forward to seeing you on July 9 (Friday). Rest assured we will be in the airport to receive both of you with our most open-arms & loving hugs..
Love you and hug you..
Dad
Yes, it is meant that way even long before Jan 2006, ha-ha-ha !.. Who knows they were already destined together as life-partners when they 1st met in Chong Wah School as young students!.. At that time their souls had recognized each other and committed to each other silently!.. But their body/egos did not know this until end of 2008...Let's wish them a very happy, peaceful and fruitful marriage.
It is interesting to recall some of my past stories. Since 1998 I had "invested" tremendous precious time,energies and money into serious studies of ancient oriental philosophies of 8 characters (analysis of life & fortune), selecting auspicious dates and Feng Shui. In the process, I learned valuable lessons of life from another perspective. I had then provided consultation to many people..
I have gradually unlearnt this load of ancient phylosophies. I abandaned and let-go of this load since 2007 upon realization that I was 'mad and my mind was sick' to have wasted valuable life in such undertakings!..hahaha...
Then in early 2005, I had awakened a bit! Suddenly one day I was very interested in 'the unseen world' and I began another new phase/chapter of my eventful journey into sub-conscious & unconscious mind. At that stage, I was extensively drawn into the world of emotional healing through hypnotherapy, cosmic & energy healing therapy, family constellation therapy and a bit of spirituality.
This phase was truly eye-opener & life changing for me. It gave me tremendous impact and in-depth exposure to psychic healing thro' a well known American Hypnotherapist, Sylvia Browne who was a popuplar healer and author of many healing books. I read a few and I have been keeping many of her books in the shelf gathering dust!..
I clearly recall that Kevin's first exposure to his spiritual journey also started in 2005 when I shared with him about my experiences in my journey into sub-conscious & unconscious mind. Such exposure to him was greatly felt and re-enforced in Jan 2006 when he returned home for Lunar New Year, and I also recommended Sylvia Browne's books to him. I remember at that time I talked to him with great details about Sylvia's hypotherapy stories. He was also very interested in the subject.
Now looking back at that phase of my life journey which has been tremendously changed since 2007 when your mum and I have navigated our journey to another direction of spiritual world of ACIM through recommendation of your former class mate Wan Sin. This phase of our exposure has been gradual but increasingly significant with great impact and it has totally transformed my life!..The transformation involves in-depth comprehension of true nature of life, gaining constant awareness of my thoughts, and ultimately moving from ego/body to Spirit.. Through ACIM I begin to remember who am I and why am I here!..
My heart feels great appreciation and gratitude to many gurus in my life particularly Dr Aaron Lim and Dehyana for their role & effort in touching and transforming my life! My breaking point in spiritual consciousness mainly came from them.
Jean, I am equally grateful to you for choosing your mum and I as your parents and I have indeed learnt many things from you even from your young age! Great thanks to you too for having a wonderful friend of Wan Sin who lovingly brought us into the world of ACIM in early 2007.
Do take special care Jean & Alan. All of us back home are looking forward to seeing you on July 9 (Friday). Rest assured we will be in the airport to receive both of you with our most open-arms & loving hugs..
Love you and hug you..
Dad
Monday, June 14, 2010
171 - Gentle reminders for us
1) Be understanding and considerate to others because everyone you meet may be fighting 'some kind of battle'
2) A sharp tongue can cut your own throat
3) If you want your dreams to come true, you must not oversleep
4) Of all the things you wear, your facial expression and body language are the most important
5) The best vitamin for friendship/fellowship is human touch, care and sincerity
6) Happiness and peace of mind depend on the quality of your thoughts and actions
7) The heaviest things you ever carry are holding grudge and resentment
8) One thing you can give and still keep...is your word
9) You lie the loudest when you lie to yourself
10) If you lack willingness and courage to start and change, you have already finished!
11) The greatest risk in life is the risk of going nowhere
12) One thing you can't recycle is the wasted time
13) Ideas alone can not work unless 'YOU DO'
14) Your mind is like a parachute...it functions only when it is open
15) The pursuit of peace and joy is everyday's business throughout your life!
16) It is never too late to become what you wish to be
17) Life is too short to wake up with regrets - love yourself and the people around you
18) Believe everything happens in your life is a lesson and there is a purpose for you to experience and each event will brighten & enrich your life
19) If you get a second chance, grab it with gratitude and it will change your life
20) Nobody said life would be easy, they merely promised it would be worth it
21) Drama can be described as any situation/event in life involving two or more egos/personalities, all wanting to win or to be right that they have totally forgotten their true identity & nature and that they are fighting with their shadow in the world of illusion
2) A sharp tongue can cut your own throat
3) If you want your dreams to come true, you must not oversleep
4) Of all the things you wear, your facial expression and body language are the most important
5) The best vitamin for friendship/fellowship is human touch, care and sincerity
6) Happiness and peace of mind depend on the quality of your thoughts and actions
7) The heaviest things you ever carry are holding grudge and resentment
8) One thing you can give and still keep...is your word
9) You lie the loudest when you lie to yourself
10) If you lack willingness and courage to start and change, you have already finished!
11) The greatest risk in life is the risk of going nowhere
12) One thing you can't recycle is the wasted time
13) Ideas alone can not work unless 'YOU DO'
14) Your mind is like a parachute...it functions only when it is open
15) The pursuit of peace and joy is everyday's business throughout your life!
16) It is never too late to become what you wish to be
17) Life is too short to wake up with regrets - love yourself and the people around you
18) Believe everything happens in your life is a lesson and there is a purpose for you to experience and each event will brighten & enrich your life
19) If you get a second chance, grab it with gratitude and it will change your life
20) Nobody said life would be easy, they merely promised it would be worth it
21) Drama can be described as any situation/event in life involving two or more egos/personalities, all wanting to win or to be right that they have totally forgotten their true identity & nature and that they are fighting with their shadow in the world of illusion
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
170 - Can cancer be cured?
Can Cancer be cured?
Under weakly alkaline condition, cancerous cells will not be able to grow, or even to survive.
在弱鹼性體質的狀態下，癌細胞是無法生長、甚至是無法生存的。
Actual case studies, very important, please read patiently and pass this on.
實案例，很重要，請耐心看完，請轉寄哦！！
Even if you have read this before, you should reread this, especially the list of acidic and alkaline foodstuff , best to read several times and remember.
即使看過了還是要再看，尤其下面的酸鹼性食物最好多看幾次，就可以記住了。
Please read this article in full patiently, it will be helpful to your health.
請耐心看完這篇文章，對自身健康很有幫助。
More than 30 years ago, a Mr Zhang who worked in the public sales department of a Taipei Brewery, participated in the brewery overseas study selection examination, and passed with flying colours.
三十多年前有一位服務於公賣局台北啤酒廠的張先生，參加該啤酒場選派技術人員到國外深造的考試，以優異的成績及格。
Before going overseas during the physical examination at a public hospital, it was discovered that he had a tumour growth in his lung the size of a child's fist, and therefore was not able to go overseas to study.
在出國前經某公立醫院體檢發現，罹患有像小孩拳頭大小的肺部腫瘤，因而不能出國。
The greatly disappointed Mr Zhang had always been suspicious that the diagnosis was wrong. So he went to another hospital for a check-up, the result confirm that previous diagnosis was not in error.
張先生非常失望之餘，一直懷疑診斷有誤；於是再到另一家醫院檢查，結果還是證實原來的診斷並無錯誤。
For the youthful and healthy Mr Zhang to be stricken down with such terminal illness, in his despair, he rang his old classmate who at the time was Taidong County Government, Huangsun County Mayor's secretary, Mr Wei.
當時年輕力壯的張先生得到這樣的絕症，在人生絕望之餘，多次打電話給當時任職台東縣政府黃順興縣長機要秘書的魏姓同學。
Mr Wei rushed to Taipei during his rest day on a Sunday to see Mr Zhang.
魏姓同學便利用星期日趕到台北和張先生見面，
Mr Zhang discussed with Mr Wei in detail his despair and pessimism, and entrusted his friend regarding his affairs after his death. Coincidentally, Mr Wei was a good friend of Dr Lu Geling, who was in charge of the Maijie Hospital, 1945-55, and specialised in the clinical research into cancer cases.
張先生向魏同學詳述相關絕望的詳情和悲觀感受，並請位同學協助其後事，恰逢魏同學與前任馬偕醫院院長1949－55年專精於癌症臨床研究的呂革令博士係知交好友。
He immediately suggested that Mr Zhang go to see Dr Lu for treatment. At first, Mr Zhang said he preferred not to see anymore doctors, so as not to add further to his misery.
當即建議前往訪求呂博士醫治，起初張先生說不願再看醫生，以免徒增傷悲；
But Mr Wei told him that he had telephoned Dr Lu before to seek his advice and arranged an appointment. Mr Zhang felt obligated and went with Mr Wei to meet Dr Lu.
但魏同學說先前已以電話請教過呂博士並安排好時間，張先生只好偕同前往呂博士住處造訪。
When Dr Lu met with Mr Zhang, Dr Lu said: ' Mr Wei is a friend and introduced you and I to get to know each other. This is destiny. Thank you. Let me ask you do you know why is cancer referred to as terminal illness?'
呂博士和張先生見面就說：「魏先生是我的好友，介紹你和我認識是我們緣份，感謝。我請教你：『癌為什麼叫絕症，你可知道嗎？』」
Both Mr Zhang and Mr Wei did not know how to answer.
張先生和魏先生都不知道如何作答。
Dr Lu explained: 'There are only two approaches taken by humans to treat cancer to-date. The first is to destroy the source of the disease. The second is to increase the capability to fight the disease.
呂博士又說：「人類醫治癌症到目前為止只有兩條路，第一條路是消滅病源，第二條路是增加抵抗力。
But the strange thing is that, whether we use Cobalt 60 or other drugs to destroy the cancer cells, before the cancer cells are killed, the good cells are destroyed first.
但很奇怪的是，癌無論用鈷60或其他藥物去消滅癌細胞，可是癌細胞還沒被消滅，好的細胞卻先被殺死。
On the other hand, no matter what nutrients or supplements we use, before the good cells have a chance to absorb them, the cancer cells have taken them up and it simply speeds up the growth of cancer.
另無論用什麼營養、補藥，好的細胞還未吸收，癌細胞卻先吸收、讓癌長得更快；
Therefore both approaches are doomed to failure, that is why cancer is terminal.'
因此可說上述兩條路都行不通、所以叫絕症。」
Dr Lu continues: 'Human beings are most clever, they have successfully landed on the moon. But why is it no one ever questioned the above two approaches for treating cancer which are nothing but self defeating dead-ends, and try to seek a third avenue?
呂博士又說：「人類的聰明連登陸月球也都已經成功，但為什麼沒有人去懷疑上述兩條治癌的路是在鑽牛角尖，另外找第三條路？
When I was conducting clinical research in Majie Hospital , I had many opportunities to work with and being helped by many colleagues in the Hospital. I discovered that the blood tests of 100% of the cancer patients showed that the blood samples are acidic.
我以往在馬偕醫院做癌症临床實驗，並得院內各部同仁協助的機會，我發現癌症病人血液檢查的結果百分之百都是酸性反應。
Those Buddhist monks and nuns who are long term vegetarians and live very close to Nature, their blood are prevalently weakly alkaline and amongst them, there has yet to discover any cancer cases.
長期素食、且生活接近自然的佛寺僧尼，由於體質都偏屬優質弱鹼性，所以尚沒有發現罹患癌症的病例。
Therefore, I boldly concluded that under weakly alkaline condition, cancer cells are not able to grow, or even to survive.
因此我大膽的斷定在弱鹼性體質的狀態下，癌細胞是無法生長、甚至是無法生存的。
Mr Zhang, I would suggest that starting from now you reduce your intake of the acidic meaty dishes.
張先生我建議你從現在起少吃酸性的葷食類，
Take more of the alkaline food. In addition you can take green algae and soup made from water chestnuts with skin,
多吃鹼性食物，另外可吃綠藻和帶殼菱角湯，
modify your physical condition, and try seriously to have a regular life style which is close to Nature;
改變你的體質，並勵行接近自然的良好生活規律；
If you can manage to stay alive for five years, you should have no further problem. I wish you the best of luck.'
如果五年內不死、你就沒問題了，祝福你。」
Mr Zhang followed Dr Lu's suggestion and seriously altered his eating habits.
張先生依照呂博士的建議，認真改變吃的習慣，
Every day, he ate green algae, drank chestnut soup, be optimistic and did an appropriate amount of exercise, and went back to the same public hospital for a check up. It was discovered that not only that the tumour did not increase in size, on the contrary it showed signs of shrinking, and surprised the hospital staff conducting the check-up as a miracle. Five years later, the tumour had shrunk to such a state as to almost disappear.
每天又吃綠藻、喝菱角湯，樂觀加上每天適當的運動，一年後再到同一公立醫院檢查結果，發現腫瘤不但沒有長大、反而已呈現萎縮狀態，遂令醫院檢查人員驚為奇蹟，五年後竟完全處於萎縮、至近於消失狀態。
After almost 40 years, presently Mr Zhang's health is totally normal, and living a very pleasant life.
經過了將近四十年歲月，現在張先生的健康情況完全正常，生活起居甚為愉快。
Following Mr Zhang, a Mr Chen Tianshou, who was previously Head of the General Administration of the Taidong Provincial Hospital , was similarly diagnosed with lung cancer.
繼張先生之後，有位前台東省立醫院總務課長陳添壽先生，同樣得到肺癌；
When Mr Wei heard of this, he told Mr Chen of the experience of Mr Zhang, and Mr Chen started to follow the instructions of Dr Lu to change his physical condition. The outcome was that he was able to recover fully from the cancer, just like Mr Zhang.
魏先生得知後將張先生的經過轉告陳添壽先生，陳先生乃依照呂博士的建議進行改變體質，結果與張先生同樣癒癌症。
At that time, Mr Lu and his family have emigrated to the United States . After the two cases, he returned to Taiwan and met up with Mr Wei.
那時呂博士全家已移民美國，事後呂博士回來台灣再與魏先生見面時，
Mr Wei told Dr Lu about the experiences of Mr Zhang and Mr Chen, and suggested that let the two of them detailed their experiences to Dr Lu in person, so that Dr Lu could publish a report on his self cure body conditioning method.
魏先生將張先生和陳先生的經過告訴呂博士，並提議由他們倆位親自向呂博士陳述，請呂博士發表其改變體質之自療成果報告。
Dr Lu very humbly replied:
呂博士謙虛地回答說：
'I am too old, besides, I do not have any clinical records of the outcomes. I would ask that you tell your
friends and relatives, if they are agreeable, then please continue this experience and spread the words?
我年事已大，且沒有臨床紀錄不能做為成果。請魏先生轉告親友，如果友人認同的話，請他們繼續做體驗並廣為宣導.........。」
One should take care of oneself but should also be caring about others, 85% of cancer patients have acidic in their physical condition.
關心自己也要關心別人，85﹪癌症病患屬於酸性體質
Blood of healthy persons is weakly alkaline in nature, with a pH of about 7.35 to 7.45
健康人的血液是成弱鹼性的，約是 pH7.35～7.45左右
Babies' blood is also weakly acidic
嬰兒也是屬於弱鹼性的體質
As adults mature their blood becomes more acidic in nature
成長期的成人有體質酸化的現象
According to a study of 600 cancer patients, of their bodily fluid, 85% of the patients are acidic
根據一項六百位癌症病人體液分佈的研究，顯示85﹪癌症病患屬於酸性體質。
Therefore, how to maintain the weakly acidic nature of our body is the first step for moving far away from diseases
因此，如何使體質維持在弱鹼性就是遠離疾病的第一步。
Acidic physical conditions manifest itself in:
酸性體質的生理表徵:
1. Skin without lustre
1. 皮膚無光澤。
2. Athlete's foot
2. 香港腳。
3. Feeling tire even with very little exercise, and feeling sleep the moment one gets on to public buses
3. 稍做運動即感疲勞，一上公車便想睡覺。
4. Easily out of breath going up and down stairs
4. 上下樓梯容易氣喘。
5. Fat and with lower stomach protruding
5. 肥胖、下腹突出。
6. Move slowly and movement lethargic
6. 步伐緩慢、動作遲緩。
Why does the body physical condition turn acidic?
為什麼會形成酸性體質？
1. Excessive intake of dairy acidic food
1. 過度攝取乳酸性食品。
a) meat, dairy products, eggs, beef, ham, etc are acidic food
a）肉類、乳酪製品與蛋、牛肉、火腿等皆屬於酸性食品。
b) taking too much acidic food will cause the blood to become acidic and viscous, difficult to flow to the end of blood vessels, leading to cold feet or knee, stiff shoulders and insomnia
b）攝取過量的酸性食品血液會傾向酸性而變黏稠，不易流到細血管的末稍，而易造成手腳或膝蓋的冷寒症，以及肩膀僵硬和失眠等。
c) When one is young and strong, taking suitable quantity of meat is appropriate, but older people it more suitable to have a diet which are primarily vegetables or small fish.
c）年輕力壯時吃適量的肉類是對的，但老年人則以蔬菜或小魚為宜。
2. Irregularity in the pace of life will cause the body physical condition to become acidic
2. 生活步調失常會造成酸性體質。
a) Irregular pace in life will lead to mental and physical stress
a） 生活步調失常會造成精神與肉體的壓力。
b) According to statistics, people who sleep late are more likely to have cancer than normal persons, by as much as 5 times.
b） 據統計，晚睡者罹患癌症的機率比正常人高出五倍。
c) Human beings originally lead a life with regular tempo in this world, it is not possible to store up sleep or food and not possible to change the order of living by mixing up days and nights.
c） 人類本來就活在節奏的世界裡，無法事先儲備睡眠或飲食，也不能日夜顛倒。
d) Human organs are controlled by the autonomic nerves, and during day time it is mainly sympathetic nerves activities, and at night it is mainly the parasympathetic nerves which are functioning, If this order is disturbed and reversed, then diseases will result.
d） 人體內臟受自律神經控制，白天主要是交感神經活動，晚上則由副交感神經工作，若使其錯亂及倒置，就亦百病滋生。
3. Emotion over tensed
3.情緒過於緊張。
a) Civilised society brings stresses
a）文明社會會造成的壓力。
b) Job related or mental stresses
b）工作上或精神上的壓力。
c) A person suffers mental stress, when the stress is removed and the person relaxes, sometimes this may lead to death, referred to as the syndrome of imperfect adrenal cortex function.
c）當一個人承受精神壓力後，一旦緊張鬆弛，時會造成猝死，稱為潛在性副腎皮質機能不全症。
4. Physical Stress
4. 肉體的緊張。
a) Before any operation it would be necessary to check to see if the renal cortex does function normally. If the adrenal cortex is lacking, or if the stress imposed by the operation exceeded the ability of adrenal cortex to cope, it could lead to death or other undesirable impacts.
a）動手術之前應先檢查腎上腺皮質機能是否正常。如果副腎皮質機能較差，或手術壓力遠超過副腎調整功能，則可能造成病人死亡或其他不良影響。
b) If it noted that patient's face is puffy, it would be necessary to inquire in detail the patient's medical history and medication status, for patients taking adrenal cortical hormone, extra care should be exercise when administering acupuncture.
b）若發現病患臉部浮腫，需詳加詢問病史及服藥狀況，為長期服用腎上腺皮質賀爾蒙者，施以針灸要特別注意反應。
c) Stress due to physical labour or exercise in excess, whole night card games, driving etc should be avoided as much as possible
c）勞動或運動過度，通宵打牌、開車等壓力都應盡量避免。
Appendix: Acidity/alkalinity of Common food stuff
附錄：常見食物的酸鹼性:
1. Strongly acidic food: egg yolk, cheese, cake make with white sugar or persimmon, mullet fish roe, dried cod.
1. 強酸性食品：蛋黃、乳酪、白糖做的西點或柿子、烏魚子、柴魚等。
2.Mildly acidic food: ham, bacon, chicken meat, squid, pork, eel, beef, bread, wheat, butter, horse meat etc
2.中酸性食品：火腿、培根、雞肉、鮪魚、豬肉、鰻魚、牛肉、麵包、小麥、奶油、馬肉等。
3. Weakly acidic food: white rice, peanut, beer, alcohol, oil fried tofu, sea weed, clam, octopus, catfish
3.弱酸性食品：白米、落花生、啤酒、酒、油炸豆腐、海苔、文蛤、章魚、泥鰍。
4. Weakly alkaline food: red bean, radish, apple, cabbage, onion, tofu etc.
4.弱鹼性食品：紅豆、蘿蔔、蘋果、甘藍菜、洋蔥、豆腐等。
5. Mildly alkaline food: dried radish, soya bean, carrot, tomato, banana, orange, pumpkin strawberry, egg white, dried plum, lemon, spinach, etc.
5.中鹼性食品：蘿蔔乾、大豆、紅蘿蔔、蕃茄、香蕉、橘子、南瓜、草莓、蛋白、梅乾、檸檬、菠菜等。
6. Strongly alkaline food: grape, tea leave, grape wine, kelp sprout, kelp, etc. Especially natural green algae which contain rich quantity of chlorophyll are very good alkaline health food, but tea should not be drunk in excess, and best to drink in the morning.
6. 強鹼性食品：葡萄、茶葉、葡萄酒、海帶芽、海帶等。尤其是天然綠藻富含葉綠素，是不錯的鹼性健康食品，而茶類不宜過量，最佳飲用時間為早上。
Under weakly alkaline condition, cancerous cells will not be able to grow, or even to survive.
在弱鹼性體質的狀態下，癌細胞是無法生長、甚至是無法生存的。
Actual case studies, very important, please read patiently and pass this on.
實案例，很重要，請耐心看完，請轉寄哦！！
Even if you have read this before, you should reread this, especially the list of acidic and alkaline foodstuff , best to read several times and remember.
即使看過了還是要再看，尤其下面的酸鹼性食物最好多看幾次，就可以記住了。
Please read this article in full patiently, it will be helpful to your health.
請耐心看完這篇文章，對自身健康很有幫助。
More than 30 years ago, a Mr Zhang who worked in the public sales department of a Taipei Brewery, participated in the brewery overseas study selection examination, and passed with flying colours.
三十多年前有一位服務於公賣局台北啤酒廠的張先生，參加該啤酒場選派技術人員到國外深造的考試，以優異的成績及格。
Before going overseas during the physical examination at a public hospital, it was discovered that he had a tumour growth in his lung the size of a child's fist, and therefore was not able to go overseas to study.
在出國前經某公立醫院體檢發現，罹患有像小孩拳頭大小的肺部腫瘤，因而不能出國。
The greatly disappointed Mr Zhang had always been suspicious that the diagnosis was wrong. So he went to another hospital for a check-up, the result confirm that previous diagnosis was not in error.
張先生非常失望之餘，一直懷疑診斷有誤；於是再到另一家醫院檢查，結果還是證實原來的診斷並無錯誤。
For the youthful and healthy Mr Zhang to be stricken down with such terminal illness, in his despair, he rang his old classmate who at the time was Taidong County Government, Huangsun County Mayor's secretary, Mr Wei.
當時年輕力壯的張先生得到這樣的絕症，在人生絕望之餘，多次打電話給當時任職台東縣政府黃順興縣長機要秘書的魏姓同學。
Mr Wei rushed to Taipei during his rest day on a Sunday to see Mr Zhang.
魏姓同學便利用星期日趕到台北和張先生見面，
Mr Zhang discussed with Mr Wei in detail his despair and pessimism, and entrusted his friend regarding his affairs after his death. Coincidentally, Mr Wei was a good friend of Dr Lu Geling, who was in charge of the Maijie Hospital, 1945-55, and specialised in the clinical research into cancer cases.
張先生向魏同學詳述相關絕望的詳情和悲觀感受，並請位同學協助其後事，恰逢魏同學與前任馬偕醫院院長1949－55年專精於癌症臨床研究的呂革令博士係知交好友。
He immediately suggested that Mr Zhang go to see Dr Lu for treatment. At first, Mr Zhang said he preferred not to see anymore doctors, so as not to add further to his misery.
當即建議前往訪求呂博士醫治，起初張先生說不願再看醫生，以免徒增傷悲；
But Mr Wei told him that he had telephoned Dr Lu before to seek his advice and arranged an appointment. Mr Zhang felt obligated and went with Mr Wei to meet Dr Lu.
但魏同學說先前已以電話請教過呂博士並安排好時間，張先生只好偕同前往呂博士住處造訪。
When Dr Lu met with Mr Zhang, Dr Lu said: ' Mr Wei is a friend and introduced you and I to get to know each other. This is destiny. Thank you. Let me ask you do you know why is cancer referred to as terminal illness?'
呂博士和張先生見面就說：「魏先生是我的好友，介紹你和我認識是我們緣份，感謝。我請教你：『癌為什麼叫絕症，你可知道嗎？』」
Both Mr Zhang and Mr Wei did not know how to answer.
張先生和魏先生都不知道如何作答。
Dr Lu explained: 'There are only two approaches taken by humans to treat cancer to-date. The first is to destroy the source of the disease. The second is to increase the capability to fight the disease.
呂博士又說：「人類醫治癌症到目前為止只有兩條路，第一條路是消滅病源，第二條路是增加抵抗力。
But the strange thing is that, whether we use Cobalt 60 or other drugs to destroy the cancer cells, before the cancer cells are killed, the good cells are destroyed first.
但很奇怪的是，癌無論用鈷60或其他藥物去消滅癌細胞，可是癌細胞還沒被消滅，好的細胞卻先被殺死。
On the other hand, no matter what nutrients or supplements we use, before the good cells have a chance to absorb them, the cancer cells have taken them up and it simply speeds up the growth of cancer.
另無論用什麼營養、補藥，好的細胞還未吸收，癌細胞卻先吸收、讓癌長得更快；
Therefore both approaches are doomed to failure, that is why cancer is terminal.'
因此可說上述兩條路都行不通、所以叫絕症。」
Dr Lu continues: 'Human beings are most clever, they have successfully landed on the moon. But why is it no one ever questioned the above two approaches for treating cancer which are nothing but self defeating dead-ends, and try to seek a third avenue?
呂博士又說：「人類的聰明連登陸月球也都已經成功，但為什麼沒有人去懷疑上述兩條治癌的路是在鑽牛角尖，另外找第三條路？
When I was conducting clinical research in Majie Hospital , I had many opportunities to work with and being helped by many colleagues in the Hospital. I discovered that the blood tests of 100% of the cancer patients showed that the blood samples are acidic.
我以往在馬偕醫院做癌症临床實驗，並得院內各部同仁協助的機會，我發現癌症病人血液檢查的結果百分之百都是酸性反應。
Those Buddhist monks and nuns who are long term vegetarians and live very close to Nature, their blood are prevalently weakly alkaline and amongst them, there has yet to discover any cancer cases.
長期素食、且生活接近自然的佛寺僧尼，由於體質都偏屬優質弱鹼性，所以尚沒有發現罹患癌症的病例。
Therefore, I boldly concluded that under weakly alkaline condition, cancer cells are not able to grow, or even to survive.
因此我大膽的斷定在弱鹼性體質的狀態下，癌細胞是無法生長、甚至是無法生存的。
Mr Zhang, I would suggest that starting from now you reduce your intake of the acidic meaty dishes.
張先生我建議你從現在起少吃酸性的葷食類，
Take more of the alkaline food. In addition you can take green algae and soup made from water chestnuts with skin,
多吃鹼性食物，另外可吃綠藻和帶殼菱角湯，
modify your physical condition, and try seriously to have a regular life style which is close to Nature;
改變你的體質，並勵行接近自然的良好生活規律；
If you can manage to stay alive for five years, you should have no further problem. I wish you the best of luck.'
如果五年內不死、你就沒問題了，祝福你。」
Mr Zhang followed Dr Lu's suggestion and seriously altered his eating habits.
張先生依照呂博士的建議，認真改變吃的習慣，
Every day, he ate green algae, drank chestnut soup, be optimistic and did an appropriate amount of exercise, and went back to the same public hospital for a check up. It was discovered that not only that the tumour did not increase in size, on the contrary it showed signs of shrinking, and surprised the hospital staff conducting the check-up as a miracle. Five years later, the tumour had shrunk to such a state as to almost disappear.
每天又吃綠藻、喝菱角湯，樂觀加上每天適當的運動，一年後再到同一公立醫院檢查結果，發現腫瘤不但沒有長大、反而已呈現萎縮狀態，遂令醫院檢查人員驚為奇蹟，五年後竟完全處於萎縮、至近於消失狀態。
After almost 40 years, presently Mr Zhang's health is totally normal, and living a very pleasant life.
經過了將近四十年歲月，現在張先生的健康情況完全正常，生活起居甚為愉快。
Following Mr Zhang, a Mr Chen Tianshou, who was previously Head of the General Administration of the Taidong Provincial Hospital , was similarly diagnosed with lung cancer.
繼張先生之後，有位前台東省立醫院總務課長陳添壽先生，同樣得到肺癌；
When Mr Wei heard of this, he told Mr Chen of the experience of Mr Zhang, and Mr Chen started to follow the instructions of Dr Lu to change his physical condition. The outcome was that he was able to recover fully from the cancer, just like Mr Zhang.
魏先生得知後將張先生的經過轉告陳添壽先生，陳先生乃依照呂博士的建議進行改變體質，結果與張先生同樣癒癌症。
At that time, Mr Lu and his family have emigrated to the United States . After the two cases, he returned to Taiwan and met up with Mr Wei.
那時呂博士全家已移民美國，事後呂博士回來台灣再與魏先生見面時，
Mr Wei told Dr Lu about the experiences of Mr Zhang and Mr Chen, and suggested that let the two of them detailed their experiences to Dr Lu in person, so that Dr Lu could publish a report on his self cure body conditioning method.
魏先生將張先生和陳先生的經過告訴呂博士，並提議由他們倆位親自向呂博士陳述，請呂博士發表其改變體質之自療成果報告。
Dr Lu very humbly replied:
呂博士謙虛地回答說：
'I am too old, besides, I do not have any clinical records of the outcomes. I would ask that you tell your
friends and relatives, if they are agreeable, then please continue this experience and spread the words?
我年事已大，且沒有臨床紀錄不能做為成果。請魏先生轉告親友，如果友人認同的話，請他們繼續做體驗並廣為宣導.........。」
One should take care of oneself but should also be caring about others, 85% of cancer patients have acidic in their physical condition.
關心自己也要關心別人，85﹪癌症病患屬於酸性體質
Blood of healthy persons is weakly alkaline in nature, with a pH of about 7.35 to 7.45
健康人的血液是成弱鹼性的，約是 pH7.35～7.45左右
Babies' blood is also weakly acidic
嬰兒也是屬於弱鹼性的體質
As adults mature their blood becomes more acidic in nature
成長期的成人有體質酸化的現象
According to a study of 600 cancer patients, of their bodily fluid, 85% of the patients are acidic
根據一項六百位癌症病人體液分佈的研究，顯示85﹪癌症病患屬於酸性體質。
Therefore, how to maintain the weakly acidic nature of our body is the first step for moving far away from diseases
因此，如何使體質維持在弱鹼性就是遠離疾病的第一步。
Acidic physical conditions manifest itself in:
酸性體質的生理表徵:
1. Skin without lustre
1. 皮膚無光澤。
2. Athlete's foot
2. 香港腳。
3. Feeling tire even with very little exercise, and feeling sleep the moment one gets on to public buses
3. 稍做運動即感疲勞，一上公車便想睡覺。
4. Easily out of breath going up and down stairs
4. 上下樓梯容易氣喘。
5. Fat and with lower stomach protruding
5. 肥胖、下腹突出。
6. Move slowly and movement lethargic
6. 步伐緩慢、動作遲緩。
Why does the body physical condition turn acidic?
為什麼會形成酸性體質？
1. Excessive intake of dairy acidic food
1. 過度攝取乳酸性食品。
a) meat, dairy products, eggs, beef, ham, etc are acidic food
a）肉類、乳酪製品與蛋、牛肉、火腿等皆屬於酸性食品。
b) taking too much acidic food will cause the blood to become acidic and viscous, difficult to flow to the end of blood vessels, leading to cold feet or knee, stiff shoulders and insomnia
b）攝取過量的酸性食品血液會傾向酸性而變黏稠，不易流到細血管的末稍，而易造成手腳或膝蓋的冷寒症，以及肩膀僵硬和失眠等。
c) When one is young and strong, taking suitable quantity of meat is appropriate, but older people it more suitable to have a diet which are primarily vegetables or small fish.
c）年輕力壯時吃適量的肉類是對的，但老年人則以蔬菜或小魚為宜。
2. Irregularity in the pace of life will cause the body physical condition to become acidic
2. 生活步調失常會造成酸性體質。
a) Irregular pace in life will lead to mental and physical stress
a） 生活步調失常會造成精神與肉體的壓力。
b) According to statistics, people who sleep late are more likely to have cancer than normal persons, by as much as 5 times.
b） 據統計，晚睡者罹患癌症的機率比正常人高出五倍。
c) Human beings originally lead a life with regular tempo in this world, it is not possible to store up sleep or food and not possible to change the order of living by mixing up days and nights.
c） 人類本來就活在節奏的世界裡，無法事先儲備睡眠或飲食，也不能日夜顛倒。
d) Human organs are controlled by the autonomic nerves, and during day time it is mainly sympathetic nerves activities, and at night it is mainly the parasympathetic nerves which are functioning, If this order is disturbed and reversed, then diseases will result.
d） 人體內臟受自律神經控制，白天主要是交感神經活動，晚上則由副交感神經工作，若使其錯亂及倒置，就亦百病滋生。
3. Emotion over tensed
3.情緒過於緊張。
a) Civilised society brings stresses
a）文明社會會造成的壓力。
b) Job related or mental stresses
b）工作上或精神上的壓力。
c) A person suffers mental stress, when the stress is removed and the person relaxes, sometimes this may lead to death, referred to as the syndrome of imperfect adrenal cortex function.
c）當一個人承受精神壓力後，一旦緊張鬆弛，時會造成猝死，稱為潛在性副腎皮質機能不全症。
4. Physical Stress
4. 肉體的緊張。
a) Before any operation it would be necessary to check to see if the renal cortex does function normally. If the adrenal cortex is lacking, or if the stress imposed by the operation exceeded the ability of adrenal cortex to cope, it could lead to death or other undesirable impacts.
a）動手術之前應先檢查腎上腺皮質機能是否正常。如果副腎皮質機能較差，或手術壓力遠超過副腎調整功能，則可能造成病人死亡或其他不良影響。
b) If it noted that patient's face is puffy, it would be necessary to inquire in detail the patient's medical history and medication status, for patients taking adrenal cortical hormone, extra care should be exercise when administering acupuncture.
b）若發現病患臉部浮腫，需詳加詢問病史及服藥狀況，為長期服用腎上腺皮質賀爾蒙者，施以針灸要特別注意反應。
c) Stress due to physical labour or exercise in excess, whole night card games, driving etc should be avoided as much as possible
c）勞動或運動過度，通宵打牌、開車等壓力都應盡量避免。
Appendix: Acidity/alkalinity of Common food stuff
附錄：常見食物的酸鹼性:
1. Strongly acidic food: egg yolk, cheese, cake make with white sugar or persimmon, mullet fish roe, dried cod.
1. 強酸性食品：蛋黃、乳酪、白糖做的西點或柿子、烏魚子、柴魚等。
2.Mildly acidic food: ham, bacon, chicken meat, squid, pork, eel, beef, bread, wheat, butter, horse meat etc
2.中酸性食品：火腿、培根、雞肉、鮪魚、豬肉、鰻魚、牛肉、麵包、小麥、奶油、馬肉等。
3. Weakly acidic food: white rice, peanut, beer, alcohol, oil fried tofu, sea weed, clam, octopus, catfish
3.弱酸性食品：白米、落花生、啤酒、酒、油炸豆腐、海苔、文蛤、章魚、泥鰍。
4. Weakly alkaline food: red bean, radish, apple, cabbage, onion, tofu etc.
4.弱鹼性食品：紅豆、蘿蔔、蘋果、甘藍菜、洋蔥、豆腐等。
5. Mildly alkaline food: dried radish, soya bean, carrot, tomato, banana, orange, pumpkin strawberry, egg white, dried plum, lemon, spinach, etc.
5.中鹼性食品：蘿蔔乾、大豆、紅蘿蔔、蕃茄、香蕉、橘子、南瓜、草莓、蛋白、梅乾、檸檬、菠菜等。
6. Strongly alkaline food: grape, tea leave, grape wine, kelp sprout, kelp, etc. Especially natural green algae which contain rich quantity of chlorophyll are very good alkaline health food, but tea should not be drunk in excess, and best to drink in the morning.
6. 強鹼性食品：葡萄、茶葉、葡萄酒、海帶芽、海帶等。尤其是天然綠藻富含葉綠素，是不錯的鹼性健康食品，而茶類不宜過量，最佳飲用時間為早上。
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
169 - Good for contemplation
You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of.
You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.
By Albert Camus
You can never get to peace and inner security without first acknowledging all of the good things in your life.
If you're forever wanting and longing for more without first appreciating things the way they are, you'll stay in discord.
By Doc Childre and Howard Martin
Maturity begins when we're content to feel we're right about something, without feeling the necessity to prove someone else is wrong.
By Sydney J. Harris (1917-1986)
You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.
By Albert Camus
You can never get to peace and inner security without first acknowledging all of the good things in your life.
If you're forever wanting and longing for more without first appreciating things the way they are, you'll stay in discord.
By Doc Childre and Howard Martin
Maturity begins when we're content to feel we're right about something, without feeling the necessity to prove someone else is wrong.
By Sydney J. Harris (1917-1986)
Sunday, May 16, 2010
168 - I Believe - A Poem of Lessons for Life
I believe-
That we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I believe-
That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and, you must forgive them for that.
I believe-
That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.
I believe-
That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
I believe-
That it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I believe-
That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them
I believe-
That you can keep going long after you can't.
I believe-
That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I believe-
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I believe-
That regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
I believe-
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I believe-
That money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I believe-
That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time!
I believe-
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down, will be the ones to help you get back up.
I believe-
That sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I believe-
That just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
I believe-
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
I believe-
That it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I believe-
That no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I believe-
That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I believe-
That just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other, And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
I believe-
That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I believe-
That two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I believe-
That your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.
I believe-
That even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you - you will find the strength to help.
I believe-
That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I believe-
That the people you care about most in life are the essence of life. Tell them today how much you love them and what they mean to you.
That we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.
I believe-
That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and, you must forgive them for that.
I believe-
That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.
I believe-
That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.
I believe-
That it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.
I believe-
That you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them
I believe-
That you can keep going long after you can't.
I believe-
That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.
I believe-
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.
I believe-
That regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.
I believe-
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.
I believe-
That money is a lousy way of keeping score.
I believe-
That my best friend and I can do anything or nothing and have the best time!
I believe-
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down, will be the ones to help you get back up.
I believe-
That sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.
I believe-
That just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have.
I believe-
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had and what you've learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.
I believe-
That it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I believe-
That no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.
I believe-
That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.
I believe-
That just because two people argue, it doesn't mean they don't love each other, And just because they don't argue, it doesn't mean they do.
I believe-
That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.
I believe-
That two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.
I believe-
That your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.
I believe-
That even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you - you will find the strength to help.
I believe-
That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.
I believe-
That the people you care about most in life are the essence of life. Tell them today how much you love them and what they mean to you.
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
167 - 分享 “告别娑婆”（小我 ego)
"。。。小我 (ego) 一直设法阻止您看清它的底细。。。最好的逃避之计，就是把它投射 (to project out) 到外面去。。。时候到了，现在是您主动向小我 (ego) 挑战的时候了。若要宽恕 (to forgive) 心里的一切，惟一的办法就是宽恕它投射于身外的一切。。。"
"。。。宽恕法则 - The Law of Forgiveness - 除非您学会宽恕眼前所见的每一事物，否则您永远不可能真正解脱 (true freedom)，證入自己纯洁无罪 (innocence/sinlessness) 的神圣本性。不宽恕，便无解脱之日。您们可能认为那些遁世避俗的人是些弱者，其实，他们大体的方向并没有错，只是还没抓到正确的出离办法而已。。。”
"。。。宽恕法则 - The Law of Forgiveness - 除非您学会宽恕眼前所见的每一事物，否则您永远不可能真正解脱 (true freedom)，證入自己纯洁无罪 (innocence/sinlessness) 的神圣本性。不宽恕，便无解脱之日。您们可能认为那些遁世避俗的人是些弱者，其实，他们大体的方向并没有错，只是还没抓到正确的出离办法而已。。。”
166 - ACIM summary
A Course in Miracles - ACIM (May 7, 2010)
PURPOSE
1. To remember who I am i.e. my true identity/Spirit Self
2. To reverse my thought system i.e. from fear, separation & weakness to Love, Unity & Strength
Two selves
1. Body/ego (form)
2. Spirit (formless)
Body/ego (Form)
• Fear
• Separation
• Weakness/frailty
• Limit (birth & death)
• Changing/changeable/mortal
• Time & space
• See yourself as fragment, come with fear
Spirit (Formless)
• Love
• Unity (join-up)
• Strength
• Unlimited/no beginning no end/all encompassing
• No time no space
• Unchanging, unchangeable, eternity (immortality)
Right-Mind (Whole Mind) Vs Sick-Mind (Deluded-Mind)
• Holy Spirit Vs Body/ego
• Love, Unity & Strength Vs Fear, separation & weakness
• Connected to God Vs Separated from God
• God’s Will Vs Opposing will
• Vision Vs Physical eye sight
• Seeing thro’ Love, Unity & Strength Vs Seeing thro’ fear, separation & weakness
• Seeing thro’ Spirit Eye Vs Seeing thro’ body’s eye
• Light Vs Darkness
• Peace Vs War, conflict
• Forgiveness Vs Unforgiving, sin, anger, grudge, judgment
• Reality Vs Unreal, illusion, dream
• Life Vs Death
• Happy dream (forgive the fearful world) Vs Nightmare (create the fearful world)
Atonement = Healing the sick-mind, awakening, salvation, undoing, forgiving, correction of errors
Spirit ------ Right-mind ------ Vision
Body ------ Sick–mind ------- Physical sight
“Forgive the world, and you will understand that everything that God created cannot have an end, and nothing He did not create is real”
– ACIM (Manual for Teachers pg 52)
God’s Will – everything has been given to You (Spirit), You Are whole, complete, abundant
Ego’s will – bodies, separation, lack, scarcity, self-condemnation
“In order to heal, it thus becomes essential for the teacher of God to let all his own mistakes be corrected. If he senses even the faintest hint of irritation in himself as he responds to anyone, let him instantly realize that he has made an interpretation that is not true.”
– ACIM (Manual for Teachers pg 48)
PURPOSE
1. To remember who I am i.e. my true identity/Spirit Self
2. To reverse my thought system i.e. from fear, separation & weakness to Love, Unity & Strength
Two selves
1. Body/ego (form)
2. Spirit (formless)
Body/ego (Form)
• Fear
• Separation
• Weakness/frailty
• Limit (birth & death)
• Changing/changeable/mortal
• Time & space
• See yourself as fragment, come with fear
Spirit (Formless)
• Love
• Unity (join-up)
• Strength
• Unlimited/no beginning no end/all encompassing
• No time no space
• Unchanging, unchangeable, eternity (immortality)
Right-Mind (Whole Mind) Vs Sick-Mind (Deluded-Mind)
• Holy Spirit Vs Body/ego
• Love, Unity & Strength Vs Fear, separation & weakness
• Connected to God Vs Separated from God
• God’s Will Vs Opposing will
• Vision Vs Physical eye sight
• Seeing thro’ Love, Unity & Strength Vs Seeing thro’ fear, separation & weakness
• Seeing thro’ Spirit Eye Vs Seeing thro’ body’s eye
• Light Vs Darkness
• Peace Vs War, conflict
• Forgiveness Vs Unforgiving, sin, anger, grudge, judgment
• Reality Vs Unreal, illusion, dream
• Life Vs Death
• Happy dream (forgive the fearful world) Vs Nightmare (create the fearful world)
Atonement = Healing the sick-mind, awakening, salvation, undoing, forgiving, correction of errors
Spirit ------ Right-mind ------ Vision
Body ------ Sick–mind ------- Physical sight
“Forgive the world, and you will understand that everything that God created cannot have an end, and nothing He did not create is real”
– ACIM (Manual for Teachers pg 52)
God’s Will – everything has been given to You (Spirit), You Are whole, complete, abundant
Ego’s will – bodies, separation, lack, scarcity, self-condemnation
“In order to heal, it thus becomes essential for the teacher of God to let all his own mistakes be corrected. If he senses even the faintest hint of irritation in himself as he responds to anyone, let him instantly realize that he has made an interpretation that is not true.”
– ACIM (Manual for Teachers pg 48)
Sunday, May 9, 2010
165 - 若水：《奇蹟課程》談論的純是心靈的滄桑史，並非針對我們的理性而說的
"...只要耐下性子讀下去的人，都會為它的「一語道破」而拍案叫絕；讀到會心處，不禁反覆吟哦，甚至背誦下來。一旦讀懂了，便明白，唯有這種曲折的說法才足以襯托出人性的幽冥複雜，也正是這種古典詩體，使得這部經典如此耐讀。
然而，對於初入門的讀者，這層文字障可讓他們吃盡苦頭。不少知識份子想以自己的邏輯思考來梳理全書的含意，不久便迷失於它的三重否定或正反論證的文字叢林裡。因為《奇蹟課程》談論的純是心靈的滄桑史，並非針對我們的理性而說的。因此，只有「心」才可能聽得懂自己這一段「失樂園」的故事，也只有「心」才需要學習寬恕自己而重歸完整。
這一套「唯心」的修持理念，在眼見為憑的現實社會裡，難免會遭人誤解，以為寬恕不過是「原諒別人所做的對不起自己的事情」而已。其實《奇蹟課程》的寬恕，指的是一種足以透視人生假象的慧見，而非某種倫理行為的規範。它要傳給世人的，是一種新的「眼光」；唯有培養出這種慧眼，人們才可能學會為自己的際遇負起責任來。
讀者若不了解「寬恕」背後的那一套思想體系，常會被書中驚世駭俗的言論震懾住，而連聲抗議：「哪有這種說法的！」「我的問題豈是這幾句話就能解決的？」「奇蹟課程中文網站」便在這番反問之下應運而生了。
這些年來，我透過網站逐步為讀者介紹了《奇蹟課程》的來龍去脈，另闢「導讀」專欄，解析「寬恕」的形上理念與心理治療的功能。至於具體應用於日常生活的問題，則留待「答客問」（Q＆A）中，藉著讀者生活裡的疑難雜症，探討問題的癥結。此外，我還針對以佛教徒居多的華文讀者，把寬恕與佛法的修持做了一番連結，因為若要修「定」，不可能沒有寬恕的「前行」基礎。「寬恕」才是最好的「安心法門」。
《奇蹟課程》當初得以流行於西方，還得歸功於心理學界的推波助瀾，因此，我也簡略地介紹了《奇蹟課程》與心理治療結合的一些理念，它如何打破了心理學的瓶頸，將心理治療帶入靈性的領域。
近三年來，每一個月都試著為奇蹟網站撰寫四、五篇文章，也不知道究竟有無聽眾，好似夢中囈語一般，自說自話了幾年。去年，終於收到一位讀者的反應：「我每次都把你的文章打印出來，與朋友分享，東一張，西一張，零零落落的，好不煩人！你什麼時候才肯匯集成書啊？」一語驚醒夢中人，這些年來累積的舊文，確實讓奇蹟網站有不勝負荷的沈重。是清倉的時候了。
這一系列導讀的前身《點亮生命的奇蹟》便如此誕生了，它可說是我最初三年與各地華文讀者在網站上切磋激盪出來的結晶，主題上自然顯得繁雜，有述史、有花絮、有導讀、談心理、論佛學，還有零星的小品，讓此書顯得沉重了些...。"
然而，對於初入門的讀者，這層文字障可讓他們吃盡苦頭。不少知識份子想以自己的邏輯思考來梳理全書的含意，不久便迷失於它的三重否定或正反論證的文字叢林裡。因為《奇蹟課程》談論的純是心靈的滄桑史，並非針對我們的理性而說的。因此，只有「心」才可能聽得懂自己這一段「失樂園」的故事，也只有「心」才需要學習寬恕自己而重歸完整。
這一套「唯心」的修持理念，在眼見為憑的現實社會裡，難免會遭人誤解，以為寬恕不過是「原諒別人所做的對不起自己的事情」而已。其實《奇蹟課程》的寬恕，指的是一種足以透視人生假象的慧見，而非某種倫理行為的規範。它要傳給世人的，是一種新的「眼光」；唯有培養出這種慧眼，人們才可能學會為自己的際遇負起責任來。
讀者若不了解「寬恕」背後的那一套思想體系，常會被書中驚世駭俗的言論震懾住，而連聲抗議：「哪有這種說法的！」「我的問題豈是這幾句話就能解決的？」「奇蹟課程中文網站」便在這番反問之下應運而生了。
這些年來，我透過網站逐步為讀者介紹了《奇蹟課程》的來龍去脈，另闢「導讀」專欄，解析「寬恕」的形上理念與心理治療的功能。至於具體應用於日常生活的問題，則留待「答客問」（Q＆A）中，藉著讀者生活裡的疑難雜症，探討問題的癥結。此外，我還針對以佛教徒居多的華文讀者，把寬恕與佛法的修持做了一番連結，因為若要修「定」，不可能沒有寬恕的「前行」基礎。「寬恕」才是最好的「安心法門」。
《奇蹟課程》當初得以流行於西方，還得歸功於心理學界的推波助瀾，因此，我也簡略地介紹了《奇蹟課程》與心理治療結合的一些理念，它如何打破了心理學的瓶頸，將心理治療帶入靈性的領域。
近三年來，每一個月都試著為奇蹟網站撰寫四、五篇文章，也不知道究竟有無聽眾，好似夢中囈語一般，自說自話了幾年。去年，終於收到一位讀者的反應：「我每次都把你的文章打印出來，與朋友分享，東一張，西一張，零零落落的，好不煩人！你什麼時候才肯匯集成書啊？」一語驚醒夢中人，這些年來累積的舊文，確實讓奇蹟網站有不勝負荷的沈重。是清倉的時候了。
這一系列導讀的前身《點亮生命的奇蹟》便如此誕生了，它可說是我最初三年與各地華文讀者在網站上切磋激盪出來的結晶，主題上自然顯得繁雜，有述史、有花絮、有導讀、談心理、論佛學，還有零星的小品，讓此書顯得沉重了些...。"
Thursday, May 6, 2010
164 - ACIM workshop in Mandarin, May 29 & 30, 2010
人生中的自我否定、孤单、愤怒、恐惧、罪咎、失落、… 之苦，常令自己仰首问天：这是生命的本质吗？生命只能这样吗？
《奇迹课程》指出我们的这些遭遇都是自己错误的想法所带来的痛苦。它说：“首先，我们把自己是谁想错了，难怪找不到幸福。其次，我们生活的方向走错了，难怪愈活愈苦。”其实，许多人事物都是我们凭着过去的经验套上去的，然后认定它就是如此，才产生了种种情绪与烦恼。我们要快乐还是痛苦的关键就在于自己的想法与看法！
《奇迹课程》是普世性灵修课程之一，是部帮助我们从错误知见与恐惧中彻底解脱出来，然后回归到那和谐与圆满的自性境界。它宣扬生命的光明面，同时点出我们自我惩罚的阴暗念头；它强调生命是爱，同时也指出我们不了解爱也不懂去爱的实况；它推翻了我们视为天经地义的人生观，重新教我们以新的眼光去看世界，好让我们由人间苦难的梦魇中解脱出来。
《奇迹课程》虽是一部自修性的课程，只因它的理论架构博大精深，常让读者不得其门而入，故中文译者若水设计为三个阶段的‘奇迹课程研习’，来介绍这自成一家的思想体系：
第一阶段 理论基础班：介绍《奇迹课程》的理论基础，并与现实生活连结。
第二阶段 自我疗愈班：化解灵修道上的障碍，达到自我疗愈的功效。
第三阶段 静观冥想班：以冥想式引导，与内在的本有智慧连结。
此课程一向被视为近代最重要的灵修宝典之一，采取教育的形式，把生命的奥秘编成一套365课的课程，透过逐日的练习，教人如何转化人间恩怨，在状似宿命的人生中开创奇迹，领回上天早已恩赐的平安喜乐。
这整个课程的进行也不能缺少您的参与，因为我们彼此原是一体：因为彼此，我们找到回家的路。
日期： 2010年29/05-30/05 （兩天）
时间： 早上9:00~下午6:00
地点: Inner Peace Centre.
费用： RM 350 (會員)；RM 450（非會員）
带领人: 张春源
活动方式 : DVD授课，小组讨论分享、体验性活动
电话 : 03-79811884; 017- 2794793 (清团); 017-6805720（春源）
《奇迹课程》指出我们的这些遭遇都是自己错误的想法所带来的痛苦。它说：“首先，我们把自己是谁想错了，难怪找不到幸福。其次，我们生活的方向走错了，难怪愈活愈苦。”其实，许多人事物都是我们凭着过去的经验套上去的，然后认定它就是如此，才产生了种种情绪与烦恼。我们要快乐还是痛苦的关键就在于自己的想法与看法！
《奇迹课程》是普世性灵修课程之一，是部帮助我们从错误知见与恐惧中彻底解脱出来，然后回归到那和谐与圆满的自性境界。它宣扬生命的光明面，同时点出我们自我惩罚的阴暗念头；它强调生命是爱，同时也指出我们不了解爱也不懂去爱的实况；它推翻了我们视为天经地义的人生观，重新教我们以新的眼光去看世界，好让我们由人间苦难的梦魇中解脱出来。
《奇迹课程》虽是一部自修性的课程，只因它的理论架构博大精深，常让读者不得其门而入，故中文译者若水设计为三个阶段的‘奇迹课程研习’，来介绍这自成一家的思想体系：
第一阶段 理论基础班：介绍《奇迹课程》的理论基础，并与现实生活连结。
第二阶段 自我疗愈班：化解灵修道上的障碍，达到自我疗愈的功效。
第三阶段 静观冥想班：以冥想式引导，与内在的本有智慧连结。
此课程一向被视为近代最重要的灵修宝典之一，采取教育的形式，把生命的奥秘编成一套365课的课程，透过逐日的练习，教人如何转化人间恩怨，在状似宿命的人生中开创奇迹，领回上天早已恩赐的平安喜乐。
这整个课程的进行也不能缺少您的参与，因为我们彼此原是一体：因为彼此，我们找到回家的路。
日期： 2010年29/05-30/05 （兩天）
时间： 早上9:00~下午6:00
地点: Inner Peace Centre.
费用： RM 350 (會員)；RM 450（非會員）
带领人: 张春源
活动方式 : DVD授课，小组讨论分享、体验性活动
电话 : 03-79811884; 017- 2794793 (清团); 017-6805720（春源）
163 - vegetarian food 执着素菜
谢谢您志鸿，您们好。
这婚宴没另安排素菜。
以我的想法，只要您们不执着素菜，这是绝对方便的！您们可否考虑入乡随俗？
其实我们生命灵修过程的最大考验就是我们时时刻刻能否完全放下心中任何的执着与观念！若不能放下或越修越执着，那么我们必须问自己这种灵修的意义又何在呢？
伟大的灵修者（包括佛陀）是绝对不会执着任何生活习惯，食物，人物，事物，观念等等! 这就是开悟之道！
我也时常问自己，为何我还执着某些观念呢？这几年来我已放下很多很多生活与观念的包袱，感觉非常轻松。。
可能这婚宴事件是帮助大家提升智慧与悟性的良机呢！哈哈哈。。
祝福您们平安喜悦。
业成 George
--- On Thu, 6/5/10, Lee Chee Foong wrote:
From: Lee Chee Foong
Subject: RE: 谢谢您的分享:（放一座大海在心中）
To: mbblys@yahoo.com.sg
Date: Thursday, 6 May, 2010, 1:00 AM
我和内人先恭喜您大师兄，也谢谢您的盛意邀请，只是我们俩都是素食者，不知会方便吗？ ~志鸿
Date: Tue, 4 May 2010 03:59:32 +0800
From: mbblys@yahoo.com.sg
Subject: 谢谢您的分享： （放一座大海在心中）
To: foong74@hotmail.com
非常感谢您的分享志鸿。 愿您心灵平安。
诚恳邀请您与夫人于阳历July18, 2010（礼拜日）出席我儿子结婚晚宴。若能出席，请通知您的地址，以便寄上请帖。（我也邀请温善平与夫人）。谢谢您。业成。
这婚宴没另安排素菜。
以我的想法，只要您们不执着素菜，这是绝对方便的！您们可否考虑入乡随俗？
其实我们生命灵修过程的最大考验就是我们时时刻刻能否完全放下心中任何的执着与观念！若不能放下或越修越执着，那么我们必须问自己这种灵修的意义又何在呢？
伟大的灵修者（包括佛陀）是绝对不会执着任何生活习惯，食物，人物，事物，观念等等! 这就是开悟之道！
我也时常问自己，为何我还执着某些观念呢？这几年来我已放下很多很多生活与观念的包袱，感觉非常轻松。。
可能这婚宴事件是帮助大家提升智慧与悟性的良机呢！哈哈哈。。
祝福您们平安喜悦。
业成 George
--- On Thu, 6/5/10, Lee Chee Foong
From: Lee Chee Foong
Subject: RE: 谢谢您的分享:（放一座大海在心中）
To: mbblys@yahoo.com.sg
Date: Thursday, 6 May, 2010, 1:00 AM
我和内人先恭喜您大师兄，也谢谢您的盛意邀请，只是我们俩都是素食者，不知会方便吗？ ~志鸿
Date: Tue, 4 May 2010 03:59:32 +0800
From: mbblys@yahoo.com.sg
Subject: 谢谢您的分享： （放一座大海在心中）
To: foong74@hotmail.com
非常感谢您的分享志鸿。 愿您心灵平安。
诚恳邀请您与夫人于阳历July18, 2010（礼拜日）出席我儿子结婚晚宴。若能出席，请通知您的地址，以便寄上请帖。（我也邀请温善平与夫人）。谢谢您。业成。
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